Fellow Forum Members: As some or maybe none of you know, I am a certified substance abuse counselor here in PA. I took courses at Penn State and received my certification in 2002. I counsel at churches, schools, prisons, rehabs and any organization that invites me to speak on substance abuse, which includes drugs (illegal and Rx abuse) and also alcohol. I also do one on one when requested and if available to do so. I am not an Addictionologist. Big difference.
Last night, I gave a 45 minute presentation to a youth group in Baltimore City (One hour south of my home), which has a huge illegal drug problem among youths. After the talk and answering many questions, (I couldn't believe how many questions were being asked by these kids, but I felt good about this.), I had a 13 year-old girl come up and stand near me while I was speaking with some others. After they had left, she approached me and asked if she could ask me for some advice. Of course, I told her Absolutely. She went on about how her brother, who is younger, lives with their mother. She was telling me that her mom is an addict, but tries to hide it from her and her brother by wearing long sleeves and pants all of the time, even in the summer. She said that she knows her mom is into the heavy stuff because she has found her unconscious a number of times with the needle by her side. (How traumatic would that be for a 13 year-old girl?) Then, of course, she asked me the question that I knew was coming. "What can I do to help her get off of the drugs and alcohol before she kills herself and we become orphans?)
I told her that the first thing she has to ask her mom is does she want to get off of the drugs and alcohol. I then went on to explain to her that even though a person wants to quit, wanting to quit is not enough. Without going into all of the science of what drugs do to the brain, sometimes it is impossible to quit, depending on the drugs and how long a person has been abusing them. I then said to her, "Look, you shouldn't have to put yourself through this. You are 13 and should be out with your friends talking about school stuff and boys. If your mom wants to truly quit, I am going to give you my card and you can give it to her, if she really wants to quit this type of behavior, I will gladly come back down here and meet with her and get her into a very good rehab center here in Baltimore that will take her Medicaid. She will need to commit to the program for 28 days and there is NO guarantee that she will be recovered when she leaves. You tell her those things and if she is still willing to go through the program, then call me. I will help her. But, if I can get her into rehab, she can not leave. If she checks out, she will not be allowed to return for a year. If she completes the program and relapses, she can go back in. No one expects an addict to be successful the first time around and when, or if, she relapses it is not a failure. Recovery for an addict that has abused drugs and alcohol for a long period of time does not get fixed in 28 days." (One side note here; regardless of what you have heard, addiction is a disease and not a weakness or failure on a person's part to over-come it.)
So, I am crossing my fingers that I get a phone call in the next few days. Statistics tell us that if an addict does not seek help after being offered it within 5-7 days, the phone call probably will not come. The biggest reason why addicts that want to quit don't seek help is because they fear withdrawals. Yes, they are that bad for long term Heroin, Meth and Cocaine users. Kids that become addicted to bath salts, pain killers, psychotic drugs (LSD, PCP, etc.) and Benzos (Benzodiazepines) have it rough, but they are not the worse of the worse. Heroin is still King!
BTW, there is a new drug in Russia that actually eats the skin off its users. (Krokodil, pronounced like the reptile.) Users think they are buying Heroin and the dealer is actually selling them this stuff. It has already been reported being used in Phoenix and Chicago. One last fact; did you know that alcohol is the third largest killer in America and that Nicotine is the most addictive and difficult drug in the U.S. to quit? (OK, two facts.)
No one needs to reply to this post, however, if anyone has any experiences they would like to share, I would be interested to read them. Please feel free to PM me. Always looking to learn from other's experiences. Experience is the best teacher.
Thanks to those that have read this.
Last night, I gave a 45 minute presentation to a youth group in Baltimore City (One hour south of my home), which has a huge illegal drug problem among youths. After the talk and answering many questions, (I couldn't believe how many questions were being asked by these kids, but I felt good about this.), I had a 13 year-old girl come up and stand near me while I was speaking with some others. After they had left, she approached me and asked if she could ask me for some advice. Of course, I told her Absolutely. She went on about how her brother, who is younger, lives with their mother. She was telling me that her mom is an addict, but tries to hide it from her and her brother by wearing long sleeves and pants all of the time, even in the summer. She said that she knows her mom is into the heavy stuff because she has found her unconscious a number of times with the needle by her side. (How traumatic would that be for a 13 year-old girl?) Then, of course, she asked me the question that I knew was coming. "What can I do to help her get off of the drugs and alcohol before she kills herself and we become orphans?)
I told her that the first thing she has to ask her mom is does she want to get off of the drugs and alcohol. I then went on to explain to her that even though a person wants to quit, wanting to quit is not enough. Without going into all of the science of what drugs do to the brain, sometimes it is impossible to quit, depending on the drugs and how long a person has been abusing them. I then said to her, "Look, you shouldn't have to put yourself through this. You are 13 and should be out with your friends talking about school stuff and boys. If your mom wants to truly quit, I am going to give you my card and you can give it to her, if she really wants to quit this type of behavior, I will gladly come back down here and meet with her and get her into a very good rehab center here in Baltimore that will take her Medicaid. She will need to commit to the program for 28 days and there is NO guarantee that she will be recovered when she leaves. You tell her those things and if she is still willing to go through the program, then call me. I will help her. But, if I can get her into rehab, she can not leave. If she checks out, she will not be allowed to return for a year. If she completes the program and relapses, she can go back in. No one expects an addict to be successful the first time around and when, or if, she relapses it is not a failure. Recovery for an addict that has abused drugs and alcohol for a long period of time does not get fixed in 28 days." (One side note here; regardless of what you have heard, addiction is a disease and not a weakness or failure on a person's part to over-come it.)
So, I am crossing my fingers that I get a phone call in the next few days. Statistics tell us that if an addict does not seek help after being offered it within 5-7 days, the phone call probably will not come. The biggest reason why addicts that want to quit don't seek help is because they fear withdrawals. Yes, they are that bad for long term Heroin, Meth and Cocaine users. Kids that become addicted to bath salts, pain killers, psychotic drugs (LSD, PCP, etc.) and Benzos (Benzodiazepines) have it rough, but they are not the worse of the worse. Heroin is still King!
BTW, there is a new drug in Russia that actually eats the skin off its users. (Krokodil, pronounced like the reptile.) Users think they are buying Heroin and the dealer is actually selling them this stuff. It has already been reported being used in Phoenix and Chicago. One last fact; did you know that alcohol is the third largest killer in America and that Nicotine is the most addictive and difficult drug in the U.S. to quit? (OK, two facts.)
No one needs to reply to this post, however, if anyone has any experiences they would like to share, I would be interested to read them. Please feel free to PM me. Always looking to learn from other's experiences. Experience is the best teacher.
Thanks to those that have read this.