Ever feel like every one is against you?

Well, everyone is not against me , I know but sometimes it feels that way. I just called the folks who finally had my eyeglasses made. It took them a month to do it after saying two weeks. The reason? Covid of course. Then I called about removing a dispute on my credit card. I got a person with a heavy accent who complained about not being able to bring up my file. ...She said the same exact thing the last time I called 4 months ago! I finally told her I was hanging up. I mean I worry it wasn't even the credit card company now.
And today is really a bummer for me. It would be my 51st wedding anniversary. Thinking about my crazy hubby who died in 2019. I'll have to poor some egg nog and toast my sweetie sometime today.
 

Jules said:
@Aneeda, why do you have to provide groceries? Don’t they have group meals?
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No. They get food stamps, 160 dollars for the entire month. By the end of the month they have nothing to eat. Plus I have Joey on a diet. He is too overweight. Residents CAN NOT share food. But I can and do buy food and donate it to the home so they can all eat. Except for last year when I had to deal with the “stupid” home manager I have always done this.

Thats why he is over weight lots of pizza, potatoes, cheap food etc.
 
palides2021 said:
Sometimes it happens, and usually I'm in a good mood, and it won't bother me and I think "They're having a bad day." Today, for example, we were at Walmart and in the parking lot, someone was trying to back out of his parking space and two cars were blocking his way, while another car with a woman inside was trying to come toward him from the other side, so it was quite a jam. She just kept hitting her horn hard like there was no tomorrow. The poor guy finally backed out and she pulled in to the space next to his, and I wondered "What difference did a few seconds more make to her? The poor guy wanted to leave." What would I have done if someone honked their horn hard like that? I might have gone out and politely talked to them and said, "I'm trying to get out of here as fast as I can. Thank you for your patience." But it hasn't happened yet.:)
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And the response to somebody leaning on their horn when there's nothing you can do without the cooperation of others is...wait for it..."Excuse me. Why don't we trade places? You go sit in my car and wait for something to change while I sit in yours and lean on the horn?"

Of course, that used to be a response that would make the person sit up and take notice. These days? It would probably get you shot!
 

Sylkkiss said:
Well, everyone is not against me , I know but sometimes it feels that way. I just called the folks who finally had my eyeglasses made. It took them a month to do it after saying two weeks. The reason? Covid of course. Then I called about removing a dispute on my credit card. I got a person with a heavy accent who complained about not being able to bring up my file. ...She said the same exact thing the last time I called 4 months ago! I finally told her I was hanging up. I mean I worry it wasn't even the credit card company now.
And today is really a bummer for me. It would be my 51st wedding anniversary. Thinking about my crazy hubby who died in 2019. I'll have to poor some egg nog and toast my sweetie sometime today.
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So sorry to learn that your hubby died not too long ago! Happy 51st wedding anniversary! 🍷🌹🌺
 
gloria said:
When you have to go out for errands and not in the mood, seems like a lot happens.
Someone walks out in front of your car looking at their phone not paying attention. You trip and almost fall.
Checker in the store isn't in a good mood, she doesn't give you time to put your change
back in your wallet because she's ringing up next customers groceries change falls on the floor. All kinds of little things
not going smoothly, well that was my day, along with dropping my bananas....so decided to get on home.
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I think it was just a bad day for you. I've had those kind of days, too. They are quite disturbing! Hopefully you'll have some better days ahead. I hope so at least.
 
Even more disappointing than strangers who act in illogical and self-centered ways, is the realization that the few close associates you have are acting in self-absorbed and toxic ways that you should distance yourself from. It is difficult to replace friends and family members you have invested a lot of time in.
 
gloria said:
When you have to go out for errands and not in the mood, seems like a lot happens.
Someone walks out in front of your car looking at their phone not paying attention. You trip and almost fall.
Checker in the store isn't in a good mood, she doesn't give you time to put your change
back in your wallet because she's ringing up next customers groceries change falls on the floor. All kinds of little things
not going smoothly, well that was my day, along with dropping my bananas....so decided to get on home.
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When this happens to me, I put on some headphones really loud and listen to Nickelback or some other headbanging grunge music. It straightens me right out. No joke. I actually do this every day and (pray). Never fails. Bottoms up (song) does the trick for me.
It increases the dopamine in the brain as I have been informed and makes ya' fell real good! No drugs needed.
 
I found out today that my husband is against me. In only 10 minutes he told me the horrible things I have done just in the last few days. It seems like everything that goes wrong was because of me. It all started when I asked him where the stamps were. He said "I never use stamps so you must have misplaced them" and then he went on and on. He decided he wanted to send a Christmas card to a friend. So he wrote the card and then when he showed it to me I saw that he signed it Love, Grandmom & Poppy. I said "We aren't his grandparents. Oh and by the way the stamps were on the table where he was writing the cards.
 
Sassycakes said:
I found out today that my husband is against me. In only 10 minutes he told me the horrible things I have done just in the last few days. It seems like everything that goes wrong was because of me. It all started when I asked him where the stamps were. He said "I never use stamps so you must have misplaced them" and then he went on and on. He decided he wanted to send a Christmas card to a friend. So he wrote the card and then when he showed it to me I saw that he signed it Love, Grandmom & Poppy. I said "We aren't his grandparents. Oh and by the way the stamps were on the table where he was writing the cards.
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Do you think this is a permanent condition? In all seriousness. Mr. may need medical care.
 
