Got a Case of the Lonelies, Anyone Else?

officerripley said:
Yeah, I'm lonely a lot and don't drive much at all anymore. Huzz is here sometimes gone sometimes, sometimes I'd like some female companionship but being out here in the boonies makes it hard. Luckily I've got him and our little dog and, last but not least this place!
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Loneliness is so real at times. Even with my pets I still need people at times. Enjoy some pie and music 🎶
 
Ruthanne said:
Here's a slice of each for you. Don't worry about the calories because it's virtual 🤣
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Your not getting off that easy, I can't get to that pie but I did grab ice cream at the store. You have got me craving pie, so I took a crust out of the freezer. Shall it be chocolate, lemon, appler or cherry? I will let you know when I decide.
 

I may do cherry, I was thinking lemon but that meringue can be tricky. Sometmes I do it well sometimes not so much, normally I would just slap on some cool whip but I don't have any in the freezer. I was just checking for ingredients.
 
Remy said:
I don't tend to get lonely. I did much more when younger. What I do is worry and feel isolated. But I have the cats. I'll work on some knitting, sewing or something. I'll pick the book up.

I hope you feel better soon Ruthanne
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Thanks everyone here has cheered me up tonight. I guess I'm not the only one who gets lonely. I hope your isolation and worry feelings resolve soon. I get those too.
 
You're not the only one. I have a partner, but he works 5 days a week. I go to the gym, the mall, food shopping and to Starbucks to be around other people. I'm an introvert, but I miss the social interaction I had when I was working. I had a large circle of "work friends", and there are very few that I am still in touch with. Many are still employed and too busy for a conversation.

I was ecstatic to have so much freedom during my first year of retirement. Now I feel like I'm in kind of a rut. Probably because it has been too hot to do anything outside for over 2 months. I watch TV during the day, but my problem is that I watch previously recorded late-night shows, and even though they are funny they frequently cover negative topics. I am so happy when a good, new drama is introduced because it provides an escape. I went to see Where The Crawdads Sing today at the theater. It was just great to get away from "everyday life" for 2 hours.

You're definitely not alone.
 
dseag2 said:
You're not the only one. I have a partner, but he works 5 days a week. I go to the gym, the mall, food shopping and to Starbucks to be around other people. I'm an introvert, but I miss the social interaction I had when I was working. I had a large circle of "work friends", and there are very few that I am still in touch with. Many are still employed and too busy for a conversation.

I was ecstatic to have so much freedom during my first year of retirement. Now I feel like I'm in kind of a rut. Probably because it has been too hot to do anything outside for over 2 months. I watch TV during the day, but my problem is that I watch previously recorded late-night shows, and even though they are funny they frequently cover negative topics. I am so happy when a good, new drama is introduced because it provides an escape. I went to see Where The Crawdads Sing today at the theater. It was just great to get away from "everyday life" for 2 hours.

You're definitely not alone.
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Thanks, yes some people don't even know us anymore after we retire sorry to say. Maybe some day they will see what it feels like to be lonely too. God help them.

I look for some positive stuff on TV too. It can be invigorating to watch. I watched a strange series on Netflix last night. What kept me watching it was to see what they came up with next. It was gruesome but also funny. lol
 
PamfromTx said:
I have alot of family ... all over Texas and no one calls me. I have to do the calling. It is hurtful but I just try not to think about it. The only one I can rely on when lonely is my sister Lucy. But even then... she still works and always sounds tired; so, I try not to call too often. I know how you feel, @Ruthanne .

I miss the friends that we made during our working days; but when we stopped working ~ the friends we had made forgot about us. It was fun while it lasted. We'd always have some event to go to.

If I lived near you, I'd surely visit you.

By the way, I have one nephew and his family who live in a neighboring city (McAllen) whom I have not heard from during the worst of times, i.e. cancer, kidney failure, etc. hospitalizations. Not one phone call.
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I think many people experience the same. Before I joined this forum, I made a lot of calls and talked to people. What I eventually noticed was the people who enjoyed talking weren't on FB. It took a while to make that discovery, but every person who had an interest in a long conversation had no social media.

