Do you have Unconditional Love for Family & Friends

Lara

Lara

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I have 4 grown children. I love them all unconditionally...or do I?
Three are easy to love. The oldest, is practically impossible but I'm hanging in there. I believe we should love unconditionally. We don't have to like what they do but love them, forgive them, pray for them, yes. And we don't have to be around them...it's best not.
 

I did when I was too young and stupid to understand what was happening. That changed as I got older and finally realized I was being abused and mistreated. I no longer have my father and brother in my life.

My brother hadn't spoken to me in years and my father was being so awful that I finally broke one night and I cut off all communication with them both permanently. My whole family ghosted me so I really don't care anymore.
 

I'm so sorry that happened to you Fritz i agree with Babs, sounds like what you did was best. But while you are cut off from all communication with them, you can still pray (or have hope) that their hearts soften which may change both of them even though it seems impossible. It might take awhile but it's possible when the time is perfect.

Don't give up. Life has a way of making miraculous changes in all of us from time to time.
We're all still growing and learning until we are gone.
 
Lara said:
I'm so sorry that happened to you Fritz i agree with Babs, sounds like what you did was best. But while you are cut off from all communication with them, you can still pray (or have hope) that their hearts soften which may change both of them even though it seems impossible. It might take awhile but it's possible when the time is perfect.

Don't give up. Life has a way of making miraculous changes in all of us from time to time.
We're all still growing and learning until we are gone.
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I can pray for them but after nearly 60 yrs I've run out of hope for change. Father is headed to his deathbed and refuses to change his ways.
 
I don’t have a family, except for 1 niece. I don’t think she would ever do anything that would test my resolve, but most likely I would forgive her, so I guess you could say that I do love her unconditionally.
 
A counselor once told me that the only two avenues I had for unconditional love was my mother or God. God is the only one left for me. Which is fine. You love someone because........................................You love them. Even to question this is to introduce conditions. Think about it!
Will they understand.....condition! Will they appreciate.....condition! will they reciprocate........condition!
unconditional love is just....................................................unconditional.
 
I can't imagine ever not loving my children, for any reason. And I know I love my husband unconditionally. That man could shank an infant and I would still love him.
 
The meaning of the term "Unconditional Love", is not some black and white phenomenon, but rather is relative. In other words, ...It Depends". Thus, someone might have a tiny amount of love still left say for a distant person one once had affections for but decades later, barely any remaining after degenerative deterioration over time. Or a person's modest love for another person may become negatively affected by actions of another, resulting in dislike. The intensity of say love, can readily be inverted into hate, especially if one has been lied to, played for a fool. And that too may just be either absolute or to a limited degree, and forgiven.
 
Yes, I've been learning over the years to love unconditionally but I also had to learn to give tough love with it, in one form or another. Along with the lessons in growth, I had to learn that some personalities are best loved from afar, and that that's not my fault. Before all of that though, I had to begin to learn how to truly love myself.
 

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