Got a Case of the Lonelies, Anyone Else?

I'm still in touch with 2 girls from school. We go back to 1951, in fact one of them gave me a photo of us in grade 4 primary school. We looked so cute in our uniforms. We have all turned 80 now and still enjoy meeting up with each other at least once a month. .
That's 👍. great. I never knew you were female until I checked your profile just now. Don't really know why I thought you were a male. Excuse me if that's offensive to you 🌻
 

That's 👍. great. I never knew you were female until I checked your profile just now. Don't really know why I thought you were a male. Excuse me if that's offensive to you 🌻
Not offended at all Ruthanne. I did put up a photo celebrating my 80th birthday, that should have been a good clue. :love:
 

Ruthanne, I know your dog is sick and I can really understand. Amy is 10 and has heart problems. Her half brother max is 7 and the past two days has thrown up 4 times a day mostly all night. I have barely slept. He’s my heart dog and I have been so worried.

I canceled my company for dinner and took him to the emergency vet. It was a big decision as it’s 500 to walk through the door. They gave him fluids, a shot for nausea and pills for nausea. I had a headache and was shaking by the time I got there. Besides my kids my fur babies are the most precious thing in my life. Sending love and light to both of you.
 
Yesterday was one of those difficult anniversaries that I don't talk about and thought I could rise above. I finally faced the fact that it was a sad occasion and went with the sorrow. Lonely, yes.
Sorry to hear about your day yesterday.🤗 For a long time I had a hard time letting this type of feelings flow but I have learned it's the best thing to do instead of trying to suppress them .
 
Ruthanne, I know your dog is sick and I can really understand. Amy is 10 and has heart problems. Her half brother max is 7 and the past two days has thrown up 4 times a day mostly all night. I have barely slept. He’s my heart dog and I have been so worried.

I canceled my company for dinner and took him to the emergency vet. It was a big decision as it’s 500 to walk through the door. They gave him fluids, a shot for nausea and pills for nausea. I had a headache and was shaking by the time I got there. Besides my kids my fur babies are the most precious thing in my life. Sending love and light to both of you.
Thank you for thinking of me, yes, I know it's very difficult to have the fur babies ill. It's great to know someone understands what I am going through but sorry you have to experience the heart break too. I've got her stabilized on one med and have a back up med too now. As long as I give it to her every 6 hours with very small quantities of food I special combinations she does the best. Att times she starts having an episode and I comfort her as much as I can and sometimes have had to give her the back up med. She has only let me use the device 3 times but even that's good.

I just keep trying everything possible to help and comfort her. Other than that she is a happy, relatively healthy doggie. I found having insurance for her really helps. After the deductible of 500.00 a year they pay me 90 percent of the illness bills that they cover. They do cover this condition she has. Other illnesses too.

They are the most reasonable insurance I've found. She is almost 14 as far as I know so her monthly cost is on the high side but I know it's better for me to use this insurance than not. If she ever needs an operation it's covered. She just had infected ears and insurance covered 90 percent of the Vet visit. It's a relief especially when they get older and start getting more illnesses.

Thanks so much for being there. You have been a Godsend to me!💗

I truly hope your doggos get better soon!
 
Ruthanne, what pet insurance do you have? Max stopped throwing up after his treatment last Saturday but then had a bad case of diarrhea on Monday which resolved itself in a day luckily. He’s been fine ever since. I’m glad your fur baby is doing better also.
 
When I email or communicate with someone new they often respond once, possibly twice briefly, then not again. It's like they are merely courteous with no desire for conversation or dialogue. On forums always or they don't reply at all. Lonely does not usually mean you want to talk with a stranger, apparently. Is this typical?
 
I read somewhere a while back that the reason older people have more trouble making friends than younger people (especially kids) do is that supposedly the older people give up too soon; if they don't "click" or hit it off with someone immediately, they give up.

I personally don't think that's the reason, not the only one anyway, that it usually is harder for older people to make friends, but if that is the reason, why wouldn't we older people give up quickly if we don't click with someone? We know we don't have that much time left and so become reluctant to waste time on a boring social encounter in the hopes that after 25 (or whatever) more boring get-togethers with that person, it might possibly turn into a friendship.

IIRC, the author of that article I read was middle-aged or younger, so what do they know anyhow? :rolleyes:
 
When my significant other went into a nursing home in July, I found myself living alone for the first time in over 40 years. It’s quite an adjustment, but being introverted helps! Her nursing home is 70 miles away and presently rife with Covid, so visiting isn’t easy. I’m grateful for my fur babies, but can go days with minimal or no human contact. Guess I’m still in the adjustment phase…
 
I have no family. My brothers are all dead and there are no other family. All the friends I had all my life are gone too. I live alone with no pets. I like being alone, have several hobbies like genealogy I can really get into. I knit, spin my own yarn on an antique wheel, paint, write short stories and have been published...still get lonely from time to time. I would love to chat here with someone. I watch tv at night while I knit socks.
 
When I email or communicate with someone new they often respond once, possibly twice briefly, then not again. It's like they are merely courteous with no desire for conversation or dialogue. On forums always or they don't reply at all. Lonely does not usually mean you want to talk with a stranger, apparently. Is this typical?
I'm not sure, being lonely myself, but I find learning how to be social after five years of isolation very confusing. I'm not sure what is "too much" to share or how little people want to hear. I'll reply to you. Vancouver BC Canada
 


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