Some of the others who were talkers at one time didn't talk as long, but they are active on social media. Now that I'm on the forum, I'm falling into the same maybe. You're right that the virus had an impact, knowing people probably turned to social media more for that reason.

I was sick and ended on a night schedule or I probably wouldn't have found the forum. The internet provides much to appreciate, but there is a downside. Now that I turned my schedule around, I will be sure to get out and visit people in person. The internet helps, but social media brings in energy of all kinds from all over creation and that can actually feel stressful.

In person, I know the people, so the visits are more relaxing. At the same time, I enjoy the forum. Thankfully people who are homebound have the internet and television for company.
 
Ruthanne said:
Thanks, yes some people don't even know us anymore after we retire sorry to say. Maybe some day they will see what it feels like to be lonely too. God help them.
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Boy is that ever the truth; a co-worker told me that years ago, "Five minutes after we walk out of here, they won't even remember our names let alone keep in touch like they promise." She was so right and the professors I worked with were already forgetting my name before I even retired, sigh.

Ruthanne said:
I watched a strange series on Netflix last night. What kept me watching it was to see what they came up with next. It was gruesome but also funny. lol
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Which one is it? I'd love to check it out!
 
officerripley said:
Boy is that ever the truth; a co-worker told me that years ago, "Five minutes after we walk out of here, they won't even remember our names let alone keep in touch like they promise." She was so right and the professors I worked with were already forgetting my name before I even retired, sigh.


Which one is it? I'd love to check it out!
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Something like The woman Across the Street watching the Girl in the Window. The starring character loves wine, then any kind of booze. It was weird.
 
palides2021 said:
It comes and goes with me. Sometimes, I get caught up in what I'm doing and don't think about it. Whenever I feel lonely, I get on the phone and call family or go out to the mall.
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I have some phone talkers but talking to family members helps the most. There have been losses, so I don't have much family here now. I spent a lot of time with my dad out and about until the virus came along. Since he passed away, I feel lonely. He was especially good company. Living on a night schedule with shingles didn't help matters. So thankful to be turned around as of now. I've noticed some people have been on the forum for quite some time, suggesting there is a benefit.
 
There are days when I'm so thankful I live alone and others when it feels pretty bleak. Sorry you have to deal with this too. Little things seem like mountains and if no one is around to hear about it I don't relish burdening someone else. My sons have their families and work...that's how it is. Just saying I get it.
 
In all honesty, I don't recall ever feeling lonely, even being alone between marriages, until Covid came along. I actually enjoyed my quiet times, never bored.
Then, the virus made me so aware of how social I was, and the deliberate isolation has taken a toll on me. Now I try to get back to normal, but the effort to stay in contact with friends takes focus. My life has changed. Yes, now I am aware there are brief periods of feeling lonely. Little did I realize what everyday contacts did for my well being, always took it for granted.

Now. I try to listen, truly listen when my friends share moments of frustration, disappointment, and days of feeling lonely.
 
Ruthanne said:
Something like The woman Across the Street watching the Girl in the Window. The starring character loves wine, then any kind of booze. It was weird.
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Oh, I saw that, it was hilarious, such a great send-up of those thriller movies. I especially liked the character of Buell, the handyman who was taking forever to fix her mailbox, lol, played by one of my favorite actors, Cameron Britton; he's also got a part in an upcoming Tom Hanks movie, A Man Called Otto (based on the book, A Man Called Ove by Fredrik Backman; Hanks is playing Otto, don't know which is Britton's character yet).
 
Right Now said:
In all honesty, I don't recall ever feeling lonely, even being alone between marriages, until Covid came along. I actually enjoyed my quiet times, never bored.
Then, the virus made me so aware of how social I was, and the deliberate isolation has taken a toll on me. Now I try to get back to normal, but the effort to stay in contact with friends takes focus. My life has changed. Yes, now I am aware there are brief periods of feeling lonely. Little did I realize what everyday contacts did for my well being, always took it for granted.

Now. I try to listen, truly listen when my friends share moments of frustration, disappointment, and days of feeling lonely.
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Yeah, Covid sure had an effect, didn't it, sigh. It sure seems like it's made people around here give up on even trying to socialize (and it was bad enough before!).
 
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