Do you often lose your temper, (what annoys you?)?

jujube said:
These days, there is a lot that annoys me. My tolerance level for idiots is diminishing rapidly. I haven't shot anybody yet, so I'd say I'm dealing with it.
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That's a good reason to not carry a pistol. The temptation may be overwhelming to use deadly force, but you'd regret it afterwards. Going to prison because somebody screwed up your order isn't worth it. That's what online reviews are for.
 

I've mellowed over the years and seldom lose my temper or let an annoyance get to me. There are better uses for my mental state like love, empathy, patience, care, concern, helpfulness, etc. There are those time, though, where you have to work at it and I am not afraid to stand uip and/or get in someone's face.
 

I went to Walmart today (big mistake) to buy some Hydrocortisone. A Walmart worker was stocking the shelves right at the Hydrocortisone with Bro-Country music playing rather loudly from whatever device she had. I was trying to compare the ingredients of the generic brand vs. the name brand, but her music was so annoying that I gave up after a few seconds and threw the generic brand at the shelf and walked away.

What is wrong with people? She could have easily listened to her music with earbuds rather than blasting it, forcing everyone in her general vicinity to hear it. It's just a matter of having a bit of consideration for other people.

I have no tolerance for idiots.
 
Irwin said:
I went to Walmart today (big mistake) to buy some Hydrocortisone. A Walmart worker was stocking the shelves right at the Hydrocortisone with Bro-Country music playing rather loudly from whatever device she had. I was trying to compare the ingredients of the generic brand vs. the name brand, but her music was so annoying that I gave up after a few seconds and threw the generic brand at the shelf and walked away.
What is wrong with people? She could have easily listened to her music with earbuds rather than blasting it, forcing everyone in her general vicinity to hear it. It's just a matter of having a bit of consideration for other people. I have no tolerance for idiots.
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Do you think she had gained pleasure in knowing she behaved ignorantly towards a customer, (I suspect this is the case sometimes, though it could be unthinking behaviour?)?
If she had seen you dressed as in your avatar outfit she'd maybe have sharpened up her level of attentiveness and service! :)
 
Here is some research on the subject of tempers, (luckily mine doesn't reach the levels described here as a problem):

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"Everyone gets angry from time to time. But there's angry, and there's angry — wall-punching, object-throwing, call-the-police angry. The latter type of tantrum, if it's a recurrent problem, could be a symptom of a psychiatric condition currently known as intermittent explosive disorder, or IED. Though it has appeared in every edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), albeit under different names, IED remains a hazy sort of diagnosis to many both inside and outside psychiatry. But over the last 20 years, Emil F. Coccaro, MD, Chair and the E.C. Manning Professor of Psychiatry and Behavioral Neuroscience at the University of Chicago Medical Center, has built up a diverse body of research defining the causes, consequences, and best available treatments for IED.

Coccaro's research group is in the midst of a flurry of publications that break down IED from a number of angles: its familial nature, its association with other negative health outcomes, its correlation with brain activity. Coccaro was blunt about the history of the disorder, saying that some of the mystery surrounding the disease is due to early difficulties defining it."

https://www.uchicagomedicine.org/fo...med-to-explode-the-psychiatry-of-a-bad-temper
 
grahamg said:
Do you think she had gained pleasure in knowing she behaved ignorantly towards a customer, (I suspect this is the case sometimes, though it could be unthinking behaviour?)?
If she had seen you dressed as in your avatar outfit she'd maybe have sharpened up her level of attentiveness and service! :)
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Yeah, there's an idea! Where can I get a Rocketman outfit and laser gun? That would make going to Walmart much more pleasant. I could just zap anyone who annoyed me.

She didn't really behave ignorant towards me — just ignorant. She wasn't just some self-centered kid (as most kids are); she was probably in her 60s and should have developed a respect for other people by now. And it's not like there wasn't a simple solution. All she needed was some Bluetooth earbuds and everybody would have been happy. If she couldn't afford them, I would have bought her a pair.
 
The last 15 years of my career was quite confrontational. If I had allowed my temper to flare, it would have been a disaster. Found when in a terse argument with contractors, the calmer you remained, the more impact it made. I told the contractors if they ever heard me use a four-letter word, I had a $100 bill in my pocket that would be theirs. I never had to hand anyone the money! With the FU's, physical threats, etc. being thrown at me, it was a chess game. What it came down to what the fact I controlled the monthly pay requests. Shut down a contractor's $1 million pay voucher and it got their attention.
I play a lot of golf. I've never thrown a club. I've never screamed vulgarities when missing a short putt. In our 55 years of marriage, I've never cursed at my wife.
No! I am not a "saint"!!! It's just something I learned many years ago that temper tantrums don't accomplish anything. I have found much more success in the phrase... "Don't get mad. Get even!"
 
Patch said:
The last 15 years of my career was quite confrontational. If I had allowed my temper to flare, it would have been a disaster....Break... In our 55 years of marriage, I've never cursed at my wife.
No! I am not a "saint"!!! It's just something I learned many years ago that temper tantrums don't accomplish anything. I have found much more success in the phrase... "Don't get mad. Get even!"
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You've done very well controlling your temper and I had a very good boss once who used to try to tell me to "take the emotion out of your argument and your argument got stronger, or would have more impact".
However, friends of mine who suggest this is a good policy, "Dont get mad. Get even", haven't all had the most wonderful success so far as their relationships are concerned, other people perhaps "keeping them at arms length" (if you see what I mean), and it does hint at a measure of vindictiveness in someone's character doesn't it, (not that I believe that of your good self, nor of my good friend who uses that saying).
 
