Everyone wants to be boss but who should be, (besides me of course!)

Unfortunately in my experience many not all are NOT suited to be boss....
Many who are promoted are the brown nose type or people who took credit for others work etc.
They create tension and issues trying to keep the illusion they know what is going on.

The good well suited bosses usually moved on from places i worked as they were surrounded by the type i described above

I myself did not enjoy when i was supervisor as the management took too long to cull dead weight and i had little use for dead weight or their excuses.
 

Gaer said:
I, for one, (probably the only one) would hate to be in a relationship where a man were subservient to me.
"I wanna brave man, I wanna cave man." (from a 50's song)
A man should be a REAL MAN, decisive, solid, protective, intelligent, and deserving of my respect.
I'd be happy to take a softer role in the relationship
If a man is a liability, whiny, or a weak or withered soul, I couldn't respect him much. Better to be alone.
Over the generations, it seems men have become more and more effeminate. and women more masculine.
This is a sad thing.
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My mother ruled everything. Not with my bio-dad, she would have never got by with it. I was only 7 when she married my stepfather. And I don't know how long it took but within little time, she was a raging abusive maniac. I think she put out little tests and she got by with them and became worse and worse. My stepfather never stood up to her, he allowed her to isolate him (and us kids) from his own family. I know he would try to reason with her when she was in one of her crazed borderline rages, but they hear nothing said to them. They are literally out of their minds at the time.

He stood by when she abused us, doing nothing. The thing is, he doesn't get his own role in all of this. He provided but that was it. Then my mother made every decision, including where to move and house buying. When she didn't like her decision in the end, she blamed him. It was a sickening thing to have to watch.
 
In the late 70s, my boss had some of the employees take a test. After that, I was one of a few for whom the company chose to take a more extensive test that cost $600. I was amazed a test would cost that much! Anyway, I made a very low score on being suited to be a line supervisor. I was fully suited to be the head of a company, but I did wonder how that could be if I didn't work my way up through the ranks.

I have never liked supervising people. Most work differently than I do, in a business setting. I do my job and don't waste time, ask questions when needed, etc. I don't waste time because I've sold it to someone else by taking a paycheck, and they deserve full value.

I was never cut out to work in a business because I disliked it a lot. I saw the benefit to the owners/shareholders in helping them to make a lot of money, but never much benefit to people in general. I was interested in helping people get where they are going, and teaching was my favorite job because it ticked all my boxes, and I got paid for having a great time.

At home, until I left my husband, I was the problem solver. My husband has never agreed with anything I've said, except by words - not actions. I would prefer to be a team player, and that is hard with a team of one in matters of family life and finances. When I say problem-solver, the problems were caused by my husband disregarding my education, experience and advice in matters in which he turned around and benefited himself alone. He is a bit unusual because he has no foresight. I don't know if it is by choice or because he simply doesn't have it. I've never known anyone else who is like that.
 
grahamg said:
Very succinct and pithy comments! :)
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dseag2 said:
Glad you are posting again! 👍
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Gary O' said:

Everyone wants to be boss but who should be​


Never wanted to be
Never strove for it

Got kicked upstairs after the honchos noticed everyone coming to me for answers

Dammit



At home?

I'm rather anal about things (I've been told....by my boss)

Actually
We're teammates

I'm a neat freak
She's a clean freak

Freaks make good mates, apparently
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grahamg said:
You dont or wouldn't really, (because that pretty much sums up my life at present and its no bed of roses I can tell you 😓😥🥴🤕(n) !).
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Thanks all. Just needed a break. grahamg, all of us old man fossils are in your boat. You are not alone in a boat with a leak, one toe in the hole and no life preserver. Enjoy the weekend and drink one for me.
 
Jeni said:
Unfortunately in my experience many not all are NOT suited to be boss....
Many who are promoted are the brown nose type or people who took credit for others work etc. They create tension and issues trying to keep the illusion they know what is going on. The good well suited bosses usually moved on from places i worked as they were surrounded by the type i described above
I myself did not enjoy when i was supervisor as the management took too long to cull dead weight and i had little use for dead weight or their excuses.
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Harsh but probably fair assessment in my view(?). :)
 
WheatenLover said:
In the late 70s, my boss had some of the employees take a test. After that, I was one of a few for whom the company chose to take a more extensive test that cost $600. I was amazed a test would cost that much! Anyway, I made a very low score on being suited to be a line supervisor. I was fully suited to be the head of a company, but I did wonder how that could be if I didn't work my way up through the ranks.

I have never liked supervising people. Most work differently than I do, in a business setting. I do my job and don't waste time, ask questions when needed, etc. I don't waste time because I've sold it to someone else by taking a paycheck, and they deserve full value.

I was never cut out to work in a business because I disliked it a lot. I saw the benefit to the owners/shareholders in helping them to make a lot of money, but never much benefit to people in general. I was interested in helping people get where they are going, and teaching was my favorite job because it ticked all my boxes, and I got paid for having a great time.

At home, until I left my husband, I was the problem solver. My husband has never agreed with anything I've said, except by words - not actions. I would prefer to be a team player, and that is hard with a team of one in matters of family life and finances. When I say problem-solver, the problems were caused by my husband disregarding my education, experience and advice in matters in which he turned around and benefited himself alone. He is a bit unusual because he has no foresight. I don't know if it is by choice or because he simply doesn't have it. I've never known anyone else who is like that.
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Very comprehensive post, and as far as lack of insight goes, I think I know many men like this, either that or they value shoving you down as more in their interests, than listening to whatever you've tried to say to help smooth both your lives! :(
 
I had the following said to me recently, (well twice actually, would you believe?):

"My House, My rules"

What do you think of that statement, and is it something you've ever said before to anyone in your house?

 
I think this attitude is particularly unreasonable, unless your children are young, and behaving unreasonably badly, though I'd have never said it to my own daughter. I've certainly never used it in relation to any guest in my house, and those who do seem to think a dictatorial power is required in their home, even when dealing with reasonable adults, (my response to being told this was to leave immediately btw):
My house my rules.4.jpeg
 

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