Don't Let What Anyone Says Define You

[Ruthanne]

I was just thinking back to when I was a lot more active in life. Going back maybe 25 years or so-I had goals that others said I wouldn't make if I did this or that. Well, I didn't listen to them and accomplished a lot. I got my education and persevered in doing quite a lot of good things despite it all. I proved them wrong but mostly I did not focus on them and their opposition. I lived my life the best I could and did well.

Others will always offer opposition to us that could be defeating. But we can always win and do what we need to do and be happy with ourselves. I am going to pick up that attitude again at this stage of my life! I can do the things I set my mind to! I can live well and long!!

So now I'll get off my soap box and go live!



On a side note: Many, many years ago I was called terrible names and treated horribly. Thank God I know these things not to be true or fair.

 

[Aunt Bea]

I think many young people experience that and get a chance to define themselves when they leave home to go to school, join the military, get a job in a new location, etc...

It's funny how different people in different phases of our life see us and judge us without really knowing who we are or what we've been through.

 

[hollydolly]

I think many young people experience that and get a chance to define themselves when they leave home to go to school, join the military, get a job in a new location, etc...

It's funny how different people in different phases of our life see us and judge us without really knowing who we are or what we've been through.

Couldn't agree more

 

[Ruthanne]

I think many young people experience that and get a chance to define themselves when they leave home to go to school, join the military, get a job in a new location, etc...

It's funny how different people in different phases of our life see us and judge us without really knowing who we are or what we've been through.

Yes, and when I went to college I was middle age and was struggling with an identity yet. It makes it hard but not listening to some things can do us well. People will always judge..it may be a human thing but they do it. Thank you Bea.

 

[Gardenlover]

There are a lot of dream crushers out there, some even mean well.

I had a poster when I was much younger, that said "If you can't win the race, make the one ahead of you break the record." It stuck with me to some extent.

 

[Pecos]

I had to tell a lot of people to "piss off" along my path.

 

[Ruthanne]

I had to tell a lot of people to "piss off" along my path.

LOL. Yes, I have too!

 

[Keesha]

I had to tell a lot of people to "piss off" along my path.

Ditto..... just different words.

 

[Ruthanne]

Ditto..... just different words.

 

[Pepper]

Nobody ever stood in my way. I had many people wanting me to do well. I stood in my own way.

 

[Ruthanne]

Nobody ever stood in my way. I had many people wanting me to do well. I stood in my own way.

Too bad.

 

[Pepper]

Too bad.

Just as I don't blame others I must learn to not blame myself. Never did anything too terrible but I didn't live to my potential. I did other stuff instead.

 

[Ruthanne]

Just as I don't blame others I must learn to not blame myself. Never did anything too terrible but I didn't live to my potential. I did other stuff instead.

I never blamed others either. Just ignored them and the bad things didn't happen that they said would either. I had Faith in myself to do well

Your potential isn't over with..as long as you are alive and relatively well

 

[Lakeland living]

My life is mine, many have tried to change that....briefly LOL

 

[Ladybj]

Either you like it, love it or hate it... Just respect it. Either way, I will keep it moving. I have not lived 60 years in vain and won't live the rest in vain either. I am learning to live a SELF FULL LIFE. Not selfish.. but SELF FULL. That's part of living FREE!!!

 

[Gary O']

Just as I don't blame others I must learn to not blame myself. Never did anything too terrible but I didn't live to my potential. I did other stuff instead.

Fun, wasn't it

I've done 'other stuff' most my life
only regret......the part I didn't

 

[Gary O']

Don't Let What Anyone Says Define You

Have yet to

Doubt, at this juncture, I ever will

They ain't me

 

[Ladybj]

Fun, wasn't it

I've done 'other stuff' most my life
only regret......the part I didn't

@Gary O' as you stated in another post.. The day is not over You can still do the part you did not do.

 

[Gary O']

You can still do the part you did not do.

Oh, I'm doin' the 'other stuff', you bet

 

[Ladybj]

Oh. I'm doin' the 'other stuff', you bet

Ha Ha Ha... It would not be you if you didn't. I am to Gary O'.

 

[fuzzybuddy]

I agree with Pepper. The only person standing in my way, and defining me, was me. When you think of all the advantages of coming from a rich nation, White, & male, I only have me to blame for the condition I find myself. But I'm happy with me as a person.

 

[MarciKS]

I was just thinking back to when I was a lot more active in life. Going back maybe 25 years or so-I had goals that others said I wouldn't make if I did this or that. Well, I didn't listen to them and accomplished a lot. I got my education and persevered in doing quite a lot of good things despite it all. I proved them wrong but mostly I did not focus on them and their opposition. I lived my life the best I could and did well.

Others will always offer opposition to us that could be defeating. But we can always win and do what we need to do and be happy with ourselves. I am going to pick up that attitude again at this stage of my life! I can do the things I set my mind to! I can live well and long!!

So now I'll get off my soap box and go live!

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On a side note: Many, many years ago I was called terrible names and treated horribly. Thank God I know these things not to be true or fair.

I've spent my whole life being verbally assaulted over just about everything. I often get made to feel that I can't say or do anything right. I get called names & verbally attacked rather regularly. I'm old enough now that it's starting to p*** me off & I'm becoming quite intolerant of it.

At what age are we allowed to stop taking it & finally allowed to speak up for ourselves? "Enough is enough. You don't like it then shove off."

 

[Lewkat]

I've redefined myself several times over. Here I am and I'm OK.

 

[Pepper]

I've spent my whole life being verbally assaulted over just about everything. I often get made to feel that I can't say or do anything right. I get called names & verbally attacked rather regularly. I'm old enough now that it's starting to p*** me off & I'm becoming quite intolerant of it.

At what age are we allowed to stop taking it & finally allowed to speak up for ourselves? "Enough is enough. You don't like it then shove off."

The age one is when one realizes it!

 

[Ladybj]

I've spent my whole life being verbally assaulted over just about everything. I often get made to feel that I can't say or do anything right. I get called names & verbally attacked rather regularly. I'm old enough now that it's starting to p*** me off & I'm becoming quite intolerant of it.

At what age are we allowed to stop taking it & finally allowed to speak up for ourselves? "Enough is enough. You don't like it then shove off."

I FINALLY found my VOICE and speaking up for myself at the wonderful age of 60. And when my sister died.. It made it so much easier to speak my mind.. of course with a positive attitude. I finally realize people have their own views on things and so do I. I realize how they feel a lot of times, has NOTHING TO DO WITH ME...it's their unresolved issues.