Has anybody ever had a problem with a Peeping Tom?

[Mrs. Robinson]

35+ years ago,we lived in a house that was on a downslope,road was up above. Semi-rural area. Our "down the road" neighbor was the owner of a fancy restaurant in the next town. I knew he was a little weird because my friend had applied for a job there and he did not hire her,yet he started calling her and asking her out (he was married,by the way) Then my girls started saying that when Mr. H takes his walks around the "loop",he asks them if they want to come and walk up on "Kite Hill". I told them to tell him no. Then our across the street neighbors and close friends started calling me and saying that he would stand at the top of our driveway and stare down at our house. We had a large window right at our front door that offered a clear view into our living room and no curtains or blinds.Never felt we needed them.Then one night,hubby was out at his softball game and I was watching TV. I was also about 8 months pregnant. It was about 11pm. I happened to look up and he was standing on my front porch staring at me! Scared me to death. I went to the door and asked him what he wanted. He mumbled something about losing a part off his watch and was looking for it. Yeah right. So the next day,hubby waited for him to take his twice daily walk-one before he went to work and one after he closed the restaurant at night. He got in his face and told him he better not ever hear of him looking down at our house again or step foot on our property or talk to our children-or he would be going to his house and having a talk with his wife. And let him know that he would also be letting her know about his constant phone calls to our friend Lynne B. He looked shocked at that one-he had no idea we were friends lol. Never had another problem with him.

 

[SeaBreeze]

A friend of mine lives alone in her own little house she's a little older than me and very attractive. Where she lives the houses are very close to each other with just a narrow grassy patch in between and the windows of one house almost line up directly with the next. A couple just moved in next door and she said they were nice people but the woman is gone all day working and her husband stays home all day and they have a couple of cats. She told me she's been creeped out because she thinks this guy is trying to look into her window during the day. She likes to keep that curtain open so she gets air and light and her cat likes to look out all windows.

She said that she finds herself always looking at that window now out of the corner of her eye to see if he's there because sometimes he just stands or sits there petting his cat. He hasn't made any faces or even made eye contact with her but she suddenly feels uncomfortable until the wife comes home, then nobody's by the window. I told her to give him the benefit of the doubt because he might just be checking out his new house and lounging around with nothing bad in mind. I just told her to stay fully dressed unless that curtain is closed and the shades are down. Has anybody here ever really had a problem with a Peeping Tom? I never did and maybe my friend is just paranoid and overreacting she said the people who lived there before were never even by that window

To answer your question Stormy, I've never had a problem with a peeping Tom and never knew anyone who did. I think your advice to her will ease her mind, I can imagine being alone after losing her husband she is extra conscious of such little things. But I know she just came to you as a friend and wasn't accusing the new neighbor of any crime, you did good advising her. It doesn't sound to me like she made a big deal about it, so I think she's being very realistic and reasonable. Her cat should be able to enjoy all the windows in the home and hopefully she'll find the man was just groovin' in his new residence.

 

[SeaBreeze]

Mrs.R, my husband would have done the same thing with that neighbor. How dare he actually go onto your property like that to look in your window, the watch excuse was very weak, and at 11PM?

 

[applepie_luvr]

"Man hating lesbo"????? You mean people still talk like that? SMH

Sorry. Your president talks like that all the time and you folks seem to like it, after all you did elect him. LOL.

Funny how you noticed right away that she wasn't there. Maybe she was being polite and went inside so you wouldn't see her laughing at "a pretty sight".

You are most likely right. I think it was a more a look of disdain at first and perhaps the giggles afterwards. LOL.

 

[Sunny]

Apple, I've never heard anyone I know use that nasty expression. In the community where I live (a senior community, with people of all political persuasions), we have an active and well-respected LGTB club.
As for "you folks liking it," keep in mind that Trump lost the popular vote. I don't know a single person who likes this bully and his henchmen, or who voted for him. And that includes plenty of Republicans, who voted Democratic for the first time in their life.

 

[applepie_luvr]

Apple, I've never heard anyone I know use that nasty expression. In the community where I live (a senior community, with people of all political persuasions), we have an active and well-respected LGTB club.
As for "you folks liking it," keep in mind that Trump lost the popular vote. I don't know a single person who likes this bully and his henchmen, or who voted for him. And that includes plenty of Republicans, who voted Democratic for the first time in their life.

No one ever owns up to voting for a bad politician. I'm happy no one you know uses crude expressions.
I admit to being insensitive at times and I'm sorry to have offended you.

 

[Stormy]

I talked to my friend today and have an update on the situation with her neighbor. There's no problem at all and her temporary discomfort was just some insecure feelings she had from having to live alone. She's been over to see their home and the improvements they've made in this short time and actually had them both to her house for an informal dinner and they even brought one of their cats over to visit with hers and they got along fine.

The man is not able to work but he has done some nice things with their new house, and seems to be a very caring and thoughtful man. So she's at rest now and hopes to have these nice neighbors around for many years. I'm happy for her because she really needed a new friend or two to get her mind off her loss.