Gossip

I gossip to my wife only about personal things related to church people. I never gossip in front of others about church people. We've had some "spark-flying" discussions because we are members of different churches (long story, I won't go into now). She's a progressive, but I belong to a conservative church. However, I have surprised her on some of the tenets brought up, because I have been very liberal at times, depending on the subject. She calls me a moderate conservative.
So I would have to say I'm a 2 on the scale above.
 
I like to hear a little juicy gossip but I rarely disclose any information.

I have also been known to float a little harmless gossip just to see if and where it surfaces, it helps me get an idea of who in my limited circle is a 10.

So I guess I would fall into the 1 end of the range.
 

I'm seriously a 1-2. I'm nosy but can keep a secret very well. As long as I know, who cares if anyone else does! I may relay things to trusted need to know people but that's rare.
 
I can't imagine that anyone would self-identify as a 10 on this scale. We all think we are a 1 or a 2.
 
Maybe a 1. I never tell anyone gossipy things. I don't know people who are interested in gossip. :eek:
 
Hoot N Annie said:
I can't imagine that anyone would self-identify as a 10 on this scale. We all think we are a 1 or a 2.
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You may be partially correct. However, I have known people who repeat everything they hear or know. It's irritating and obvious. Rumor mills around work are a prime example.
 
Depends on who it's about. I can enjoy a juicy tid-bit on occasion. I have never in my life set out a piece of gossip, real or fabricated to see how far it would go. I'll say a 2 because even if it's "juicy" I can take it or leave it.
 
Was never into gossiping, at work sometimes someone would come to me and want to tell me something but I had to promise I wouldn't repeat it. I always said that's okay, I don't need to know, if I can't repeat it. I figured they probably said that to a number of people they wanted to tell the same bit of gossip to. In my case maybe a one or two, because if I hear something of interest about someone we know, I will tell my husband about it, but that's about it for me.
 
I guess I an kind of cynical when someone tells me something about someone else. I always feel there are two sides to every story. I've never repeated gossip to anyone with the exception of my Husband. I know he will not repeat it to anyone else.
 
I don't like to gossip, but that has always been the case .I think that it can cause too much hurt , and I can't say that I'm interested in whispers behind the hand .
 
Sassycakes said:
I guess I an kind of cynical when someone tells me something about someone else. I always feel there are two sides to every story. I've never repeated gossip to anyone with the exception of my Husband. I know he will not repeat it to anyone else.
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Now you are probably in the minority in my experience. I find people rarely think of the other side. They hear and believe and want to believe. A lot of people do't think so good for you.
 
Kitties said:
............, I have known people who repeat everything they hear or know. It's irritating and obvious. Rumor mills around work are a prime example.
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I would say about myself that I dont have secrets (although I suppose I must have some :eek: ), but am trying to learn not to pass on things I've been told that I believe are just gossip - I make mistakes to my cost still though, and believe some of the nonesense sometimes.

So, hopefully I'm at the lower end of the scale though not a 1. as I'm aware how poor I am at keeping sercrets (my dad was the same according to my mother ;) ).
 
I would be a 1 and don't even like to hear gossip about others. Besides, I figure if the person I'm talking to is gossiping about someone else, there's a good chance they would/do gossip about me at the first opportunity. Do you really want to 'play' with someone like that?
 
I know people that are real snitches - can't wait to "dish dirt" and I've known some that were so anxious to gossip, they actually made up stuff and talked about it - like speculating on why the boss left early. I find unfounded talk tedious.
 
I guess I'm a five but I never repeat anything hurtful that I have heard and very careful who I repeat it to.Usually only to my sister in law and cousins wife and they do the same.Always harmless stories.
 
I would have to be a 5 as well. I'm careful passing on gossip. I would never initiate gossip. I have used it to my advantage against an adversary. All's fair in love, war, and work.

It can be very destructive. Use with care.
 
I always think it's because people have nothing better to do. If they led more interesting lives no need for gossip.
 
A "friend" of mine is prone to this characteristic

Silver said:
I always think it's because people have nothing better to do. If they led more interesting lives no need for gossip.
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I know I may be wrong or speaking out of turn but I'd say this "sort of friend" of mine (someone who has done me good turns anyway) is probably a bit prone to both repeating gossip and taking in gossip/information from what I'd think are unreliable sources, and it des create trouble sometimes. There is perhaps a bit of a drama queen about this guy, so he once told me an inspector had declared something was the case (it doesn't matter what the subject was okay) and then when I went along to my solicitor he turned around and said, no they hadn't said what he'd first declared to be the case, only that it "might be" :confused: !

I know that is confusing but what I'm leading up to is a point my great uncle used to repeat very often about the "danger of do-gooders" - I think this friend of mine pictures himself as a bit of a do-gooder sometimes and this leads him to behave as he does (winding you up, repeating gossip when he probably knows its untrue, and very often deliberately lying to cover his own tracks etc.). An odd friend therefore and I'm not sure whether we'll remain friends after he moves away from the area in a few weeks time.
 

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