Girlfriends of the past.

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Sometimes, I remember old flames, high school girlfriends, and lovers of the past.
A week or so ago, I thought about a girl I dated for a couple months in high school. She lived 45 miles east of me, and I was fixing to move 70 miles in the other direction.
Tried the long distance thing for a little bit, but we called it quits, and I assume no hard feelings.
Yesterday, I had a friend request from her on FB.
I haven't seen this girl in almost 50 years, but it was really nice to know she was still around and still remembered me.
Anybody here suddenly remember an old flame, or hear from them?
 

Oh yea. I have thought maybe it would be fun. I thought I had found a high school girlfriend, and then chickened out. So much life has happened, and we are totally different people now. Sure we also are what we were too, but all things must pass. :)
 

I divorced at 48 and a few years later by chance reconnected thru FB with my highschool girlfriend, we had dated my junior and senior years. She was the first girl I loved and even though I hadn't seen or spoke to her in forty years memories of her were special to me.

Eventually we met up, she was still very attractive but that was about all she had going for her. Her life was a train wreck of bad decisions, and honestly she just didn't seem very intelligent and I couldn't help thinking she was no one I would want to be in a relationship with. On the other hand I felt a need to try and save her, white knight syndrome I guess.

Fortunately age had made me wiser so I quickly backed away. I kind of wish I hadn't seen her again, the grown up version of her tarnished those special memories I had.
 
C50 said:
I divorced at 48 and a few years later by chance reconnected thru FB with my highschool girlfriend, we had dated my junior and senior years. She was the first girl I loved and even though I hadn't seen or spoke to her in forty years memories of her were special to me.

Eventually we met up, she was still very attractive but that was about all she had going for her. Her life was a train wreck of bad decisions, and honestly she just didn't seem very intelligent and I couldn't help thinking she was no one I would want to be in a relationship with. On the other hand I felt a need to try and save her, white knight syndrome I guess.

Fortunately age had made me wiser so I quickly backed away. I kind of wish I hadn't seen her again, the grown up version of her tarnished those special memories I had.
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They always say never go back !...and I've found this to be true about almost everything in life..... people change, places change.. nothing is as we remember it , sadly..
 
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A couple years ago, I was contacted by an old flame from over 50 years ago. She left an apologetic phone message in case I was not the guy she was looking for, as I am not on face book or any ordinary search engines that I know of. I called her back and we talked for a couple of hours. But nothing romantic is going to happen because she is married, has kids who have their own kids, and has a totally different life style than my own. And from what I can tell, she seems quite happy with her situation. I did enjoy talking with her, however.
 
I did not have many girlfriends in High School because I was a real nerd. The ones I have checked on via social media, had no presences. I suppose they married and changed their names.
 
I also once ran into an old girlfriend at a wedding. My good friends daughter was getting married, I had met her fiancee a couple of times and thought he looked familiar but that was it. Then at the reception they introduced the family and I recognized the grooms grandmother instantly, she was the mother of a girl I dated when I was around twenty five.

This girl worked with me and was the daughter of the vise president of my employer, I didn't want to go out with her but she wore me down with her womanly wiles. She was one of the strangest women I ever dated but I couldn't stay away, and yes it ended up causing problems at work.

Turned out her son was strange as well, my friends daughter divorced him after a few years.
 
hollydolly said:
They always say never go back !...and I've found this to be true about almost everything in life..... people change, places change.. nothing is as we remember it , sadly..
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You're right - never go back. Occasionally, I wonder about old girlfriends and I discovered purely by chance, that one had a book published. I also found a rather damning opinion of it ! Sadly, I found again by chance, that some of my friends from school days, had died at a relatively young age.
 


My brother contacted a woman he knew from high school on Facebook. Then she was young and hot and single, but now she was old and grey and married to a judo master or something. He had coffee with her, just as friends, but she was weird and going after him, so he threw away his phone and then I couldn't contact him either.
 
School romance at 16 - she giggled a lot and wanted to play tricks on me?? - only child father owned an iron foundry in our local town - I could have been quids in - but no sparks were flying so ended it. she appeared in my drive way a year later and wanted to talk things over - I said yea ok but not now I got any appointment with a group of friends - never seen her again - in those days some girls got pregnant and when they got ditched tried to load it onto former friends? - we were all aware and wary of that syndrome.

- I did a search years later on a "friends re-united" site and discovered she had got married to a much older man maybe had one child and died from cancer in her 50's she was a nice girl but the events and timing were all wrong - I may have made a fortune out of the iron foundry though??

ps: I wrote a poem about the whole saga and posted on this site in the poetry section under a different name of course and can't recall??
 
I have dated numerous women, but I can only claim that I have had just 2 girlfriends.
Sometimes, it is hard to determine a girlfriend from a women that I dated often, so I guess we can say it really comes down to how we determine the definition of who or what makes her a girlfriend. (I’m only thinking out loud.)
 
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My brother contacted a woman he knew from high school on Facebook. Then she was young and hot and single, but now she was old and grey and married to a judo master or something. He had coffee with her, just as friends, but she was weird and going after him, so he threw away his phone and then I couldn't contact him either.
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threw away his phone ?.. that was a bit drastic wasn't it ?...lol... he could have just changed his number :D
 
I never dated girls :unsure: but I had connected with some old besties on Facebook.
One of my 1st husbands old friends found me and told me him and others wanted to date
me back then but was afraid (of 1st husband I was dating at the time) they would get beat up.
So you never know sometimes what may have been. I could have been interested in one of them
if they had spoken up.
 

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