Got a Case of the Lonelies, Anyone Else?

dseag2 said:
You're not the only one. I have a partner, but he works 5 days a week. I go to the gym, the mall, food shopping and to Starbucks to be around other people. I'm an introvert, but I miss the social interaction I had when I was working. I had a large circle of "work friends", and there are very few that I am still in touch with. Many are still employed and too busy for a conversation.

I was ecstatic to have so much freedom during my first year of retirement. Now I feel like I'm in kind of a rut.

You're definitely not alone.
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Very similar here..... and since husband left a year ago, I'm totally on my own.. living in a semi rural area, there's no clubs to join ... so it's desperately lonely... if it wasn't for everyone on here.. I'd have barely anyone to interact with...
 
I do not get lonely but I am always busy with some project or other. Living in an apartment building with other seniors means everyone is home all the time. I have made close friends with a small group of them and they drop in to talk to me at various times through out most days. No matter what I am doing, I will stop to sit down and talk to them.

This forum is like a comfortable place to hang out. You can come here anytime and talk about almost anything. I find the more I posted the more I got to know everyone. Writing has always been my strongest way of communicating. So getting to know people by writing is easier for me.
 
Patricia said:
Was the online support group a different set up? I thought this was a senior forum but didn't realize it's a social media site. How to tell the difference before joining and signing in?
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The difference I found by researching it is that a forum is normally based on a certain topic (such as Seniors, rabbits, homesteading, etc.). Social Media is based on each profiles of each person. The person who posts their content makes it interesting to others who read it based on their personal connection.

Personally I think social media uses the free content and profiles of the people for profit only. They do not care about us. Which is why I like forums better even though what I saw in researching they say forums are disappearing. I hope not.
 
katlupe said:
The difference I found by researching it is that a forum is normally based on a certain topic (such as Seniors, rabbits, homesteading, etc.). Social Media is based on each profiles of each person. The person who posts their content makes it interesting to others who read it based on their personal connection.

Personally I think social media uses the free content and profiles of the people for profit only. They do not care about us. Which is why I like forums better even though what I saw in researching they say forums are disappearing. I hope not.
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We have a lot to thank @Matrix for ... without him.. we wouldn't have this forum and all the friends many of us have made over the years... Think about it folks.. if our Admin decided tomorrow that he didn't want to do this any more.. we'd all be lost... it's happened to so many other places.. this is why it's so irritating when people deliberately flout the rules and even argue with Admin..

Matrix doesn't Have to do this, this forum is not making him rich.. and very often I'm sure it's a headache to him, so really why people can't just remember this , and bear in mind this is a one man band, who can pull the plug on it at any time.
 
hollydolly said:
We have a lot to thank @Matrix for ... without him.. we wouldn't have this forum and all the friends many of us have made over the years... Think about it folks.. if our Admin decided tomorrow that he didn't want to do this any more.. we'd all be lost... it's happened to so many other places.. this is why it's so irritating when people deliberately flout the rules and even argue with Admin..

Matrix doesn't Have to do this, this forum is not making him rich.. and very often I'm sure it's a headache to him, so really why people can't just remember this , and bear in mind this is a one man band, who can pull the plug on it at any time.
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I do think about that. I belonged to a huge homesteading forum. When the original owner sold it, the new people used it for profit. Then they even took posts members made and inserted them into another forum they owned because that one was not doing so well.The lady who had her post put on the other forum was so mad because they took her name off the post like someone else had posted it. She let everyone know what happened and everyone left or stopped going there. Turned to fakebook instead.

Two other forums I belonged to that were really good too, just took down when the owner got tired of them. I miss both of those to this day. One was a low carb one and the other a NY homesteading one. Sad when they do that since you lose contact with people you have grown to care about.
 
katlupe said:
I do think about that. I belonged to a huge homesteading forum. When the original owner sold it, the new people used it for profit. Then they even took posts members made and inserted them into another forum they owned because that one was not doing so well.The lady who had her post put on the other forum was so mad because they took her name off the post like someone else had posted it. She let everyone know what happened and everyone left or stopped going there. Turned to fakebook instead.

Two other forums I belonged to that were really good too, just took down when the owner got tired of them. I miss both of those to this day. One was a low carb one and the other a NY homesteading one. Sad when they do that since you lose contact with people you have grown to care about.
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yes Kat, it's happened to me too, with several forums.. some very large indeed, and run by more than one person, in fact one was run by a national company who focuses on services for over 50's.. and still it folded it's chat forum .. It's not an understatement to say that People who'd made many friends, were devastated.

there are other forums in the UK ehich are very large,, they need a group of Moderators, but those mods on the whole are very cliquey, and they have their favourite posters, and if you're not in that circle, you'll have every post you make moderated severely ..

The generally hands off moderation on this forum is very rare, and Admin only steps in when there are rule breakages ..
 
Patricia said:
Was the online support group a different set up? I thought this was a senior forum but didn't realize it's a social media site. How to tell the difference before joining and signing in?
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Yes, It was called GROWW, and it was specifically for people who had suffered a loss. There were a number of chat rooms set up and monitored. That is the basic difference between that and SF. There is no real time interaction between members here at SF..
Unfortunately, GROWW is closed, but there is another site called widowed village hosted by Soaring Spirits.
Full disclosure-before any feels sorry for me, I met my wife there, and we have been married for almost 15 years :)
 
There's plenty of forums and websites for those who are widowed... but there's just nothing for people who have lost their spouses through divorce.. I mean a grieving website.. because losing a spouse this way, by separation or divorce, causes as much grief very often.. if not actually more.. yet there's so very little available for people who are in this position..
 
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