The past few weeks have been a challenge. Things have calmed down a bit because the source, my youngest brother, has died. His SO and her family have been an even bigger challenge, causing all kinds of trouble. That will also end soon because once the death certificates have been received, we will cut off all contact with her (the SO).
During the process of trying to get his affairs in order, we discovered he was not the person we all believed him to be. He had been in trouble with the law multiple times, even while in the Navy. He and his SO were (are?) deeply involved with drugs and alcohol which is what killed him. The lies and deceit that have come to light are overwhelming. The four of us surviving siblings have all been made fools by him and his SO.
All of this was discovered by a sibling who traveled to his home to help get his affairs in order. None of us are beneficiaries, btw, and that is fine. She has been emotionally and financially traumatized. Yesterday, she finalized the last of the legal stuff and left. Unfortunately, there were no available flights out of that city until Thursday. She decided to drive the four and a half hours to another city to stay with her adult daughter until a flight became available.
I was able to book a flight for her out of that city this morning. She will be on her way home in a few hours. We were on the phone, me on my computer, booking this flight. I insisted on paying for it.
After the purchase was complete, I told her the itinerary and that her seat assignment was 2B. A few seconds went by and she said, "Wait. That's in the front of the plane." I replied, "Yes, I know." A few seconds later, she stated, "That's first class, isn't it?" "Yes," I said, "you deserve this after what you have been through. None of us could have done what you have done." She choked up and just said, "Thank you."
So, today, she will get home to her loving husband's arms, her little farm with the newest baby animals, and plant a winter garden. The one good thing that has come out of this is that it has brought the surviving four of us closer together. She and I have had major differences in the past. Now, we have learned a newfound respect and love for each other. So all is not lost.
We alternate between praying for God to damn his soul to hell and asking for forgiveness for him, mixed with praying to forgive us for thinking these awful thoughts about our brother. I have decided to just leave that up to whatever God exists. Amen.