Happiness in Living Alone

oldiebutgoody said:
So true. Many people have happy, fulfilled lives. Others like myself barely survive miserable lives. Some say the world is run by a just god but you'd never know it from my life. That's just the way it is.
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That statement is true for me too. Yet I still turn to God in my most miserable times and I seem to get through. I can't blame my troubles on God though, they were of my own makings. Bad choices for me.
 
I grew up in an abusive house. If that was marriage and family, no thanks.

Some people think I'm odd because I never married or had kids. But I guess it was protection in some ways. I can't say happy, but at least no one bothers me behind my front door. And I have the cats.
 
It was good to read of others experiences of living alone, good or otherwise. I am taking that step to get hopefully, peace and some contentment in my life. It has been a long time coming, (leaving ) a step I should have taken years ago, but my marriage vows were important to me, rightly or wrongly. At this moment I am quite relieved that I have finally made the decision to go.
 
My brother and I grew up in the same home with the same family. As much as I love being alone, my brother can't stand it. He has a lot of friends and is happily married. If I stop at his house, there is always a friend or two of his there. I do have more friends now since I moved here than ever before. Apartment buildings have socialization built in I guess.
 
Bellbird said:
It was good to read of others experiences of living alone, good or otherwise. I am taking that step to get hopefully, peace and some contentment in my life. It has been a long time coming, (leaving ) a step I should have taken years ago, but my marriage vows were important to me, rightly or wrongly. At this moment I am quite relieved that I have finally made the decision to go.
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Good luck in doing that! I did it and never looked back.
 
Meanderer said:
We have been married for 48 years, and our lives have developed into a peaceful place for us. We are like two lifeguards swimming alone, each one alert and ready to save the other. I cannot imagine living alone at any age. When she has gone for a week to visit our daughter in Colorado, it was like my world was empty.

Recently, I have been thinking on our marriage vows, and what a comfort they are. As I thought of single people, unmarried, widowed, divorced or other, I wondered if there was a set of vows for them, alone. If not, maybe there should be. Maybe there needs to be.:confused:
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After having the occasion to re-visit this thread this morning, I started to think again about Vows for the Single Person. I found a review of a book by Jana Bennett Singleness and the Church: A New Theology of the Single Life. Although it is written from the Catholic point of view, is covers the subject in a way we might all find something for ourselves. She talks about how we all go through "seasons of singleness" in our life at some time. She also talks about “impermanent, non-vowed single states of life.” You may find it helpful. (Read More)
 
When I lived alone (twice), I was in my early 20s. I loved it. Of course I did! I had lots of friends who visited, and two of my best friends lived in the same house (which was divided into 4 one-bedroom apartments. Plus I had two cats, a fiance, and no shortage of things to do and people to do them with.

Now, I wouldn't mind living alone with my dog, as long as I lived in a certain city in which I have relative and many friends, even though I haven't lived there in 32 years. The trouble is, I don't like the political atmosphere there in many ways that I feel strongly about. No, it's not in Texas.
 
Hello everyone,

I'm new here. You can call me Trisha. I've been living alone since my son went off to college 2 years ago. My hubby passed away several years earlier. I'll be hitting 65 soon, but I have kept busy with classes (going for my PhD - I've wanted to do this ever since I was a teenager) and doing some writing, painting, and music. I had spent much of my adult life tending to others, now I'm tending to myself.

I think I've worn both hats - being comfortably alone, and wanting to be with others. Like some of you here, I've grown used to being alone, and like others, I sometimes wouldn't mind having a companion or someone to socialize with. Does that make sense? Keeping busy helps, but when I see the couples around me, I sometimes want to be hugged again. I had written a poem a few years back about being my own best friend, and that's what I've learned. We have to love ourselves first before we can love others.
All the best.
 
palides2021 said:
Hello everyone,

I'm new here. You can call me Trisha. I've been living alone since my son went off to college 2 years ago. My hubby passed away several years earlier. I'll be hitting 65 soon, but I have kept busy with classes (going for my PhD - I've wanted to do this ever since I was a teenager) and doing some writing, painting, and music. I had spent much of my adult life tending to others, now I'm tending to myself.

