Have you ever told you were cheap on yourself?

Sassycakes

Sassycakes

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My husband called me cheap again today. I thought I would never hear him say this again. Years ago he called me cheap because we were out shopping and I saw something I liked but didn't buy it. He said I was cheap and I said "If I wasn't cheap you couldn't afford a three Hundred-dollar suit." Today we were out shopping and I saw a Gucci handbag, It cost $200. He told me to buy it and I said I would rather have the money than the bag. So again he called me cheap. Have you ever been called cheap?
 

No. I called my mother cheap which she was. She said she was thrifty. No, cheap.

I think it's sweet your husband wants you to buy the items but if you don't want to, tha'ts what really matters. I get my purses at the thrift store. Used to be Ross but I downgraded. 😀

I'm getting cheaper though. I never used to pick up a penny but I do now. Cats to feed, including the ferals. I was short on cash this week. Amazing what you don't spend when you stay out of the stores. I did get some books at Goodwill. Going to the bank this week. I have 3 paychecks to deposit and get cash.
 

Sassycakes said:
My husband called me cheap again today. I thought I would never hear him say this again. Years ago he called me cheap because we were out shopping and I saw something I liked but didn't buy it. He said I was cheap and I said "If I wasn't cheap you couldn't afford a three Hundred-dollar suit." Today we were out shopping and I saw a Gucci handbag, It cost $200. He told me to buy it and I said I would rather have the money than the bag. So again he called me cheap. Have you ever been called cheap?
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I think your husband just might want you to buy the things that you like and may make you happy. I don't desire things like Gucci bags, but if that what would make you happy you should just buy it. I don't think your husband would encourage you to buy something if it would put you in the poor house. I think calling you cheap is just to get his point across.

Honestly, as we get older and enter the fall or winter of our lives, we should not deny ourselves little pleasures. How sad it would be to pass on, having been denied a few things that would bring us joy. I believe your husband loves you, and wants you to be happy maybe even a bit spoiled in your old age.
 
My husband and I don't insult each other. Sometimes we encourage the other to buy something even if it seems extravagant because we know the joy it might bring. But we would never do so in an insulting way.

@Sassycakes, you frequently complain on SF that your husband and daughter insult and berate you.

Why do you permit them (or anyone, for that matter) to behave so disrespectfully? If my husband called me cheap I wouldn't be defending myself against the insult, I'd be in full How Dare You Speak To Me That Way! mode.
 
SeaBreeze said:
I think your husband just might want you to buy the things that you like and may make you happy. I don't desire things like Gucci bags, but if that what would make you happy you should just buy it. I don't think your husband would encourage you to buy something if it would put you in the poor house. I think calling you cheap is just to get his point across.

Honestly, as we get older and enter the fall or winter of our lives, we should not deny ourselves little pleasures. How sad it would be to pass on, having been denied a few things that would bring us joy. I believe your husband loves you, and wants you to be happy maybe even a bit spoiled in your old age.
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It has always been my pleasure to NOT spend exorbitant amounts of money for a name on something, when generic was just as nice for far less cost. It means I can also buy MORE nice things for the money.
 
Sassycakes said:
My husband called me cheap again today. I thought I would never hear him say this again. Years ago he called me cheap because we were out shopping and I saw something I liked but didn't buy it. He said I was cheap and I said "If I wasn't cheap you couldn't afford a three Hundred-dollar suit." Today we were out shopping and I saw a Gucci handbag, It cost $200. He told me to buy it and I said I would rather have the money than the bag. So again he called me cheap. Have you ever been called cheap?
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I wouldn't pay $200 for a purse....I don't think.
I would be afraid the purse would get stolen which would be as bad as them just being after the contents.
That happened at a work dinner. The young lady hung her $700 purse on the chair and a guy came by, grabbed it, and ran off.
As far as being cheap. I think, like you, that I just can't justify certain purchases.
My husband would never call me cheap. To him, I am Imelda Marcos because I have more than three pairs of shoes. 😁
 
Ruthanne said:
I feel the same way! I know I'm cheap but feel I should be so that I have enough money for necessities for my dog and bird and I. If I buy myself something I need I always look for a bargain 😂
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You're wise for being frugal and thinking of your financial obligations before spending too much money on anything. I respect you for considering your pets and being a loving pet mom.

Debodun is not in the same category though, she has made it clear that she is well off and does not need to worry about prices paid in order to meet her financial obligations and pay her bills. Whole different animal, IMO.

We had our days of shopping at Goodwill, eating chop meat surprise and hotdogs and spaghetti for dinners. Taking the pets to vaccination events to save on vet bills, etc. So I can see and appreciate your keeping things in check and living responsibly.
 
I have been told to "live a little" meaning spend money on what you want. Well ok then when bills come due and taxes need to be paid and crowns need to be paid for and any other expense that may come up what do I do then???

I am frugal and can manage money, I love to buy pretty things too but I also have responsibilities that must be met.I buy what I need NOT what I want.
 
My kids have told me i am cheap when i do not buy some items but i see no purpose in buying some items ...
I have been encouraged by spouse thinking i want to buy high end as we could afford it but each time i bought higher end / designer stuff it never lasted as long as basic items i have purchased and i do not run around with a crowd who is keeping score.
 
Nobody tells me I'm cheap cuz I never look that way even though it doesn't cost me a ton to look as expensive as I do.

I do buy lots of good expensive food and never SEEM to be trying to save money. I shop at good stores. If someone called me cheap, I'd be insulted. :mad:

@Sassycakes are you sure you're interpreting his comment correctly? I'm wondering if he meant something less unkind? :unsure:
 
Nathan said:
Nobody ever told me I was "cheap" on myself, but I haven't forgotten the period in my life being flat broke, so as such I tend to think long and hard over spending money on myself that isn't essential.
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you see how we're all different.

I went through a very long period of poverty both as a child and as an adult.. deep poverty....so now if I can afford it, I deny myself nothing.

I'm not stupid with money just the exact opposite tbh, I'm a very good manager of money, but now.. if I want to pay £100 for a sweatshirt which is a good brand..I'll pay it, because so much of my life I had to accept one which was second or third hand.. and or the nasty cheap version which lasts 2 washes..
 
No one would call me cheap. I'm capable of admiring a dress, shoes, purse, work of art, or whatever and not needing to possess it just for the sake of having it. It's not that I can't afford it, it's that I don't want or need to have every shiny thing that comes into view just because I like it. Yes, I occasionally buy something that's pretty that I don't really need because I like it, or it makes me feel good but at this stage of my life, I've found I simply need and want less. If it's not practical, more than likely, I'll leave it on the shelf. I'm trying to get rid of things not accumulate them.
 

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