Getting to Know the Real You: What Makes You You?

Ruthanne

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Midwest
I am in this situation where people who don't know me at all making snap judgements of me. Ever happen to you?

It makes me think that we all can do this and how do we really know someone without their input and their life story?

We all have things about us that make us unique, we all have our own personalities, our virtues and our downfalls..so why are we so quick to pass judgement on others? I don't know why but maybe it is a way to satisfy our curiosity without really trying much.

So, after all of that, I ask what makes you you? Tell me about you and the things you wish to be remembered for.

Feel free to comment on any of the above. Thanks.:sentimental:
 

I find it takes a good deal of time to know anyone, especially so on the internet.
However, first impressions are powerful and probably yield about 50% of all that is necessary to know.

What I wish to be remembered for? I hope I am remembered as a good natured person who was slow to anger.
I would like people to say about me some of the things that were said about my mother after she died.
She was generous to a fault and always kind to people and animals.
In as much as these things might be said about me, it is because of her example.

I am not a clone of my mother, or my father either for that matter, but my family was a powerful force in shaping the me that I have become.
Other influences include my education and the books that I have read.

Last, and certainly not least, I have been carved in the hand of my Creator. I am a new creation.
 
Thank you Warri. I think that first impressions are not a real indicator of what a person is like but some like to think that.

I think it is more necessary to keep a person's mind open about others continually and that 50% of what a person is like is often hard to determine without body language on the net or their personal history. Also people can change and it's good to keep that in mind, too. It's really hard to get to know someone online.

In my OP the situation I am in is not an online situation but one where I am being misjudged by someone who doesn't even know me well at all.

You have always struck me as an intelligent and nice person.
 

I tell my story whenever it is relevant to whatever topic. Other than that, I don't worry about what someone thinks of me. Of course, I never try purposely to offend, but one never knows how anyone will take whatever you might say. As far as real life, I have my friends of many, many years. They know we well, and that's really how I prefer it.
 
What makes me me?
Dunno
Just started looking myself over not very long ago
Haven’t bothered myself
So….so far, so good

What others think?
Actually, I just wait for gossip about me gets back to me
……and laugh and laugh and laugh

What do I wish to be remembered for?
Considering borrowing money from all my friends
And never paying it back
At the very least, I won’t be soon forgotten
 
Oh yea, nobody has a clue about what makes me tick. I’m of the age that I really don’t care any longer.
Thank you, I'm getting there, too.

I tell my story whenever it is relevant to whatever topic. Other than that, I don't worry about what someone thinks of me. Of course, I never try purposely to offend, but one never knows how anyone will take whatever you might say. As far as real life, I have my friends of many, many years. They know we well, and that's really how I prefer it.
People will misunderstand us often I find so we can't really afford to worry to much about what they think. Glad you have many friends.

What makes me me?
Dunno
Just started looking myself over not very long ago
Haven’t bothered myself
So….so far, so good

What others think?
Actually, I just wait for gossip about me gets back to me
……and laugh and laugh and laugh

What do I wish to be remembered for?
Considering borrowing money from all my friends
And never paying it back
At the very least, I won’t be soon forgotten
Haha, you're so funny Gary!;)
 
Thank you Warri. I think that first impressions are not a real indicator of what a person is like but some like to think that.

I think it is more necessary to keep a person's mind open about others continually and that 50% of what a person is like is often hard to determine without body language on the net or their personal history. Also people can change and it's good to keep that in mind, too. It's really hard to get to know someone online.

In my OP the situation I am in is not an online situation but one where I am being misjudged by someone who doesn't even know me well at all.

You have always struck me as an intelligent and nice person.
I agree with you Ruthanne. It’s hard enough getting to really know people but I think it’s harder online.
We don’t hear tone of voice, our giggles or laughter, a quick wink, facial expressions , body language etc., so we aren’t able to express our uniqueness through written word only.

I’m not really sure how I come across to others. Most of the time I’m playfully being a total goofball but I’m starting to learn that it’s not the best form of communication since it can annoy others . I have a hard time sticking to the serious side of things whereas humour comes naturally and easily.

One way I learn more about others , is by reading their past threads. For instance, I had the pleasure of reading your thread on feminism, Ruthanne, which was excellent. I had even written a long detailed post to add only to realize it was closed. Warrigal had some incredible posts in that thread too which stood out and told me a bit about the two of you which was nice.

What do I wish to remembered for?

I wish to be remembered for my HUGE heart, generous soul and my sense of humour. I usually manage to make people laugh or at least put a smile on peoples face. Another thing I’d love to be remembered for is my creativity( gift giving / paintings and carvings , cookies etc) and singing voice. I’m always singing and laughing.
 
I agree with you Ruthanne. It’s hard enough getting to really know people but I think it’s harder online.
We don’t hear tone of voice, our giggles or laughter, a quick wink, facial expressions , body language etc., so we aren’t able to express our uniqueness through written word only.

I’m not really sure how I come across to others. Most of the time I’m playfully being a total goofball but I’m starting to learn that it’s not the best form of communication since it can annoy others . I have a hard time sticking to the serious side of things whereas humour comes naturally and easily.

