Does it bother you when people don't like you?

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Sure. Like most people, I would like to be appreciated by everyone. It also depends upon the person.

I have a neighbor who doesn't like me and lets me know it. Every time. If I run into him and try to say hello or make polite chit chat he doesn't even look me in the eye but mumbles something kind of surly. Next time I run into him I'm going to give him a dose of his own medicine. It's sort of a mean thing to do and I shouldn't but I must.

The devil is making me do it.
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chic said:
Sure. Like most people, I would like to be appreciated by everyone. It also depends upon the person.

I have a neighbor who doesn't like me and lets me know it. Every time. If I run into him and try to say hello or make polite chit chat he doesn't even look me in the eye but mumbles something kind of surly. Next time I run into him I'm going to give him a dose of his own medicine. It's sort of a mean thing to do and I shouldn't but I must.

The devil is making me do it.
:p
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Are you sure he doesn't act that way towards everybody? Maybe he has health problems.
 

chic said:
Sure. Like most people, I would like to be appreciated by everyone. It also depends upon the person.

I have a neighbor who doesn't like me and lets me know it. Every time. If I run into him and try to say hello or make polite chit chat he doesn't even look me in the eye but mumbles something kind of surly. Next time I run into him I'm going to give him a dose of his own medicine. It's sort of a mean thing to do and I shouldn't but I must.

The devil is making me do it.
:p
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Yes...so much so that I tend to lose sleep because of it...interrogate self then mutter off that it is that person's loss. So there...works for me rather than waste any more sleep time.
 
It's only Life @chic ...why even worry about it?
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Yeah it's always bothered me and always will. I think that the advice to shrug it off and not worry about it, it's their loss, etc. is perfectly good advice. Unfortunately, it just doesn't work for some of us; we want to be liked, we always have and we always will but sometimes there's not another darn thing you can try so all you can do is get used to being lonely most of the time.
 
Remy said:
Guy sounds like a jerk. There might be something about you that intimidates him maybe? So this is his reaction.

I don't expect to be liked, so I'm OK with that but being harassed is another thing altogether.
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That's it!!!! Thanks so much for mentioning it. It's not just that he doesn't like ME, there's something insidious about it. His dislike is kind of palpable.
 
chic said:
Sure. Like most people, I would like to be appreciated by everyone. It also depends upon the person.

I have a neighbor who doesn't like me and lets me know it. Every time. If I run into him and try to say hello or make polite chit chat he doesn't even look me in the eye but mumbles something kind of surly. Next time I run into him I'm going to give him a dose of his own medicine. It's sort of a mean thing to do and I shouldn't but I must.

The devil is making me do it.
:p
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I can’t stand it when somebody doesn’t like me. Since the man is your neighbor, go out of your way to speak to him. Surprise him
with baked cookies and such. I think he will eventually come around.
 
No. I worked with the public for so long that one important thing I learned was that we all don't think on the same wave length. We are not supposed to like everyone. It's just not in our nature as human beings. We don't all like the same food or have the same favorite color. Why do we have to like everyone or be liked by every single person? Perhaps it's these differences that makes life interesting.

If someone doesn't like me, I just treat them with the same respect and kindness as I treat those who like me.
 
What really bothers me is when I have been friends or at least friendly with people and all of a sudden that changes and they don't want anything to do with me. Hubby and I were friends with the owners of a local winery. Did things together, were very friendly. Something happened, apparently, and now even when we go to the winery they are very remote.

That kind of thing bothers me more than someone not liking me right off the bat.
 
Uptosnuff said:
What really bothers me is when I have been friends or at least friendly with people and all of a sudden that changes and they don't want anything to do with me. Hubby and I were friends with the owners of a local winery. Did things together, were very friendly. Something happened, apparently, and now even when we go to the winery they are very remote.

That kind of thing bothers me more than someone not liking me right off the bat.
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Yea, just makes me want to shake em and ask what’s wrong.
 
Uptosnuff said:
What really bothers me is when I have been friends or at least friendly with people and all of a sudden that changes and they don't want anything to do with me. Hubby and I were friends with the owners of a local winery. Did things together, were very friendly. Something happened, apparently, and now even when we go to the winery they are very remote.

That kind of thing bothers me more than someone not liking me right off the bat.
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That would bother me, too. When friends do that I feel like I deserve to know why. And I don't understand why the person doesn't just tell me. I hate sitting up at night making guesses.
 
Whether someone likes me or not isn't something I give much thought to. I try to treat people with respect and consideration but not at the expense of compromising my beliefs, understanding and behavior. If that doesn't work for them, then it's their issue and not mine.. Also, I do not automatically dislike someone who dislikes me. This is to say it doesn't bother me if someone doesn't like me. There have been cases where I felt honored not to be liked by someone.
 
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