For Those Over 80

[Tabby Ann]

That brief span of life after 80 brings a certain amount of knowledge, wisdom, experience and acceptance of mortality that the majority of senior citizens in their 60s and 70s don’t have. The younger seniors cling to the earth and its resources to provide endless life and health although it never does.

The quality of life in the present can be improved somewhat from the earth and its resources, but there is no magic formula for the future. All are going to die within a statistical age range and the elderly who die in a 5k run are just as dead as those who die in their recliners. After 80, the quality of life becomes more important to the elderly than the longevity, but younger seniors don’t want to hear this.

They want their elders to exhaust every possible medical, physical, pharmaceutical, diet and exercise resource available to extend life, because the younger seniors can’t face their own mortality. This can be seen in every post inviting comments from octogenarians. Senior citizens under 80 monopolize the thread with idealized promotions of longevity, rather than listening to what the elderly themselves want to do with their remaining years. This post invites octogenarians and older to comment.

 

[ElCastor]

Bottom line, at least in my octogenarian case, responsibilities continue to be an important issue. A wife who no longer drives and depends on me for many aspects of her life, and in many ways vice versa of course, and a highly intelligent and sensitive parrot who has lived with us for 46 years and would be greatly distressed without us. Leaving both to fend for themselves is something I dread more than death.

 

[Tabby Ann]

Bottom line, at least in my octogenarian case, responsibilities continue to be an important issue. A wife who no longer drives and depends on me for many aspects of her life, and in many ways vice versa of course, and a highly intelligent and sensitive parrot who has lived with us for 46 years and would be greatly distressed without us. Leaving both to fend for themselves is something I dread more than death.

Good reasons for wanting to stay alive as long as possible. Much better than enduring long term pain and isolation in order to accommodate younger seniors fear of mortality. This is the “Seniors Living Alone” forum. Do you live alone and just visit your wife and parrot occasionally?

 

[Knight]

Reaching mid 70's was great, more than I expected, now at 81 everyday feels like a gift. No worries no fear of death just the uncomfortable feeling of knowing my wife of 60 years will suffer a lot emotionally when I begin my dirt nap. Wanting to make her life as good as possible we've shared how expenses are paid, assured her credit is over 800 & I've written a "manual" of what she needs to know about little things like changing batteries in a remote or the battery backup in the smoke alarm. Listing all our assets so she knows what to do when talking with our Fidelity account manager.

Other less fun stuff like if she should find me dead in my bed, call 911 request EMT's & a police presence to verify I've died of natural causes. Get extra copies of my death certificate for claiming the insurance from my retirement package & conversion of the medical savings account balance. Can't forget those copies for verification for conversion of my MRD's & joint financial accounts.

 

[bowmore]

As a member of the UFO (united flying octogenarians) I relish every day of my life. We recently moved to an apartment overlooking the ocean. Our previous home was in a +55 MHP. I go there now and it is like a ghost town. From my window here I see people walking, bike riding, boats on the ocean, and on clear days, two of the Santa Barbara Channel Islands.
Life is good.

 

[ElCastor]

Good reasons for wanting to stay alive as long as possible. Much better than enduring long term pain and isolation in order to accommodate younger seniors fear of mortality. This is the “Seniors Living Alone” forum. Do you live alone and just visit your wife and parrot occasionally?

“Seniors living alone forum”? No it is not! It is the “Senior Forum”. And no I don’t live alone. I live with and love my wife, the parrot you see to your left, and a cat sleeping against my arm. (-8

 

[Tabby Ann]

“Seniors living alone forum”? No it is not! It is the “Senior Forum”. And no I don’t live alone.

Senior Forums is the name of this website. The individual names of the many forums on this website are found under "Forums" in the upper left corner of the dark blue header strip at the top of the page. The "Seniors Living Alone" forum is described as being for those "widowed, divorced or single".

 

[Jackie23]

That brief span of life after 80 brings a certain amount of knowledge, wisdom, experience and acceptance of mortality that the majority of senior citizens in their 60s and 70s don’t have. The younger seniors cling to the earth and its resources to provide endless life and health although it never does.

