Does anyone else mourn the demise of thank you notes?

KSav said:
Wow. I'm not sure how I would have managed my (former) spouse's and kids' birthdays, for example. Not that I ever expected a thank you note from one of them.
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The idea is that the gift is not expected. On birthdays, it is expected, so they get what they expect. But I don't see that as a gift. It's the ones that are not expected which touches anybodies heart, and that 'touch' is the real gift.
 

My parents especially my mom always told me, my sister&brother to write thank you notes for every gift we received. It was the right thing to do
I still like to write thank you notes depending on who I'm sending it to. I try not to send an email
 
My wife’s nephew got married last October and she decided to give the couple $2500 as a wedding gift to be used towards the purchase of their condo. We never received a thank you card, phone call or even a text thanking us for the gift.

My wife told her sister, the son’s mom, to tell her son not to ever expect another dime from her. She said other guests have also expressed their shock at not receiving a thank you note.

My wife said if she gets a note now, it will only be because his mom told him what others have said to her. She said he’s too late and the thank you note will be returned.
 

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I think if the "thank you" is going to be text these days, our presents should be text, too.

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To KSav
I don't think you are curmudgeon at all. A thank you card should be the standard for at least certain kinds of gifts.

I learned a lesson these past few months with several grad parties I was invited to. Only one thank you card. I don't believe I will go to any more of these parties. These kids don't really know me and don't really care to. At a couple of these I didn't even see the grad. They were too busy with their friends.

Hmmm, maybe no more parties and no more gift cards?
 
I still get thank you notes although not recently as I do less now. Uusually a shop bought card (with a hand written personal message) - or sometimes a short hand written note, even with a small gift. Makes me feel embarrassed, but will admit it feels nice to be thanked.

When my daughter married she made some beautiful thank you cards - the front picture being of them taking their vows. They did a good hundred - must have taken for ever. And if mine was anything to go by, she named the gift they received rather than just a 'thank you'.

I've still got a copy of her first thank you note (in a 5yr old kids childish writing:giggle:) thanking those that attended her 5th (and first) party.
I brung her up well ;)
 
Uptosnuff said:
To KSav
I don't think you are curmudgeon at all. A thank you card should be the standard for at least certain kinds of gifts.

I learned a lesson these past few months with several grad parties I was invited to. Only one thank you card. I don't believe I will go to any more of these parties. These kids don't really know me and don't really care to. At a couple of these I didn't even see the grad. They were too busy with their friends.

Hmmm, maybe no more parties and no more gift cards?
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@Uptosnuff, that reminds me of a couple who sent invites for graduations/weddings for their kids & when we sent gifts, not one card from any of them. This is from kids that we knew for years. Then when we sent a graduation announcement for our kids & nothing was heard from them. 🦗🦗🦗

As soon as their kids were expecting & the baby shower invites went out. Needless to say, nothing was sent.
 
Pepper said:
I 'thank you' texts. Is that ok?
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I certainly think so - any form of acknowledgement - text, message on Facebook, phone call, etc

Expecting an actual physical thank you card seems unrealistic to me - when that is not the form of communications most people do now

by same token, sending a physical birthday/Xmas card etc is pretty well gone too - but I am happy if people text me, message me on FB etc
 

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