Do you truly enjoy life these days?

I enjoy my life very much now.

I feel much of my life was spent trying to stop things from spinning out of control, or repairing the damage caused when things did go wrong. When life is like that you forget how to enjoy the good moments.

Now my life is my own, very little outside influence. Being relaxed is just the greatest feeling ever.
 

chic said:
I do enjoy life. There's always something to be positive about. I'm grateful for what I have and optimistic about the future. There's always so much to do. My favorite ages were in my teens and twenties because I had limitless energy but I'm doing well for someone my age and if an obstacle presents itself I try to find ways around it or through it. I never give up which helps me to love life because life is a learning experience and a challenge.
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as my post above.. I think our lives as seniors depends not only our genral health.. but on the availability of activities.. if like you and @horseless carriage you have plenty to do or see.. life is still going to be great... but if like me and others who live far away from things.. then not. so much
 
In response to yours addressed to Avon …

My older brother was like that he barely made it to 60, he was so bored.

I’m very happy about many things that have nothing to do with sex. It pays to diversify one’s investments in joy.
 
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It takes some effort but it's worth it. My family is down to two nieces in distant states. I have lost my best local friend and haven't been able to contact my oldest NY friend for 2 months. The last time this happened (in July) I found the answer by Googling obituaries.

A neighbor from the civic association invited me to a party this afternoon. I am delighted to be included and will go.

Keeping up with repairs takes some juggling. I had to have 2 giant pine trees cut down on Thursday. That ($2,100.) was not in the budget.

Reading and creating keeps me somewhat sane.
 
Wish I could write something positive but I can't.
I am in an uneasy state of mind.
I will soon need to move from where I am. Apartment building complications
At my grand old age of 90 I have reached a crossroads.
Which way to go
What to do? what to do?
Health, money, family..... all factors in the decision.

Ah well, as the old song says.."Something's Gotta Give"
 
My wife and I are in our 70's. Both in good health with no limitations, thank God! Both of us have lost our parents and other family members, e.g., brothers and sisters. We have three kids, six grandkids and so far, 1 great grandchild! Life is good, we can do whatever we want, whenever we want. We are best friends and still romantically involved with each other. We both do not take any of this for granted knowing that these conditions will not last forever.

Bottom line we are very happy and enjoy each day we have together.
 
Mizmo said:
Wish I could write something positive but I can't.
I am in an uneasy state of mind.
I will soon need to move from where I am. Apartment building complications
At my grand old age of 90 I have reached a crossroads.
Which way to go
What to do? what to do?
Health, money, family..... all factors in the decision.

Ah well, as the old song says.."Something's Gotta Give"
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Oooh no... what's happened...I thought you were just having some repairs done to your balcony... good grief, I undersratnd how you must be feeling very anxious.. Moving suddenly at 90.. having to find somewhere to live .. do you have family and friends who can come and help with any move ?.. or even help find you a place ?
 
hollydolly said:
Oooh no... what's happened...I thought you were just having some repairs done to your balcony... good grief, I undersratnd how you must be feeling very anxious.. Moving suddenly at 90.. having to find somewhere to live .. do you have family and friends who can come and help with any move ?.. or even help find you a place ?
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The move is necessary for other things. Off topic for this thread. I have appt on Friday so will be able, hopefully, to wrap things up on daily thread "What are we doing today'
 
hollydolly said:
My life is very complicated currently..not something I expected to happpen at this time in my life... hopefully one day I'll be out the other side.. and life can become more enjoyable once again..
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I would post a crying emoji is I knew how. I know you have been broken hearted over what has happened. Please do not take these things to heart. He has done this because he was not happy with his own self. That should not reflect on you, it his silly need to feel he is more than he is currently.

We all learn or accept what it means to age. He can't do that so he has chosen to go off the rails just to feel better about himself. His need to build himself up should not make you feel less.

Remember who you are, strong, beautiful, confident. I wish I had all those qualities. I truly admire the woman that can work thru the pain, still have a great life. Don't let him make you think that you deserve anything but the best!
 
Blessed said:
I would post a crying emoji is I knew how. I know you have been broken hearted over what has happened. Please do not take these things to heart. He has done this because he was not happy with his own self. That should not reflect on you, it his silly need to feel he is more than he is currently.

We all learn or accept what it means to age. He can't do that so he has chosen to go off the rails just to feel better about himself. His need to build himself up should not make you feel less.

Remember who you are, strong, beautiful, confident. I wish I had all those qualities. I truly admire the woman that can work thru the pain, still have a great life. Don't let him make you think that you deserve anything but the best!
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thanks Blessed, that's very kind... If only it were that simple.. unfortunately it's not....not for me anyway.. :(
 
No, I am happy, I have lost so many family members and friends. Death has certainly removed the things I loved so much.

There are no more family reunions. There are no more gatherings to celebrate birthdays. From 15 on, the place to be was with the Inlaws. We spent most ever Sunday at their house. Cook outs, swimming, meeting new people, everyone was welcome. In the winter, is was football, watching the games. For a few of us it was the time of reading a good book in the middle of the chaos.

These are things we can't recapture, the main players have left us and so we struggle to find a new purpose, a new life without them. For me, that is not possible, everyone has gone. So we struggle on, the best way we can but it truly is despair, one of those things that you can't let go of the past and find something to fill that great big hole in your life.
 
Yes, I completely enjoy life these days. I haven't had any real stress in my life nor the need to answer to anyone else since I retired over 2 years ago. I also don't miss social situations that stressed me out as an introvert and having to pretend to like people that were total jerks just to earn their business. My only stressful time was when my mother suffered for a month and passed away in November 2021.

I have my partner, my friends, my in-laws and 2 cats who love me. I pre-plan every day of the week, whether it be gym time, grocery shopping, walking around the mall or lake or seeing a movie. Having structure in my life keeps me happy.

We also attend concerts, plays and we travel occasionally. We saw Pat Benatar last Saturday, and Duran Duran and Depeche Mode earlier this year. Music lifts my spirits. We haven't taken any major trips this year, but we are heading to Canada and New England next week and to Spain and Italy in late-October. I'm 65 and in good health and I want to do as much as possible while I am able. I'm realistic enough to know there will come a day when I can no longer enjoy these things.
 
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