Happy thoughts to make us smile when sadness barges into our lives.

Shalimar

Shalimar

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I don't know how others deal with unexpected sadness in their lives, but what often works for me is to concentrate on the warmth, love, and laughter that good people on and offline enrich my life with. It is all too

easy to dwell on the negatives to the exclusion of all else. That way lies despair, and a long slip into the pit of depression. Soooooo, thanks to all my friends on and offline for being the rainbows in my life. Your support is

appreciated more than you know. Hugs! Anyone else with pearls of wisdom to share on this topic? Who/what are your rainbows?
 





  • Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room.

    One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs.

    His bed was next to the room's only window.

    The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.

    The men talked for hours on end.

    They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on
    vacation..

    Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.

    The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.

    The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake.Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color
    and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.

    As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine this picturesque scene.

    One warm afternoon, the man by the window described a parade passing by.

    Although the other man could not hear the band -he could see it in his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with
    descriptive words.

    Days, weeks and months passed.One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body
    of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep.

    She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.

    As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window.The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left
    him alone.

    Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window besides the bed.

    It faced a blank wall.

    The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this
    window.

    The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.

    She said, 'Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.'

    Epilogue:

    There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations.Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled. If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can't buy.    ​
 
Just what's needed some positive thoughts shared hugs and good friends oh and lots of these virtual or otherwise. :bighug:
 

For me getting out in nature, watching the birds, wildlife and soaking in the beauty of this earth and the heavens above brings me happiness. We all experience sadness at times, a part of life, but as you say Shalimar better to deal with it but not dwell on it. Misery loves company, so steering clear of toxic people is always wise to do, life is too precious and too short for that kind of negativity.

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Music like this has always made me happy.

 
For me getting out in nature, watching the birds, wildlife and soaking in the beauty of this earth and the heavens above brings me happiness.

Exactly...the nature reserve with favorite tunes on my MP3. Then I'll stop by the dog park, Sophie is dog aggressive now and Callie isn't a long distance hiker...so I'm alone. But I sit on some of the gym equipment and tushie rub every pup that comes up to me. Sometimes the owners will say " Look at him! I'm next!!!!". Dogs adore acrylic nails. Later I'll kiss my new pup friends goodbye and finish my walk. After 6 or 7 miles you're sweaty but it definitely clears your head.
 
I saw Mr.&Mrs. Quail in the yard this afternoon; they looked fairly plump for this time of year.

I equate the presence of the quail as a sign that Nature is in good health....that brings me a peaceful feeling.
 
Well, the hospital and Walmart stories aren't exactly rainbows ...

When my best friend died years ago at a young age, all I wanted to do for months afterwards was see things that would make me laugh. I started watching afternoon Nickelodeon cartoons because they were so funny I laughed out loud. The Rugrats, Doug, The Angry Beavers, Hey Arnold! I also started watching Home Improvement (it was still in production back then).

Anything to make me laugh.

I recently lost 2 of my best friends and another, new, friend (they didn't die, they just left my life). I am still sad about that, and it's half a year now.

This afternoon I saw this and it made me laugh out loud, so I offer it here in hopes it will make others laugh out loud too:

[h=2]How to give a cat a pill ... and a dog, too[/h][h=3]How to give a cat a pill:[/h]
  • Pick up cat and cradle it in the crook of your left arm as if holding a baby. Position right forefinger and thumb on either side of cat's mouth and gently apply pressure to cheeks while holding pill in right hand. As cat opens mouth, pop pill into mouth. Allow cat to close mouth and swallow.
  • Retrieve pill from floor and cat from behind sofa. Cradle cat in left arm and repeat process.
  • Retrieve cat from bedroom, and throw soggy pill away.
  • Take new pill from foil wrap, cradle cat in left arm, holding rear paws tightly with left hand. Force jaws open and push pill to back of mouth with right forefinger. Hold mouth shut for a count of ten.
  • Retrieve pill from goldfish bowl and cat from top of wardrobe. Call spouse from garden.
  • Kneel on floor with cat wedged firmly between knees, hold front and rear paws. Ignore low growls emitted by cat. Get spouse to hold head firmly with one hand while forcing wooden ruler into mouth. Drop pill down ruler and rub cat's throat vigorously.
  • Retrieve cat from curtain rail, get another pill from foil wrap. Make note to buy new ruler and repair curtains. Carefully sweep shattered figurines and vases from hearth and set to one side for gluing later.
  • Wrap cat in large towel and get spouse to lie on cat with head just visible from below armpit. Put pill in end of drinking straw, force mouth open with pencil, and blow down drinking straw.
  • Check label to make sure pill not harmful to humans, drink 1 beer to take taste away. Apply Band-Aid to spouse's forearm and remove blood from carpet with cold water and soap.
  • Retrieve cat from neighbor's shed. Get another pill. Open another beer. Place cat in cupboard, and close door onto neck, to leave head showing. Force mouth open with dessert spoon. Flick pill down throat with elastic band.
  • Fetch screwdriver from garage and put cupboard door back on hinges. Drink beer. Fetch bottle of Scotch. Pour shot, drink. Apply cold compress to cheek and check records for date of last tetanus shot. Apply whiskey compress to cheek to disinfect. Toss back another shot. Throw T-shirt away and fetch new one from bedroom.
  • Call fire department to retrieve the damn cat from tree across the road. Apologize to neighbor who crashed into fence while swerving to avoid cat. Take last pill from foil-wrap.
  • Tie the little @!!@#@#$%'s front paws to rear paws with garden twine and bind tightly to leg of dining table, find heavy-duty pruning gloves from shed. Push pill into mouth followed by large piece of steak filet. Be rough about it. Hold head vertically and pour 2 pints of water down throat to wash pill down.
  • Consume remainder of Scotch. Get spouse to drive you to the emergency room, sit quietly while doctor stitches fingers and forearm and remove pill remnants from right eye. Call furniture shop on way home to order new table.
  • Arrange for SPCA to collect mutant cat from hell and call local pet shop to see if they have any hamsters.

