Everyone Makes One Mistake that changes their life Forever

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Everyone Makes One Mistake that changes their life Forever



I read this somewhere recently, and when I thought about it, it's true . It certainly applies to me anyway.

Whether you can turn that mistake into a positive and make it work for you, or whether it remains an adverse blot on your life's landscape..I think everyone can look back and see a 'mistake' that changed their lives forever

Do you agree, and what do you think was the 'mistake' that made the biggest change in your life?
 

For me it was getting married at 18 to the wrong person and having a baby at 19. Love my sons but they suffered from having such a young mother.

If I hadn't done this though what are the chances I'd be living where I am now and finally married to the right person?
 
Me too Ameriscot, I shouldn't have married when I was so young, my daughter also suffered from having such a young mother, and a single parent by the time she was 8 years old...I tried to give her the best life I could but it could have been so much better. I regret that.
 

Mine was 4 years ago,being accuse of something that never happened.
My mistake was not getting a lawyer instead I let the state attoney general handle the case.
This one will go with me to the grave....sigh
 
Ill fated marriages seem to be a common life changer, I can add three more of those to the tally. 4th time's the charm. :cool:
 
Why do these people change when we've married them?

Is it because we really didn't know them at all?

Or is it us?
 
And there's that dreadful moment..when you've bought a house..had a kid..and realising you have made one hell of a mess...

My first husband was such sweetness and light before we got married...he was OK for about 2 years afterwards...the death knell rang just after we had bought a German Shepherd puppy..it was fine while he was small..when the dog got larger..my husband said he was going to train it..

I watched him dragging that poor dog round every day..hitting it with his fists..I ran out to stop him..and I saw something in his eyes I had never seen before..a savage..eventually the dog was cowed..and would not leave my side..but still having the courage to growl at him..

That dog disappeared..and shortly afterwards..so did I!!
 
tnthomas said:
Ill fated marriages seem to be a common life changer
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I did the "ill"-fating to my own first marriage, but had I not, I wouldn't have been found by my first-ever love from the 7th grade and missed out on 20 sweet, sweet years with him.

As to mistakes...there were plenty of those, not just one! Maybe I'm done with them at my age.
 
Twixie said:
Why do these people change when we've married them?

Is it because we really didn't know them at all?

Or is it us?
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Given that I believe that change is constant I would put the kibosh on the institution of marriage. We both - husband and wife - change throughout our lives, and to put such an artificial construct on two people is to only hasten the process.

At least, that's my own story and I'm sticking to it.
 
Mr. Pirate Phil,
I too believe in constant change, but I don't see it as a detriment to marriage. Michael and I are in our 47th. year, and we have changed over and over. But, I have always seen it as challenging. Our changes have kept us alert to each other's needs. I think when there is no change in each parter, that is when the relationship sours from stagnation.

PS: It is good to see you around again. :wave:
 
Ina said:
Mr. Pirate Phil,
I too believe in constant change, but I don't see it as a detriment to marriage. Michael and I've in our 47 years, have changed over and over. But, I have always seen it as challenging. Our changes have kept us alert to each other's needs. I think when there is no change in each parter, that is when the relationship sours from stagnation.
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I don't think that every single marriage is doomed - for example, yours is one of the exceptions that prove the rule. Still, with a society that is increasingly "ME"-oriented it's tough enough to provide all that is needed for such gigantic egos, let alone cope with natural changes.

Yes, it is a challenge, one that you and Michael have obviously met and made peace with. But for many of the rest of us average Joes we experienced only defeat.

I also agree that stagnation is probably more to blame than change. In my own case, however, while I was watching out for stagnation it was the change that did me in.

PS: I good to see you around again. :wave:
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Good to see you too, my fine little wench! :pirate:
 
Life is not about 'the mistake' it's how you react and/or correct that mistake afterward. It's how you get up after being knocked down. It's about how you handle failure.

I think I mentioned this before but in a scuba class I had one of those days I couldn't do anything right in the pool. I grumbled I couldn't do anything right today. The instructor said I'm not worried about you it's those who haven't made a mistake yet because I don't know how they will react if something goes wrong. But that is life or should be part of life. You don't want to make so many 'mistakes' you become a screw up but I think learning and moving on after negative event or mistake tells as much as someone who strives for perfection. There are very few at either end of the spectrum that handle it right.

Darwin Rules!
 
Not being able to overcome my fear of needles and anything to do with dissecting animals. Twice I dropped school for this reason, I was midway in my Dietician studies and dropped when I couldn't face the upcoming class where we were required to do blood work on each other. Another time, I was scheduled to start RN classes and the more discussions I kept having about the blood work the more panicked I became and dropped it. I ended up graduating with a business degree, an area of study least suited to my personality. Yes, I know how pathetic, but over the years, I did still manage to work in the health industry using my CNA certificate and doing several private duty assignments, work I dearly loved. I would have made a dang good full fledged nurse. Not conquering my fear to pursue that career path is truly one of my most regrettable mistakes. To think, I've inserted catheters into *******ia and other areas of the body, but needles, just can't handle. That is unless, I were forced by the situation and someone's life depended on my actions, then I could in the moment overcome anything.

On the romance end, too many mistakes to contemplate where it all went wrong, so, I'll leave those alone. :D
 

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