Do you often lose your temper, (what annoys you?)?

grahamg said:
"Trying to be human along the way", that's important to us all isn't it(?)

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I listened to my favourite BBC radio show again last night, with Dotun Adebayo presenting, (aka "The Night watchman"), and he had a guest psychologist called Nicole on the programme speaking about narcissism, or rather the overuse of the word narcissism, was more her argument. The negative impact true narcissists have on those around them was something she felt those living with such a person may need professional assistances, in order to escape the constant undermining in self confidence they're being subjected to, by people who are without empathy, or the ability to think of others besides themselves.

I thought she was very clear in her explanations, and her views made sense to me, (sorry I can't remember her surname, or her views as precisely as I'd like). She talked quite a bit about the role she fulfills most of the time, that of dealing with people divorcing, and trying to mitigate the impact upon the child/children of the marriage, (good luck with that one!).

She said some obvious but I suppose profound things about the way our upbringing shapes us, and "you can't change at least that aspect", I think she said, or its in our subconscious anyway, though you can try to alter your own behaviour, where this isn't helping the situation you're in or your life, (referring to a famous couple much in our news right now, but will remain nameless here, for fear of taking the thread off topic).

She also said you could only attempt to change one or two behaviour patterns or habits at a time, as it takes effort and perseverance to do so, (such as anyone attempting to moderate their temper for example).

I liked the way she explained how some behaviours are wrongly described as OCD, such as women enjoying cleaning their houses get unfairly criticised for sometimes, though she said as in all things there is an issue of the degree to which things are taken, and if the woman starts to think something terrible is going to happen if they don't clean the house as thoroughly as normal, then there's a problem.

One stark fact she gave us was 87% of women in the UK are reported to be anxious about their appearance, and all this is being exacerbated by social media leading everyone to focus on such things too much.

"We're all essentially from a tribe, or our ancestors were", (and fitting in was obviously very important behaviour then for our survival, and our natures remain the same, hence the psychological pressure felt by women to conform in relation to body image etc.).
 
We are financially better off than our grandparents who suffered through the Great Depression yet so many lives are falling apart today. Too many angry people who don’t know why they’re angry. It’s very scary.
 

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