Have You Ever Felt Lonely Whether Others Were Around or Not?

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SeaBreeze

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Have you ever felt lonely because you were isolated from other people? Have you felt lonely even when in a large group of people, like at a party or out with a group of friends? Have you ever been married or living with someone, and still felt lonely although you always had another person there in the home with you?
 

I rarely feel lonely now but years ago, toward the end of my marriage, I felt desperately lonely every day, though I was still living with my ex. It was a very difficult time for me but my dogs, Beanie and Snuffy, and my cat, K.C., provided love and companionship for me and that's what got me through.
 

I'll bite...:)

In a large group of people I often feel out of place, but not lonely. I'm not very good at casual conversation on the spur of the moment or with
unfamiliar people. Usually just want to get outta there.

I don't feel lonely at all by myself. Maybe growing up with no siblings and few neighbors helps. I like to work on projects.
I think I'm kinda lucky. Some folks just can't stand the thought of being alone. You can't avoid it sometimes.
 
No, I can't say that I do.
I have no problem spending time alone, and I truly enjoy my wife's company. We also have friends and/or family around at least a couple times a week. We're both active and busy so we're usually around others.
Both my wife and I don't have any issues with loneliness.
 
No, I don't feel lonely.
I spend a lot of time by myself during the day - we live in the wop-wops and due to crappy vision, I've not been able to drive for a few years.
I've never been a social butterfly, always preferring the simple things in life.
People always ask what I do with my time, and say I should join this and that group, but I have lots of interests to keep me busy. (The telly's never on during the day)
And I have my critters to keep me 'sane'. Kind of....sort of! :D
And really, I don't give a hooting-nelly-welly what others think.
I'm happy, definitely not lonely!
 
Starting every November till early Jan. Oh and at most cocktail party type events which is what my groups mostly seem to attend way to many of and I basically avoid them as much as possible, because, I'm not one for making small talk, so, yes, I end up at moments feeling a little lonely in the crowd; not the entire time, someone usually rescues me, still too many awkward moments for me at those type of events. Now if dancing is involved I'm very happy to join the crown and rarely ever feel lonely especially if the music is right, or I bring my own. :D Most times I would rather be home reading a book, it would feel more comforting than to attend certain types of functions. I just miss having family in my life and friends nearby ever so often, I miss that kind of close proximity more and more the older I've gotten.

That deep kind of lonely, I really only feel it as I mentioned in the start of the holiday season and I know I can't be near the ones I really deeply miss the most.
 
When I first moved into my building we used to have an x-mas do for all the tenants. Because I didn't know anyone yet, I would feel uncomfortable and out of place. Couple that with a Friday night after work when I'm tired, and I'm not a party animal to begin with, it was hard to be sociable, so I'd make an appearance and slip away.

There were also many times when I was with my ex that I felt disconnected as our relationship wasn't doing so well and we didn't have much to say to each other. So yes, it was a lonely time, for both of us probably. And yet I am very comfortable being totally alone these days doing my own thing and working on whatever I am at the moment.
 
I too am quiet, never was one for parties or large crowds, wouldn't feel lonely but a bit out of place and don't enjoy them. Rather go out with one friend and spend the evening like that. I never really lived alone for any amount of time, but when I'm alone in the house, I'm comfortable in my isolation. I think if something ever happened to my husband, I'd be terribly lonely for him, but not lonely enough to start going out a lot or having people over. I've heard of married couples who don't communicate at all or enjoy each others company, I'm grateful that's not the case with me. I feel for you Glinda, having been that way in your marriage, glad you got out of it and happy you had your furbabies for comfort.
 
After my last divorce I decided to take a "time out" from relationships so I could figure things out. A self-help book I read mentioned learning to enjoy one's own company, and not be dependent on having others around, to feel fulfilled. Was good advise, still works well.
 
Here if you think you are maybe you are or maybe you aren't, but here's an app for that. LOL, well a link for a quizz anywho

http://psychcentral.com/quizzes/loneliness.htm

Anyway, I don't think, it was much of a problem for me till all my sisters passed, I could easily get by without extended contact with another soul for months and months on end, till one by one, they no longer lived. I used to be a bit of a lone wolf so to speak, always had friends, but, was quite fine all by my lone self till that point. Things can change for anyone after one or in my case quite a few loses back to back, though it's not like it's a daily issue, but, it is during the holidays and occasionally when I spend too much time thinking on it discussing the matter. I grieved, was over it the first time and then they kept dropping so fast, so young. I don't know, guess one is supposed to just not miss them ever. :dunno: OK then, enough of this.
 
I spend a considerable time with people who are distressed, all the skill sets in the world are insufficient to ward off burnout, if I don't take time to be solitary. That said, I think there is always a small portion of me, encased in ice, that remains lonely. Fortunately, I compartmentalize things very well, so rarely live from there. Such are the peril(s) of putting dragons in boxes! Destroy the dragons you can, live with the rest. Lol.
 
Now in the winter of my existence living on a forty acre property on the east coast of Australia away from the crowd, one has to find if living alone is compatible with one's nature and i found it was now i love it and the freedom it brings, yes i have to do everything for myself but that a part of the territory.
There are those that would say its selfish i can assure them that's not the case after all we were alone when we came into this world figuratively speaking, and the same applies when we leave even with family around you according to Tibetan philosophy, so enjoy it all folks the clocks ticking. smiles:praying: eek
 
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