Do You Make Friends Easily?

Gardenlover

Gardenlover

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Akin to the introvert/extrovert thread, but I didn’t want to derail it.

How many close friends do you have?

Is it important to make new friends as we age?

I don’t make new friends quickly, currently most are a bit younger than me. I think it’s important to have at least a couple close friends.
 

Same as Gary, I have a couple of extremely close, long standing friends, more like sisters, who I would trust with my life, a few others I enjoy spending time with

I can chat, laugh and get along with people but I’ve been betrayed too many times to trust them
 
My sister was always an extrovert and made friends easily when young. I was actually jealous of her because I'm an introvert and loner and have never had any ''close friends''. But, when she got older she had none and complained that it was hard to make friends when you get older. On the other hand, I've heard people call others friends that I would only call an acquaintance. One guy called a woman a ''friend'', and she was only a bank teller that he spoke to once a week when cashing his check, only because they chatted during the transaction.
 
Catlady said:
Care to tell us how or why you made the 180 degree turn?
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We were initial bitter foes on a poster sight, where all we did was make demotivational posters.
I miss the hell outa that place.
In the '90s several motivational posters sprung up here and there, in offices mostly
Like this one


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Well, that site did the counterpart

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It was rigorously competitive, and richly rewarding
And the mostly 20-30 somethings put up with this grizzled geezer

This veteran guy, and newbie I, became rabid antagonists
We got to making posters at each other
Everyone got a kick outa our little creative skirmishes
The competition became a bit fierce
Eventually we got bored with it all and joined forces, admiring each other's work
(He was a god at it...still is)
The site went belly up
We kept in touch
Nothing like daily or anything
Once a month, maybe
But good stuff
Always good stuff

Recently I sent him a birdhouse
He sent me an exquisite creation of his

He's exquisite at everything

....starting to feel resurrected hate well up


Maybe just one friend is enough
 
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I have a lot of friends including my adult children who are amongst my best friends, particularly my daughter. There are also a couple of very dear friends I’ve had all my adult life. We can go for months and not be in touch, then one or other of us will pick up the phone and it’s as if no time at all has passed. It’s always been that way.

Plus I have a dozen or more close friends, some through dance, some through work, some through my abuse recovery, one as a result of my son’s addiction recovery, plus numerous others that I would consider more acquaintances.

It’s so wonderful to be in touch with these folks through multiple sources....social media, groups or forum sites that we’re on or that I’ve created to stay in touch, weekly dance stuff, etc. Lots of outlets through which to cultivate and maintain these friendships.

My personal philosophy is that one can never have too many friends and so I’m always open to making new ones.
 
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My husband was my best friend, people warned me it was a bad idea that I should have some women friends, I had 2 when I lived in FL but since I moved away I’ve had no interest. I have a family of girls n we all get along n do a lot of things together so for now I’m happy with that! 😊
 
I do make friends easily more as I grew up and went to work. I always had a best friend at school and never went around in groups and was a one to oner.

Analysing myself I tend to be possessive with people I become friends with and get jealous if they take their attention away from me..a bit hard to explain but maybe a bit of inbuilt insecurity as I want to be foremost in the close friends hearts and resent if not being top of the list....lol.

I have very good friends harking back years and all over the UK. Joint friends me and my Hubby made over decades and still about now he had passed on and these I value alot.

Women friends Ive made online and we stick together despite moving on with forums.
I did have a bad experience in the 80's with a couple of work colleagues who I thought were friends and one turned out to be a snake in the grass, a viper I took to my bosom but that one got a very swift heave-ho and it toughened me up and now cautious who I befriend and who seeks my friendship. Got a few really good online buddies and we keep intouch in the ether and that's the great thing about the Net and some social media: it can broaden one's friendship arena providing care is taken.

I am great friends with my close family my two Sons and FIL's and three GC..Love em all to bits 💖
 
I don’t let anyone get too close. I keep a tight boundary fence around me. I like privacy and I like to be the one who does the contacting, not the other way around. This is one of the reasons why my wife calls me a snob. I really do not have any close friends. I consider a “close friend” as someone that I would share anything going on in my life with. Not so. I enjoy my privacy, but I already said that.

However, I am a friendly type of guy and I do enjoy talking with people and learning new things.
 
I have six "friends" who go back to first grade, when we were six. They are too busy to take time to respond to my emails and texts, usually. I organized a reunion when we hit fifty, and it was pure magic. When we get together, we have a good time, but those get togethers are very few, and far between. With friends like them.........

I have a good buddy who was my first guitarist, at twelve. We played in a popular band for three years, as kids. We see each other every so often, but we talk on the phone about once a month, or so.

My old high school buddy, college dorm mate, and roommate, later, is still a friend. We talk on the phone about three times a year.

I have business acquaintances whom I see, socially, infrequently.

An old band mate, in Austin, from forty years ago, is still a friend. We text a few times a year, and get together about three times a year.

I'm still friends with my first (physical) 'love." We text a few times a year, and Janet and I get together with her and her husband when we're in Dallas. She's a great gal, still hot.

I'm still friendly with both ex wives.

I do not have a single good friend from my later years. I do chat with my longtime neighbors, for the last thirty years. All in all, I'm fine not having close friends. My pattern, set from the time I was about twelve, is to have a close female friend, and then people I pal around with, infrequently. No problems.
 

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