Got a Case of the Lonelies, Anyone Else?

I remember being on a rough work crew in my school days. Had mine lifted with a hobnailed boot a few times.
 

Ruthanne said:
Excuse me? You didn't create this site and obviously don't know what all this site is about. For one thing we express our feelings good and bad and it's been fine with the founder. If you have a problem with this thread feel free to go to another one. You don't dictate what is expressed here. And have a good evening.
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Sorry Ruthanne, I was trying to offer a kind word.
 

Me 4-but I recall something I asked a friend of mine years ago-
He is a psychologist and comes from India and I asked him to define happiness-
He said 1 Having someone to love, 2 having something to do, and 3 having something to look forward to.

I think of that third one a lot-for me it might be a call to a friend or two, or relative, or a really good meal, or a good movie, and although this was a Hindu family , I spent many Christmases and even Easter with them, as our kids were close in age, and they would treat the Holidays as most Christians do -so that they would have these events to look forward to.

I sure have people to love but having something to do, for me, as I get older ,is wishing I didn't have so much to do!
 
birdy said:
Holidays are difficult. Especially if you are left alone. My downward spiral always starts on my late husband's birthday and ends after his death anniversary. Sorry to be so glum. It's just the way things are for some of us.
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Same here. This will be the first holidays without my hubby. He died October 13th, then there was our anniversary the day after he passed, then his birthday would have been November 2nd. Thanksgiving was his favorite holiday and we always had his kids and I made the meal. Then there's Christmas coming. I didn't put out any decorations this year. No grandchildren to spoil and his kids live in AZ and CA so I won't have anyone here with me in PA. I'll be glad when this season is over.
 
Colleen said:
Same here. This will be the first holidays without my hubby. He died October 13th, then there was our anniversary the day after he passed, then his birthday would have been November 2nd. Thanksgiving was his favorite holiday and we always had his kids and I made the meal. Then there's Christmas coming. I didn't put out any decorations this year. No grandchildren to spoil and his kids live in AZ and CA so I won't have anyone here with me in PA. I'll be glad when this season is over.
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Hugs, Colleen. The holidays can be so hard, so instead of Happy New Year I'm going to wish you a better new year.
 
Ruthanne said:
I use the app more than my computer. I like using both but I can sit on the couch using the app. When I sit at the computer 🖥️ for too long my neck and back start hurting so that's the difference for me.

I am particularly feeling lonely. I was thinking of inviting someone for Christmas but they may be visiting their relatives. You can start a conversation with me if you like.
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Covid is around here too-I sure hope you recover fast!

Covid changed everything in my farm community, as there are also many seniors here, some senior former farmers, and we just do not visit each other like we used to, around the holidays. But we call each other.

They say cold weather does not give people colds , a virus does, but I saw a few people yesterday, when it got up to 60 degrees, in sweaters or light jackets and I had a winter coat and hat on, like a few others in the $ store, because the temps dipped within an hour or so. I do think that being in cold weather too long, if we are elderly, takes stamina from us, enough to catch a cold from someone else.
 
Ruthanne said:
Ok, even though I prefer right now to live alone with my little pets I get occasions where I feel lonely for some companionship, conversation, interacting. I want to talk to someone. Anyone else here feel that way now? 🐶 🐦 :D✌️🐸🐥🦕🐠🦢🦜🌷🌹🌈☀️
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Loneliness can be experienced even by those not living alone, it is not always noticed by others. It's something inside a person that is an emptiness.
 
Combat loneliness by being your own best friend. Treat yourself special. It’s not being selfish or self-centered.

Loneliness is a state of mind. Distract yourself with something interesting …. A good book, music you enjoy, an absorbing puzzle (e-jigsaw puzzles is my latest distraction).
 
helenbacque said:
Combat loneliness by being your own best friend. Treat yourself special. It’s not being selfish or self-centered.

Loneliness is a state of mind. Distract yourself with something interesting …. A good book, music you enjoy, an absorbing puzzle (e-jigsaw puzzles is my latest distraction).
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Loneliness can have serious health repercussions. It comes in different forms for different people and has different causes. It’s important to realize why we feel lonely, because only then can we understand how we might address it.
 
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