Envy and jealousy. What are some triggers?

[LadyEmeraude]

There are so many things that can make a person envious and jealous.

This is an open topic, please chat about whatever you want.

I will mostly be reading the posts only.

 

[IrishEyes]

I learned quite early watching people who suffer with personalities mixed with those emotions.
Decided a long time ago, Not the way I want to live life. I don't care to live my life on a scorecard.

 

[Pinky]

Personally, I don't understand envy, nor jealousy.

I was once befriended by a woman who had a lovely husband, who held a good job. Her son (age 5), and daughter (age 8) were both smart. Rather than appreciating what she had, she exhibited jealousy when we took our daughter to the theatre. When we were out for coffee, she would pinpoint people, and making insulting remarks about them.

It was at that point, that I decided to extricate myself from the friendship.

Life is too short to be around that kind of negativity.

 

[Della]

Our culture seems to foster jealousy with its beauty pageants and competitive sports from a very young age.
I have trouble watching the Olympics because I hate seeing those young hearts break if they lose, after giving so much of their young lives to the sport.

 

[dusty]

I think the root cause of both is low self esteem. When a person wants but knows he can't get/have what another has then he begins to feel inadequate and also powerless. Becoming angry at the one who has what he wants, he will begin to act out...or suffer in silence.

People will actually kill over these 2 emotions.

 

[IrishEyes]

Our culture seems to foster jealousy with its beauty pageants and competitive sports from a very young age.
I have trouble watching the Olympics because I hate seeing those young hearts break if they lose, after giving so much of their young lives to the sport.

I love going to Special Needs Olympics better. My 2 grandsons with special needs have participated
for years. The younger one got so distracted by the cheering crowd he forgot to run his race and just
walked back and forth waving at the crowd smiling soooo big. The adults participating in the games
made him a make shift trophy from a cup and a stick with some ribbons after the race and gathered round him.
Talk about melt your heart, tears were flowing.

 

[Rider77]

I think the root cause of both is low self esteem. When a person wants but knows he can't get/have what another has then he begins to feel inadequate and also powerless. Becoming angry at the one who has what he wants, he will begin to act out...or suffer in silence.

People will actually kill over these 2 emotions.

I agree that low self esteem is the basis for both of these emotions. I was taught not to envy but to learn what made others successful and to seek those qualities myself. Jealousy? Well I'm just not.

 

[That Lady in PA]

No triggers, as I choose to have gratitude instead of envy and jealousy.

 

[Mike]

Never practiced either ailments, I never coveted what another
person had, if I liked it enough, then I would get one, if I was
able to afford it, nor was I envious of another's achievements.

Mike.

 

[Murrmurr]

I got over envy and jealousy when I was 24. I even know the exact day I learned how stupid, futile, and destructive they are.

 

[MACKTEXAS]

I remember having those feelings a very long time ago. I was very young, just starting out on my own with no help from anyone, at odds with my parents, and finances were a real struggle.

After paying the rent and putting gas in the car, I was lucky to have $5.00 left over for food. I looked at other people and felt insecure, and yes - - - jealous. When the money situation got better, I got past those thoughts, but I hope to never be in that position again.

 

[hearlady]

No triggers, as I choose to have gratitude instead of envy and jealousy.

I was going to say that I've experienced both but I get over it by choosing gratitude. So, great minds think alike? Or am I just jealous you said it first.
I'm grateful you said it.