[h=3]How to give a dog a pill:[/h]
  • Wrap it in cheese.
(Submitted by Dr. John Delack, Saskatoon, Saskatchewan)

source:
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC372253/

 
Shalimar said:
I don't know how others deal with unexpected sadness in their lives, but what often works for me is to concentrate on the warmth, love, and laughter that good people on and offline enrich my life with. It is all too

easy to dwell on the negatives to the exclusion of all else. That way lies despair, and a long slip into the pit of depression. Soooooo, thanks to all my friends on and offline for being the rainbows in my life. Your support is

appreciated more than you know. Hugs! Anyone else with pearls of wisdom to share on this topic? Who/what are your rainbows?
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Hey! Wait a minute! I thought that you were the support!:eek:mg1: Acceptance is the key for me. Life is what it is. I've been extremely fortunate to carry a light load. I agree with you that its great to have the sympathetic ears on here when you have to dump something. "The Simpson's" work pretty well for me too.
 
Guitarist said:
Well, the hospital and Walmart stories aren't exactly rainbows ...

When my best friend died years ago at a young age, all I wanted to do for months afterwards was see things that would make me laugh. I started watching afternoon Nickelodeon cartoons because they were so funny I laughed out loud. The Rugrats, Doug, The Angry Beavers, Hey Arnold! I also started watching Home Improvement (it was still in production back then).

Anything to make me laugh.

I recently lost 2 of my best friends and another, new, friend (they didn't die, they just left my life). I am still sad about that, and it's half a year now.

This afternoon I saw this and it made me laugh out loud, so I offer it here in hopes it will make others laugh out loud too:

How to give a cat a pill ... and a dog, too

How to give a cat a pill:


  • Pick up cat and cradle it in the crook of your left arm as if holding a baby. Position right forefinger and thumb on either side of cat's mouth and gently apply pressure to cheeks while holding pill in right hand. As cat opens mouth, pop pill into mouth. Allow cat to close mouth and swallow.
  • Retrieve pill from floor and cat from behind sofa. Cradle cat in left arm and repeat process.
  • Retrieve cat from bedroom, and throw soggy pill away.
  • Take new pill from foil wrap, cradle cat in left arm, holding rear paws tightly with left hand. Force jaws open and push pill to back of mouth with right forefinger. Hold mouth shut for a count of ten.
  • Retrieve pill from goldfish bowl and cat from top of wardrobe. Call spouse from garden.
  • Kneel on floor with cat wedged firmly between knees, hold front and rear paws. Ignore low growls emitted by cat. Get spouse to hold head firmly with one hand while forcing wooden ruler into mouth. Drop pill down ruler and rub cat's throat vigorously.
  • Retrieve cat from curtain rail, get another pill from foil wrap. Make note to buy new ruler and repair curtains. Carefully sweep shattered figurines and vases from hearth and set to one side for gluing later.
  • Wrap cat in large towel and get spouse to lie on cat with head just visible from below armpit. Put pill in end of drinking straw, force mouth open with pencil, and blow down drinking straw.
  • Check label to make sure pill not harmful to humans, drink 1 beer to take taste away. Apply Band-Aid to spouse's forearm and remove blood from carpet with cold water and soap.
  • Retrieve cat from neighbor's shed. Get another pill. Open another beer. Place cat in cupboard, and close door onto neck, to leave head showing. Force mouth open with dessert spoon. Flick pill down throat with elastic band.
  • Fetch screwdriver from garage and put cupboard door back on hinges. Drink beer. Fetch bottle of Scotch. Pour shot, drink. Apply cold compress to cheek and check records for date of last tetanus shot. Apply whiskey compress to cheek to disinfect. Toss back another shot. Throw T-shirt away and fetch new one from bedroom.
  • Call fire department to retrieve the damn cat from tree across the road. Apologize to neighbor who crashed into fence while swerving to avoid cat. Take last pill from foil-wrap.
  • Tie the little @!!@#@#$%'s front paws to rear paws with garden twine and bind tightly to leg of dining table, find heavy-duty pruning gloves from shed. Push pill into mouth followed by large piece of steak filet. Be rough about it. Hold head vertically and pour 2 pints of water down throat to wash pill down.
  • Consume remainder of Scotch. Get spouse to drive you to the emergency room, sit quietly while doctor stitches fingers and forearm and remove pill remnants from right eye. Call furniture shop on way home to order new table.
  • Arrange for SPCA to collect mutant cat from hell and call local pet shop to see if they have any hamsters.

How to give a dog a pill:


  • Wrap it in cheese.
(Submitted by Dr. John Delack, Saskatoon, Saskatchewan)

source:
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC372253/
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As I recall from my experiences with trying to give cats pills, that's about the size of it, all right.
 
How to give a dog a pill:


  • Wrap it in cheese.

Something wackier to imagine...maybe 8 years back and Sophie needs to take a pill at the vet. Inside a yummy treat? She eats the treat and spits the pill. Inside a really yummy treat pocket and she eats the treat...the pill shoots across the room. Three people holding her down and the pill finally goes down.
 
jujube said:
Waterfalls, or moving water of any variety, transports me to a better place. Site that water on a mountain and I'm in heaven.
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I agree. If you can't go to the mountain, bring it to you. There's a ton of babbling brooks and waterfalls available on You Tube. All it takes is a little imagination. Works for me.
 

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