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grahamg said:
We all lose our tempers from time to time dont we, we wouldn't be human if we didn't.

However, having said that I used to have an uncle Percy who I never saw lose his temper, even when my aunt tried to upset his applecart, and he was known for being very placid, maybe because he'd suffered serious ill health as a young man, (or maybe because he was an intellectual with an engineering background/career, and needed to be analytical about everything in his job?).

Uncle Percy types aside, most of us do occasionally lose our cool, maybe when being treated like a child "by some idiot", (oops I'm doing it again!).

What rattles your cage, or are you another "saint"?
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I'm no saint but outrage is rare. I do get irritated often, however. The young person (more than likely a visitor to my country) with his/her muddy shoes on the seat across on buses and commuter trains and the bus driver who hard brakes and sends me into a centrifugal fright through the corner and round-about ... or the litterer.
 
Elsie said:
If an opposing comment on some issue, unimportant issue or otherwise, is said to me in a way that is rude/angrily said/as though I don't know what I'm talking about, I have an immediate hot temper spike BUT I keep hold of it, and explain the reason for my opposing opinion, until the whole back and forth disagreements start to bore the heck out of me and I find a way to change the subject. Arguing in anger, or physically fighting over non-serious issues I've found make me feel silly afterwards,--even when I think I'm right. :D
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I understand this very well.
 
Chet said:
When I was younger I was a bit of a hothead but not to the extreme. Once we had a relatively new neighbor across the street who got married. His wife moved in and decided she would park her car in my spot instead of in front of their house which had a smallish tree. She may have been trying to avoid tree sap falling on the car. I made a fuss and probably a loud one... I don't remember. I parked right up to her bumper and went inside still fuming. Not much later, the husband came across the street, and since my father was on the porch, they talked about the situation. I could hear through the open window, and instead of loud shouting, they spoke calmly and resolved the issue. From then on, the wife parked on her side.

That has stuck with me for the rest of my life and has become my "modus operande.

Addendum:
They became divorced later and she moved out, and oh how the single ladies in the neighborhood tried to console him.
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Did your dad happen to have a revolver in his pocket with the handgrip hanging out?
 
I used to lose my temper but not so much anymore. The years and reading self-help books helped. I do find I more likely now to be tempted to lose my temper when I am tired or already under stress..it's that "last straw' thing 😀
But not much gets to me any more...I have developed a great sense of humor and that helps
 
I admit there are some situations where one person might say something to you, or criticise you perhaps, and you'll take it because you know how genuine a person they are, and what a good friend they are, but the very same words coming out of the mouth of a guy who has tried your patience too often, and isn't in the least bit genuine and I react to their taunts, (some of these "so called mates" even kid themselves their genuine, though they're very far from that I'm afraid).

What do they say about "Life being too short", (for these kinds of hassles), and I guess it is too!! :)
 
Part of this thread is what annoys you. Well, if I yammered about all the things that annoy me, you would have this as one of your great annoyances. So, this is just my latest annoyance. In these medical & drug ads, the poor sufferer is next to death, and takes a pill, or rubs the wonder stuff on. AND in the next scene, he's hang gliding, riding a zip line through a tropical jungle, climbing super tall mountains, mounted on a white horse, as it races through the Hawaiian surf, and speed skiing down snowy slopes. BS.!!!! If you' re truly ill, you ain't doing none of that. You're happy just to be breathing, and out of pain. I'm on all kinds of pills, and I still don't have a white horse to ride , yet.
 
fuzzybuddy said:
Part of this thread is what annoys you. Well, if I yammered about all the things that annoy me, you would have this as one of your great annoyances. So, this is just my latest annoyance. In these medical & drug ads, the poor sufferer is next to death, and takes a pill, or rubs the wonder stuff on. AND in the next scene, he's hang gliding, riding a zip line through a tropical jungle, climbing super tall mountains, mounted on a white horse, as it races through the Hawaiian surf, and speed skiing down snowy slopes. BS.!!!! If you' re truly ill, you ain't doing none of that. You're happy just to be breathing, and out of pain. I'm on all kinds of pills, and I still don't have a white horse to ride , yet.
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I feel the same about these blasted "cartoon" adverts. You know what I mean ...... it illustrates by a close-up animated view of how a swivel-headed 27-blade razor cuts a single whisker (27 times!) on your chinny, chin-chin before it can snap back below the skin line. Golly! What more proof do you need?! I'd like to see a raise of hands of men who have ever shaved without needing at least two strokes of the razor to get it right .... and I don't give a crap how many blades are pressed into your razor. The same goes for all of those cartoon adverts: throat lozenges, sore muscle salve, shoe inserts, nasal spray, on and on and on. They really get my back up.
 
I never lose my temper - outwardly. I do get even sometimes - legally. Especially when someone tries to rip me off.
What annoys me most is reckless driving & stupid pedestrians. My reaction is just to quietly say, "A--hole."
 
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