The quality of life in the present can be improved somewhat from the earth and its resources, but there is no magic formula for the future. All are going to die within a statistical age range and the elderly who die in a 5k run are just as dead as those who die in their recliners. After 80, the quality of life becomes more important to the elderly than the longevity, but younger seniors don’t want to hear this.

They want their elders to exhaust every possible medical, physical, pharmaceutical, diet and exercise resource available to extend life, because the younger seniors can’t face their own mortality. This can be seen in every post inviting comments from octogenarians. Senior citizens under 80 monopolize the thread with idealized promotions of longevity, rather than listening to what the elderly themselves want to do with their remaining years. This post invites octogenarians and older to comment.

Well, I'm 81 and have lived along for eleven years now. I can understand what you are saying although I'm not sure I agree with the younger seniors can't face their own mortality bit.
A day hardly ever passes now that I don't think about my mother and her last years......I was always trying to get her to get out more often and to do this or do that...I now know that she just simply did not feel up to getting out or going to a Christmas party or just out to eat.....most of the time now I'm happier to stay home and be quiet in my comfy chair... and if I do get out, I can't wait to get back home.

 

[ElCastor]

Senior Forums is the name of this website. The individual names of the many forums on this website are found under "Forums" in the upper left corner of the dark blue header strip at the top of the page. The "Seniors Living Alone" forum is described as being for those "widowed, divorced or single".

I don‘t want to get too technical, but there is only one Forum, and it is titled Senior Forum. Contained within it are individual topical discussions known as Threads. This Thread is titled “For Those Over 80”. I believe there is at least one Living Alone thread, but this ain’t it.

 

[Blessed]

@Tabby Ann , started this new thread under the Living Alone section, it does seem like the correct placement to me.

 

[Knight]

Correct placement or not the thread title of "For Those over 80" leaves it open to all over 80 for their input.

I didn't look at the category of Living Alone just the thread topic to reply to. Given the thread of "For Those over 80".
I think El Castor was right in his explanation.

What is a forum thread? - User Documentationhttps://community.telligent.com › community › what-is...

A forum thread is a conversation. The question (or discussion statement) begins the conversation, and the replies to the thread starters are the responses.

My hope for my input was to possibly alert others to the difficult parts of what a surviving spouse needs to do waaaay prior to the actual sad event.

 

[Tabby Ann]

I don‘t want to get too technical, but there is only one Forum, and it is titled Senior Forum. Contained within it are individual topical discussions known as Threads. This Thread is titled “For Those Over 80”. I believe there is at least one Living Alone thread, but this ain’t it.

You may be less confused if you got more technical and followed the format of the website creators instead of making up your own. The name of the website is Senior Forums (plural) not Senior Forum (singular). This name is clearly visible in the blue header at the top of the page. There is not one forum titled Senior Forum. There are many forums on this website and they are listed under Forums in the blue header at the top of the page. If you select “Seniors Living Alone" you will find your posts you have posted here. You have posted in the Seniors Living Alone section.

 

[Gary O']

Senior citizens under 80 monopolize the thread with idealized promotions of longevity, rather than listening to what the elderly themselves want to do with their remaining years. This post invites octogenarians and older to comment.

Well, I'm not an octo
And I don't live alone
But
gotta say

I do listen to octos and older
It's a glimpse

I don't see us 'younger' geezers pushing octos to do more
Quite the contrary
I prize anything anybody 80 and over has to say
...and admire their ability to even see the keyboard
Hope my cognizant days are as long

 

[Tabby Ann]

I didn't look at the category of Living Alone just the thread topic to reply to. Given the thread of "For Those over 80".
I think El Castor was right in his explanation.

I can understand posting in the wrong category but not arguing the name of the website when it is clearly visible in the blue header at the top of the page, nor pretending there is no such Forum as “Singles Living Alone” when it is clearly listed under “Forums” in the header, and selecting it shows all your posts here under that category. This isn’t rocket science.