Sassycakes said:
I found out today that my husband is against me. In only 10 minutes he told me the horrible things I have done just in the last few days. It seems like everything that goes wrong was because of me. It all started when I asked him where the stamps were. He said "I never use stamps so you must have misplaced them" and then he went on and on. He decided he wanted to send a Christmas card to a friend. So he wrote the card and then when he showed it to me I saw that he signed it Love, Grandmom & Poppy. I said "We aren't his grandparents. Oh and by the way the stamps were on the table where he was writing the cards.
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Hi....Sometimes in our old age....It gets different when we were younger....Today I actually said something to my husband, and I was fresh...
Why, I don't know .....He is a great husband.....I was just not happy.....Why, I really don't know....It comes on and off....Your husband probably
was not being mean....He probably was not hearing very well....It will go away and not even did he know what he said about the stamps....
Sweatheart, he will probably wil not remember about the stamps.....Remember we are the same age.....I get it....Brush it off...And don't even
say anything.....It will go away.....It doesn't matter when we are old......We forget things and get disturbed... I forget where the toilet is in
the house....hahahahahah! really.....
 
peppermint said:
Hi....Sometimes in our old age....It gets different when we were younger....Today I actually said something to my husband, and I was fresh...
Why, I don't know .....He is a great husband.....I was just not happy.....Why, I really don't know....It comes on and off....Your husband probably
was not being mean....He probably was not hearing very well....It will go away and not even did he know what he said about the stamps....
Sweatheart, he will probably wil not remember about the stamps.....Remember we are the same age.....I get it....Brush it off...And don't even
say anything.....It will go away.....It doesn't matter when we are old......We forget things and get disturbed... I forget where the toilet is in
the house....hahahahahah! really.....
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You're Right Peppermint, both of our hearing is gone. He is upset about our health issues also. Thank God he had to drop something off at my daughter's so at least for a while, I had peace and quiet. He is home now and in a much better mood.
 
The times when I feel like everyone is against me is when I'm driving. I used to get very angry when people drove slow in front of me, cut me off or crossed several lanes to turn. Then I watched this, and I'm much more accepting of other people's mistakes...

 
Sassycakes said:
I found out today that my husband is against me. In only 10 minutes he told me the horrible things I have done just in the last few days. It seems like everything that goes wrong was because of me. It all started when I asked him where the stamps were. He said "I never use stamps so you must have misplaced them" and then he went on and on. He decided he wanted to send a Christmas card to a friend. So he wrote the card and then when he showed it to me I saw that he signed it Love, Grandmom & Poppy. I said "We aren't his grandparents. Oh and by the way the stamps were on the table where he was writing the cards.
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gloria said:
When you have to go out for errands and not in the mood, seems like a lot happens.
Someone walks out in front of your car looking at their phone not paying attention. You trip and almost fall.
Checker in the store isn't in a good mood, she doesn't give you time to put your change
back in your wallet because she's ringing up next customers groceries change falls on the floor. All kinds of little things
not going smoothly, well that was my day, along with dropping my bananas....so decided to get on home.
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I'm new too, Welcome!
 
gloria said:
When you have to go out for errands and not in the mood, seems like a lot happens.
Someone walks out in front of your car looking at their phone not paying attention. You trip and almost fall.
Checker in the store isn't in a good mood, she doesn't give you time to put your change
back in your wallet because she's ringing up next customers groceries change falls on the floor. All kinds of little things
not going smoothly, well that was my day, along with dropping my bananas....so decided to get on home.
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Covid, politicians news morons vax morons propaganda morons more politicians more covid..it is like a new ozone....and everyone and everthing is out of sync -heart rhythms breathing stress etc etc...causes toxic negativity

the counter is pretend, positivity and creativity-
using gratitude as a catalyst. and instantly your reality will be energized and positive ...you know how I know that? Politicians
 
Nathan said:
I think it's just that people out in public these days are oblivious, self absorbed and preoccupied.

I was at Walmart earlier today, people pushing shopping carts expect you to get out of their way, same with people walking. Back when people were civil(seems like a lifetime ago) oncoming people would veer to one side as you veered to the opposite side to avoid collision. Not happening, not anymore. :rolleyes:
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Nathan, something happens when shoppers enter Walmart. There has to be a kind of "dumbing down" ray that gets people right between the eyes. They can't even get out of the aisles. They are programmed to get a cart, fill, and rush around the store with it. It's not a pretty site.
 
Irwin said:
I usually don't take it personally. It's just a lot of idiots out at one time. Think of it as a challenge where your task is to avoid them... stay alert, look ahead of you so you can slow down in time or speed up to get around them, or go down a different aisle at the grocery store. It's like a game... Avoid the idiots game! And if you make it all the way back home without any major inconveniences, you win! :ROFLMAO:
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Are they idiots? Never know what someone is going through. Maybe what you call an "idiot" may have a spouse that is on life support, maybe they are close to suicide, maybe they just lost their job and don't know how they will pay their rent/mortgage next month, maybe their child in in the hospital... judge not, you never know what someone is going through. We all have challenges in our life... you just never now. However being rude and disrespectful is no excuse.
 
Gaer said:
Give little unfortunate mishaps no concern. You probably won't even remember it a hundred years from now.
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Only when your older seems like less in your life makes one feel as a need to connect with some joy out there only problem is most are not having a good day. Maybe you can make a new connection with out feeling like a lost at sea creature
 

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