I think I've worn both hats - being comfortably alone, and wanting to be with others. Like some of you here, I've grown used to being alone, and like others, I sometimes wouldn't mind having a companion or someone to socialize with. Does that make sense? Keeping busy helps, but when I see the couples around me, I sometimes want to be hugged again. I had written a poem a few years back about being my own best friend, and that's what I've learned. We have to love ourselves first before we can love others.
All the best.
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palides2021 said:
Hello everyone,

I'm new here. You can call me Trisha. I've been living alone since my son went off to college 2 years ago. My hubby passed away several years earlier. I'll be hitting 65 soon, but I have kept busy with classes (going for my PhD - I've wanted to do this ever since I was a teenager) and doing some writing, painting, and music. I had spent much of my adult life tending to others, now I'm tending to myself.

I think I've worn both hats - being comfortably alone, and wanting to be with others. Like some of you here, I've grown used to being alone, and like others, I sometimes wouldn't mind having a companion or someone to socialize with. Does that make sense? Keeping busy helps, but when I see the couples around me, I sometimes want to be hugged again. I had written a poem a few years back about being my own best friend, and that's what I've learned. We have to love ourselves first before we can love others.
All the best.
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It makes sense that you want a companion. Maybe I am happy living alone because I do have a relationship with a wonderful man but we do not live together. And we do not spend every minute together. Though we do a lot of things together and talk on the phone all day off and on.
 
WheatenLover said:
When I lived alone (twice), I was in my early 20s. I loved it. Of course I did! I had lots of friends who visited, and two of my best friends lived in the same house (which was divided into 4 one-bedroom apartments. Plus I had two cats, a fiance, and no shortage of things to do and people to do them with.

Now, I wouldn't mind living alone with my dog, as long as I lived in a certain city in which I have relative and many friends, even though I haven't lived there in 32 years. The trouble is, I don't like the political atmosphere there in many ways that I feel strongly about. No, it's not in Texas.
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Florida??
 
oldiebutgoody said:
"I will be gracious to whom I will be gracious" ~ Exodus 33:18
God as "creator of ALL evil" ~ Isaiah 45:7

Perhaps that is an appellation that is apropos. ;)
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Irwin has taken us off-topic but I can't ignore his blasphemy by calling God a disgusting name which I won't repeat. I have addressed Irwin's comment in my last few paragraphs.

@oldiebutgoody
In my Bible, Exodus 33:18 says "Moses responded, "Then show me your glorious presence"
In my Bible,

Isaiah 45:7 ...Plucking a verse out of context as with Isaiah 45:7 is usually not a true meaning. One must also be careful of translations from Hebrew where several meanings could be used for the same word. But lets stick with looking at this in context.

Also, this verse you posted was from the Old Testament before the punishment for sin was paid for on the cross in the New Testament by a Savior...Jesus. God's love for us is what caused Him to forgive our sin nature as documented in the New Testament.

Irwin said:
If the world is run by a god who favors some over others, that would make him or her an [disgusting expletive removed by me]
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The context of Isaiah 45:7 makes it clear that something other than “bringing moral evil into existence” is in mind. The context of Isaiah 45:7 is God rewarding Israel for obedience and punishing Israel for disobedience. (remember sin was punished in the old testament) God pours out salvation and blessings on those whom He favors.

@Irwin God loves everybody but he can't bless those who don't believe in Him or don't love Him, right? Would you favor those who hate you? Of course not.

God brings judgment on those who continue to rebel against Him. “Woe to him who quarrels with his Master” Isaiah 45:9 That is the person to whom God brings “evil” and “disaster.” So, rather than saying that God created “moral evil,” Isaiah 45:7 is presenting a common theme of Scripture – that God brings disaster on those who continue in hard-hearted rebellion against Him.

I'm disappointed to see 2 members give a "Love" and one giving a "Like" reaction to Irwin's post for calling God a filthy disgusting
name. And suggesting God should favor the likes of those who hate Him enough to call him low-life filthy names.

Blasphemy is the greatest of all sins. The consequences are also the greatest of all consequences.
 
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