Have you ever done anything to make things easier for your spouse?

Sassycakes

Sassycakes

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Just today me and my hubby were talking about this subject and I said yes I have done a lot of things to make it easier for you. He said ok, name one thing. The first thing that popped into my head was since we met on May 28th. We got engaged on May 28th and we got married on May 28th. Now that we are married over 50 yrs I made it much easier for him to remember those dates. :D :D :D ♥
 

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Sassycakes said:
Just today me and my hubby were talking about this subject and I said yes I have done a lot of things to make it easier for you. He said ok, name one thing. The first thing that popped into my head was since we met on May 28th. We got engaged on May 28th and we got married on May 28th. Now that we are married over 50 yrs I made it much easier for him to remember those dates. :D :D :D ♥
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Let's get this straight, "you met a man, got engaged to aforesaid man, and allowed him to stick a ring on your finger all on the same day"? :) :)
 
Yes all the time. Whenever something broke, I was the person he counted on . We didn’t use professionals since that would cost money.
examples? Rebuilding back wall of house, bringing in a wood stove, cutting down trees, replacing all doors and windows, fixing appliances,
Helped him get a promotion where he works

Helped him run an Etsy shop by making things to sell and looking after customer service

Helped him retire at 55.

Taught him how to swim, even though he never used it.

Helped him shovel snow

Helped him with problems he had with people at his work - offered emotional support

Helped him get water when our well gave out for 6 months

When we bought our first house, I cooked, cleaned and took care of our pets as well as all the yard work

Helped him build sheds, fences and decks
Built my own greenhouse

I’m always helping my husband. That’s what I signed up for.
 
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Chris P Bacon said:
I’m not married anymore but when I was married, I always made sure to lift my feet so that my then wife could run the sweeper underneath them, wherever I happened to be sitting at the time.
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Mine had me doing the darned job first thing every day when we both returned home after work in the evening, (I know, "Lapdog"!).
"Cant understand why yours left such an understanding husband"! :unsure:
 
Yes I said yes I’d marry him , now let me think how long ago that was …I know almost 36 years ago
It’s both our second marriage and he spent 3.1/2 years on his own before we met , and he can’t cook so by me saying yes at least he gets a nice meal every day. :D :D

He asked me soon after I met him if I could make him a stew cause he’d tried following repipes
but they were horrible.
He like me doesn’t like eating out more than once or twice every 6 months or so , or takeaway food
 
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Yes we do stuff all the time for each other...... For one he still works full time. he's never been out of work all his life...

he's not thoughtful tho' so for him to do something for me, I have to ask, and then he'll do it..for example he now knows I can't vacuum the stairs without it causing me back pain, so he'll do it instead.. but only if I ask ( even if I'm rolled up in pain in front of him)... and occasionally he'll wash the dishes.. but I can't expect any more, he does all the household repairs, the maintenance on all the computers and the maintenance on all our vehicles , as well as working full time...(y)
 
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My wife and I do things for each other all of time, but my wife does more cleaning and cooking than I do. I understand technology; and she doesn't, so I assist her with iPhone & Windows computer.

It's not about doing things to make life easier for one another; it's about sharing responsibility while focusing on individual talents to make our life together work better than if we were alone.
 
I have been married three times and in all my marriages I was the one who cleaned and cared for the house. In my first marriage, my husband had an accounting firm and during tax season I worked in his office and helped in other ways with his business throughout the years.

In my second marriage (which did not last long, only about 2 years), my husband was an alcoholic (a bad one) and in the beginning I made his life of drinking easy for him. Because I was not a drinker and I could do the driving and pick him up when he was drunk somewhere. Then I went to Al-anon, I stopped enabling and finally left.

My last marriage, we both did things to help each other and I can't say that my husband was this very bad person. He did what he could. But when my ability to do physical things became difficult I could not do much more than the cooking, some cleaning and gardening and that was limited.
 
We both worked to put each other through college, shared various responsibilities over the years and now with the onset of senior-years issues, I do most of the cooking and cleaning. As was previously said, it is just the stuff you signed up for - honoring your vows.
 
grahamg said:
Let's get this straight, "you met a man, got engaged to aforesaid man, and allowed him to stick a ring on your finger all on the same day"? :) :)
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No LOL We met when I was 15yrs old then when I was 19yrs old we got engaged and then when I was 20yrs old we got married all on May 28th all different years. Thinking back I would have done it all on the day we met.
 
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