Have you ever been ‘outed/ousted’ by an online clique?

LadyEmeraude

LadyEmeraude

You may call me EM 😊
If you have, it might have been an unpleasant time/ experience.

Over my years of many, there have been two times that I remember being outed by online
Cliques. With that shared, and in my firm opinion
I think it serves any person well, to avoid online
Cliques.

Be the better person. Avoid and don’t willingly participate with online cliques.

My thoughts. What are your thoughts?
 

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People can’t spread more information than you are willing to share with them.

Some people make solid lasting relationships that include visits, Facebook, email, telephone, etc… with good results.

I’m much more leery of giving up too much or becoming too close to internet acquaintances.

We’re all wired differently, share or don’t share, be mindful of the benefits and the potential consequences.
 
"Outed".... meaning doxxed with personal information? Or kicked out of the "group?" A clique (to me) is a group of friends with similar interests. In some cases (but not all) it becomes an exclusive group not welcoming of newbies. Truthfully, I can't see that it would bother me because I wouldn't want to spend time around people like that... (especially online.)
 
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I had been a member of a Brain Injury chat room due to my late wife's injury. After my wife passed away, I remained to support other injured people and their caregivers.
The owners of the site said I was no longer relevant, and they dumped me. Many of the other members were outraged, but their decision was final.
 
bowmore said:
I had been a member of a Brain Injury chat room due to my late wife's injury. After my wife passed away, I remained to support other injured people and their caregivers.
The owners of the site said I was no longer relevant, and they dumped me. Many of the other members were outraged, but their decision was final.
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That was rude and rather shortsighted of them.
 
Not that I'm an expert on slang terms of the current time we are living in, but I think the word you were looking for was "ghosted."

Outed usually means some deep, dark secret about you has been revealed. Ghosted usually means you are being ignored, not even mentioned, emails and texts not answered, etc.

Could be wrong, but that's the way I understand it.
 
Sunny said:
Not that I'm an expert on slang terms of the current time we are living in, but I think the word you were looking for was "ghosted."

Outed usually means some deep, dark secret about you has been revealed. Ghosted usually means you are being ignored, not even mentioned, emails and texts not answered, etc.

Could be wrong, but that's the way I understand it.
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That would make more sense in this context.
 
LadyEmeraude said:
Sure it’s ok, my wording might be different than what you all might have chosen to use. So just go ahead and supplement with your own word
Whatever it might be be.
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Sure it's no big, :) but what did you actually mean, though? Are you talking about people being ostracized from a group or people actually being outed, as in secrets or personal info. revealed?
 
The "official" definition, @Della

dox
/däks/
verb
informal
past tense: doxxed; past participle: doxxed
  1. search for and publish private or identifying information about (a particular individual) on the internet, typically with malicious intent.
 
LadyEmeraude said:
If you have, it might have been an unpleasant time/ experience.

Over my years of many, there have been two times that I remember being outed by online
Cliques. With that shared, and in my firm opinion
I think it serves any person well, to avoid online
Cliques.

Be the better person. Avoid and don’t willingly participate with online cliques.

My thoughts. What are your thoughts?
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I have never been doxxed. I keep a pretty low profile on the internet.
Have I encountered cliques and been ghosted? Yes. Do I care? No.
If Im made to feel unwelcome I just move on. Why would I stay where Im unwanted.

And yes I have joined forums and felt immediately like I was back in high school with the mean girls.
If its an interesting forum and the other members are nice I just ignore them and chat with the nice ones.
Everybody doesnt have to like everybody. Im probably on a few ignore lists. :D
 
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MACKTEXAS said:
I've never felt the need to be part of an inner circle, online or offline.
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I've been sitting here wondering how one would define an "online clique." Serious question... maybe I'm the only one who doesn't know, but how would it be recognized as that vs. simply a group of people who became close friends online and share interests, so there's a lot of laughing, camaraderie, etc.? Of course it would be easy to tell in a "real life" setting, but having trouble with putting it in an online scenario.
 
IrishEyes said:
Never did like cliques, even when young in grade school. I found friends in all types
of people.
Cliques in a church is something I won't tolerate for obvious reasons. Sadly
those are where I have seen people hurt people the most.
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I saw that as well when I was an avid church-goer. It's sad to witness.
 

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