Do you like to feel equal to others?

grahamg

grahamg

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I hope we can maintain our focus on just our own feelings here, (maybe skirting into social policy), but do you wake up each day telling yourself you are "equal", or maybe "special" instead?

It could be another deep and meaningful thread, or as light and fluffy as you like(?). :cool::whistle: .

I'm not sure how I'd answer the question myself, but as we're all unique, it would be wrong to think you're special once in a while would it(?). Also, being "the same as everyone else", never really appeals to me! :unsure: .
 

I think that there are a lot of ways to "slice" a question like this. Without giving it much thought, my immediate reaction was to ask myself if there was anyone else that I would like to be. After a few minutes of reflection, my answer is no. I am content with the person I am, and the person I aspire to be.

I may well have another answer by tomorrow, but for now I'll just take my own uniqueness, good or bad, and run with it.
 
My mother was always lecturing us: "You're as good as everyone else," and "Even the President puts his pants on one leg at a time." She talked so much it was just background noise, Radio Ma in my head.
 

I think it's possible to view another's ability to do something you can't and not feel equal. Then realize you can do something that other's haven't the ability to do. Short version in the grand scheme of life were all equal.
 
Having trouble answering this one since equal means the same. Do I want to be discriminated against, seen as inferior, shamed ...all the negative inequality things ...heck no. But at the same time, I love being in the presence of people who are superior to me in forms of expression, talents etc that uplift. But occasionally I'll envy someone else's gifts and that's not a good feeling.
 
I don't necessarily desire to be equal because that isn't always a good thing. I like being unique or special if that's what you wanna call it. I want to be me. I don't want to be like everyone else.

If I'm equal to everyone else that means there's no difference between me & let's say a co-worker for example. They may be in a management position but not be a very good person. I don't wanna be equal to that. I'll remain a peon whose nice to people before I'll try to be equal to others.
 
Well, I am a “special” person in a very “special” way. 😂. An example of my “specialness”. When the sheriff came out today, to check on the attic, as he was leaving I asked him would he like some fresh picked yellow squash.

I mean, come on, who else would do that? He said “you have squash already?” Yup. “I love squash. My squash is little, sure I want squash, let me get a bag out of my car”. He goes to his squad car, gets a plastic bag, and watches me pick 8 yellow squash for him.

8 gone a million to go 🤪
 
Great answers, and as I suggested in the OP, I'm struggling to decide for myself, how I would describe my feelings on the topic.

I do think this, so far as "uniqueness"goes, in life some people may try to take your place, and convince others they should take your place, because they're superior in some way, (the guy the missus ran off wi bein wun!).

However our ability to see ourselves as unique, or right to do so, may be important, beyond what anyone else says or thinks. For example in the way that "no matter how little we may bring to the table", no one else has experienced what we have, has the genes we have, (exception being identical twins perhaps?), and whatever faults we might have, we can proudly tell ourselves we are then only being equal in this regard.:cool::) !

So, being equal doesn't mean being the same, hence in a sense no one is equal, even when offered equal opportunities, as some have the ability to take them, and some don't, (or not so much anyway!?).

Now I've tied myself in knots I'll go away and try to decide if I've made any sense here(?). :unsure::(:rolleyes: .
 
grahamg said:
I hope we can maintain our focus on just our own feelings here, (maybe skirting into social policy), but do you wake up each day telling yourself you are "equal", or maybe "special" instead?

It could be another deep and meaningful thread, or as light and fluffy as you like(?). :cool::whistle: .

I'm not sure how I'd answer the question myself, but as we're all unique, it would be wrong to think you're special once in a while would it(?). Also, being "the same as everyone else", never really appeals to me! :unsure: .
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Speaking for myself, I've always been just me. As with any/all related to life, there are those who I feel I meld and match well with, and those who I couldn't give a hoot about, but all-in-all, I feel as equal as equal gets.

One thing about me, I've always been just me. Have never tried to be something I am not, and have never tried fitting in with others outside of my comfort zone/class. For that I am proud, because deep inside that tells me I'm not easily swayed or intimidated by others.

I find strength and confidence in being my own person, and how others accept me is strictly up to them. My adage has always been, "you can take me or leave me", and, "I am who I am and I'm not changing for no one".
 
Aunt Marg said:
Speaking for myself, I've always been just me. (Break)
I find strength and confidence in being my own person, and how others accept me is strictly up to them. My adage has always been, "you can take me or leave me", and, "I am who I am and I'm not changing for no one".
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I hope you like the Gloria Gaynor song, " I am what I am"(?). :unsure: .

Foolishly I used to try to belt it out, but being tone deaf, others ears were not "equal" to the task of listening without grimacing! :mad: .
 
I am such an insecure introvert that I rarely feel equal to anyone. Maybe to just a few very close friends and family do I feel equal but definitely not better than anyone else.
At my age I have no desire to feel equal or superior to anyone. I just want to feel comfortable and content with the few friends and family I have left.
 
Ruth n Jersey said:
I am such an insecure introvert that I rarely feel equal to anyone. Maybe to just a few very close friends and family do I feel equal but definitely not better than anyone else.
At my age I have no desire to feel equal or superior to anyone. I just want to feel comfortable and content with the few friends and family I have left.
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