End of life questions?

MountainRa said:
How does one go about getting one of these kits? (Asking for a friend 😁)
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Yeah, I'd like to know too. I'm acquainted with people who say they'll use one of their guns. (Oh, really, and leave a really bad mess for your loved ones or whoever to clean up? Not too considerate of you there, Sparky. :mad: )

And I've heard that the medicines that can end your life have a finite shelf life like a lot of other things and if you try using one of those that's too old, you may end up best case scenario throwing up and then still being alive, or worst case scenario you end up braindamaged but still alive. So I've heard that DIY chemical suicide is just too darn risky.
 
JaniceM said:
True.
But there are other concerns, too. My father, for example, wanted to die at home. He also wanted a simple, no-frills burial. Although nobody would've listened to me if I'd been able to be there anyway, whomever was in charge made sure his last wishes were not carried out.
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Family IMO do not think straight and what the Person wanted ...
i remember when mother was going down hill fast ...
was in ICU but they had nothing they could do so they moved her to a floor where most were just waiting to die....
they really pushed wanting us to take her to a hospice and OUT of hospital ASAP....
there was a wait .......and we needed to be sure we got spot on the side of town so step dad who was 90 could still visit. Reality was hospice told us she most likely would not survive the van ride to hospice house.
her request was to NOT have an obituary and small if any service....... just family

So first sister thought move out of ICU meant she was improving......
ICU nurse almost lost his mind telling her "NO .... she will never get better."
The discussion of hospice drove sisters crazy as they still refused to see it..... "she was not that bad.... "
They never visited again ...
It was a horrific 11 days .... no one should go through....

when she finally passed they threw a fit about they wrote various obits for her...... told them go ahead but she did NOT want that...they wanted date and time for celebration they expected me to pay for.....
I paid for the cremation
they literally went to FACEBOOK to complain about not having some big service or wake....funny most of their "friends" told them throw one yourself .....
if any of them had any money they most likely would not have honored her wishes
wanted me to have a big party to celebrate her life ........ told them an obituary is like an invitation to that sort of thing and if she did not want the invite to go out ..........doubt she wanted a big service/ wake.
I really wish she had written it down but she told stepdad and he was her life for 30 years.
 
My preference is to go out on my terms at a time and place of my choosing. The honest truth is over the years I have held on to some old meds for when that time comes, I hope to go to sleep and not awake.

The problem is most of us never get to make the choice. We end up sick or hurt, get taken to the hospital and from there straight into assisted living or a nursing home, never to be free again.

We all know the stories of those that have lingered for years severely mentally or physically disabled due to age related issues. I DO NOT WANT THAT! How is that humane treatment? There really should be no argument on this subject, if an adult wants to choose their end of life decisions it should be allowed.
 
C50 said:
My preference is to go out on my terms at a time and place of my choosing. The honest truth is over the years I have held on to some old meds for when that time comes, I hope to go to sleep and not awake.

The problem is most of us never get to make the choice. We end up sick or hurt, get taken to the hospital and from there straight into assisted living or a nursing home, never to be free again.

We all know the stories of those that have lingered for years severely mentally or physically disabled due to age related issues. I DO NOT WANT THAT! How is that humane treatment? There really should be no argument on this subject, if an adult wants to choose their end of life decisions it should be allowed.
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I agree but also know that while in situations it is for best there could be abuse of such item...
My mother which i mentioned above was on no food/ no water and no support except some pain meds she was gone but breathing and laying there ....
had rotating hospital doctors many were NOT helpful and one said "he saw someone in that condition go for over a month."
on the third doctor ...................i told her we knew it was happening and it was just disturbing to watch her starve to death and eyes were unnatural as she was dehydrated ....... when i spoke to her she said "i understand ".......................and did things that helped it along ......
no one could prove it but nurses were very surprised at change of orders and upping morphine.
I know there are doctors out there who get it and they must take plausible deniability.
 
Paco Dennis said:
As we age there comes a time where we begin to struggle with illnesses. Some we overcome, some we live with, and some become unbearable. Some people want to die at home with little to no medication, some want to go to the hospital. I have questions about whether or not to put myself in the hands of the medical industry, or to die at home. All of us, no matter the age, are going to make decisions on how much we get involved in the medical industry and balance that with dealing with the illness at home. When is it time to throw in the towel? Or do we keep doing everything possible to stay alive, even if we continue to suffer?
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As a person that deals with 2 different types of insulin and a couple inhalers for breathing and only have 4 toes left.
The one thing I have figured out is that as long as it's not painful I just as soon go away up in the mountains or in the woods rather than in a hospital.

That being said I also have a non conventional vinternal view on the medical industry which I believe is a lesser god trying to inflict us with their nonsense.
 
Nosy Bee-54 said:
What good is it to have termination of life wishes in a Will? Wills come into play after death.
An Advanced Directive would be the document. If you are going in for surgery, for example, the facility would always asked if you have one.
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A lawyer drew that up when I made my will. It's actually a separate document, now that I think about it.
 

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