JaniceM
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- still lost between two shores..
Not meaning to butt into you guys' argument, but what the heck kind of 'experts' didn't even know what a 'nuclear family' is?!? It doesn't mean 'whomever happens to be there,' and from what you said long ago (unless I missed updates) your ex wasn't even married to the guy!!!My experience has been like this so far as court appointed experts goes.
I couldn't have paid anyone to try to support my contact with my child in 1988, under an earlier family law, (one I believe giving fathers like me more protection than the subsequent law afforded in practise).
I believe the court appointed experts who found against me ten years later, under the new family law, sought to protect the " nuclear family", i.e. my ex, her new partner, the man she told them our child saw as her real daddy, and my daughter of course).
Could they be trusted, maybe not, and the woman I mentioned earlier on the thread who compiled reports on fathers/parents, came across as wanting to understand us excluded dads.
However, anyone, and any system basing its arguments upon what they believe is best for the child isn't going to be able to avoid undermining nonresident dads in my view, so the issue starts and ends with the law for me, (whilst that provides weak protection there is no hope!)
You may have mentioned it before, but if I can ask: what was the child's age when this was going on?