 

[Gary O']

You may be less confused if you got more technical and followed the format of the website creators instead of making up your own

Somebody missed their nap

 

[Shalimar]

I can understand posting in the wrong category but not arguing the name of the website when it is clearly visible in the blue header at the top of the page, nor pretending there is no such Forum as “Singles Living Alone” when it is clearly listed under “Forums” in the header, and selecting it shows all your posts here under that category. This isn’t rocket science.

So many of your posts seem to be anger driven toward other sf posters who clearly mean you no harm. There are other octogenarians and I believe at least one individual in their nineties who frequent this forum. They don’t seem to find living alone etc as onerous as you, yet some also

have very challenging health issues to contend with. Still, they enjoy interacting with the different age groups on this site. With respect, If we are so annoying, why are you here? Forum rules dictate we treat each other with respect.

 

[Mizmo]

The way I see it is.... there is one Senior Forum even though the website says Forums plural.

Within the forum there are various titled discussions and within the discussion there are posts which we should adhere to and within the posts we can call them threads as started by the original poster.

This thread is For Those Over 80 which to me says anyone over 80 can post regardless of status.
Just my tuppence worth...

 

[Aneeda72]

Senior Forums is the name of this website. The individual names of the many forums on this website are found under "Forums" in the upper left corner of the dark blue header strip at the top of the page. The "Seniors Living Alone" forum is described as being for those "widowed, divorced or single".

Hmm, @Tabby Ann it could also be for “seniors living alone wanna bees”. You know-those of us who are just counting the days until they are widowed, divorced, or single again. And, btw, I am under 80. Three of my sons died as infants. I understand mortality very well.

 

[Aneeda72]

I can understand posting in the wrong category but not arguing the name of the website when it is clearly visible in the blue header at the top of the page, nor pretending there is no such Forum as “Singles Living Alone” when it is clearly listed under “Forums” in the header, and selecting it shows all your posts here under that category. This isn’t rocket science.

It could be rocket science. My mother is 98. It would be rocket science for her, but she has no clue how to use a computer

 

[Aneeda72]

Well, I'm not an octo
And I don't live alone
But
gotta say

I do listen to octos and older
It's a glimpse

I don't see us 'younger' geezers pushing octos to do more
Quite the contrary
I prize anything anybody 80 and over has to say
...and admire their ability to even see the keyboard
Hope my cognizant days are as long

Well, @Gary O', you obviously have never meet my mother. You would not prize her words

 

[Gary O']

Well, @Gary O', you obviously have never meet my mother. You would not prize her words

Well, I seem attracted to the aged, and cantankerous
Not those correcting everyone they come in contact with
But, the snide, the sarcastic.....those I admire
If she's any of that.....I think I'd love yer mother

I made a poster in that regard

 

[ElCastor]

Senior Forums is the name of this website. The individual names of the many forums on this website are found under "Forums" in the upper left corner of the dark blue header strip at the top of the page. The "Seniors Living Alone" forum is described as being for those "widowed, divorced or single".

Not worth arguing over, but the name of this forum or thread, whichever you prefer, is “For Those Over 80”. If that doesn’t work for you, so be it.

 

[Nathan]

After 80, the quality of life becomes more important to the elderly than the longevity, but younger seniors don’t want to hear this.

Not sure what motivates you to make this claim, I have several friends in their mid 80s who have an admirable level of quality of life. I pay attention to what they are doing to maintain that, as I want to be where they are, when I "grow up". They are my role models.

 

[Devi]

These are the Senior Forums — seniorforums.com
Within it are individual forums; just click on the white "Forums" tab at the top left to see them.

The first few forums are:
Retirement
Retirement Living
Seniors Living Alone
etc.

And within those forums are individual threads — the initiating thread, followed within the thread by whatever comments might have been posted.

 

[Chet]

Semantics aside, I'll be an "octo" in a few months but I don't dwell on it. My philosophy is to just keep moving and don't think about it. I'd rather be hit in the back by a freight train than watching as it comes at me.