One way I learn more about others , is by reading their past threads. For instance, I had the pleasure of reading your thread on feminism, Ruthanne, which was excellent. I had even written a long detailed post to add only to realize it was closed. Warrigal had some incredible posts in that thread too which stood out and told me a bit about the two of you which was nice.

What do I wish to remembered for?

I wish to be remembered for my HUGE heart, generous soul and my sense of humour. I usually manage to make people laugh or at least put a smile on peoples face. Another thing I’d love to be remembered for is my creativity( gift giving / paintings and carvings , cookies etc) and singing voice. I’m always singing and laughing.
Yes, it's really hard to communicate online and be understood totally. I think the Feminism thread was closed because someone said/wrote something political. Glad you enjoyed it! I, too, am a creative person or I was more so but want to get more back into it. You have wonderful qualities!
 
As for my answer to my own question I am a very kind person with an outward thick crust from being told to strengthen up by many because I was always too nice to people and got taken advantage of a lot! A police officer told me to carry a baseball bat! I didn't do that but became more "tough" over the years so not to be hurt so bad again like I had been many, many times.

I am a big animal advocate and have been taking care of rescue animals for over 25 years. I help people on the street if and when I can if I feel they are telling the truth which is most of the time. I am always ready to help others when I can.
 
I'm the product of my upbringing, the offspring of my strong mother and my fun-loving adventurous father. My grandfathers were hard workers and instilled that in their offspring. My grandmothers were loving nurturing women and passed that along. I come from a long line of pioneer women who did what they had to do and didn't waste time complaining about it.....the true Wonder Women.

I hope I got the best (and fear I got the worst) of all of them. Like Popeye, I yam who I yam.....and that's all that I'll be.
 
I'm the product of my upbringing, the offspring of my strong mother and my fun-loving adventurous father. My grandfathers were hard workers and instilled that in their offspring. My grandmothers were loving nurturing women and passed that along. I come from a long line of pioneer women who did what they had to do and didn't waste time complaining about it.....the true Wonder Women.

I hope I got the best (and fear I got the worst) of all of them. Like Popeye, I yam who I yam.....and that's all that I'll be.
That's all we all can be: ourselves. Thank you!

I really couldn’t care less what people think of me, those that mind don’t matter and those that matter don’t mind ...
Yes, Thanks.
 
My guess is that it means:

Oh, if only the Lord would give us
The power to see ourselves as others see us!
It would stop us from making many blunders,
And having foolish ideas.
 
Robert Burns put it beautifully....

O wad some Power the giftie gie us
To see oursels as ithers see us!
It wad frae mony a blunder free us,
An' foolish notion:

Being born and raised a Scot and since learning and memorising that Rabbie Burns poem at school ( among many others) ... the simple line ''O wad some Power the giftie gie us
To see oursels as ithers see us!'' ...is often at the forefront of my mind even 45 years or more after leaving school , whenver I'm tempted to mock another in real life!!


The line comes from the last verse of ''to a Louse'' written by Burns, when he notices a louse on a lady's hat, and in the poem he chastises the louse for having the temerity to dare land on something or someone of higher status than itself...then further in the poem Burns relates that the louse wouldn't realise that it was a lesser mortal than any other living thing.. and therefore everyone is equal, and no-one has the right to decry anyone else without accepting that we can all be viewed differently by others than we view ourselves


For anyone interested...

Ha! whare ye gaun, ye crowlan ferlie!
Your impudence protects you sairly:
I canna say but ye strunt rarely,
Owre gawze and lace;
Tho’ faith, I fear ye dine but sparely,
On sic a place.

Ye ugly, creepan, blastet wonner,
Detested, shunn’d, by saunt an’ sinner,
How daur ye set your fit upon her,
Sae fine a Lady!
Gae somewhere else and seek your dinner,
On some poor body.

Swith, in some beggar’s haffet squattle;
There ye may creep, and sprawl, and sprattle,
Wi’ ither kindred, jumping cattle,
In shoals and nations;
Whare horn nor bane ne’er daur unsettle,
Your thick plantations.

Now haud you there, ye’re out o’ sight,
Below the fatt’rels, snug and tight,
Na faith ye yet! ye’ll no be right,
Till ye’ve got on it,
The vera topmost, towrin height
O’ Miss’s bonnet.

My sooth! right bauld ye set your nose out,
As plump an’ gray as onie grozet:
O for some rank, mercurial rozet,
Or fell, red smeddum,
I’d gie you sic a hearty dose o’t,
Wad dress your droddum!

I wad na been surpriz’d to spy
You on an auld wife’s flainen toy;
Or aiblins some bit duddie boy,
On ’s wylecoat;
But Miss’s fine Lunardi, fye!
How daur ye do ’t?

O Jenny dinna toss your head,
An’ set your beauties a’ abread!
Ye little ken what cursed speed
The blastie’s makin!
Thae winks and finger-ends, I dread,
Are notice takin!

O wad some Pow’r the giftie gie us
To see oursels as others see us!
It wad frae monie a blunder free us
An’ foolish notion:
What airs in dress an’ gait wad lea’e us,
And ev’n Devotion!
 
So, after all of that, I ask what makes you you? Tell me about you and the things you wish to be remembered for.

"She is a dancer" describes me, and I didn't even step onto a ballroom floor until 10 years ago. :D
 


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