Have you experienced platonic friendship with the opposite sex?

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hellomimi

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I'm talking about the one you didn't date, kissed passionately, friend with benefits. The kind of friendship where you know each other too well, accept their flaws, they can tell you when you're wrong or how you can do better. The one you can trust with your secrets. He was my go-to person when I needed male perspective that he would generously share. He had the ability to make me laugh when I'm about to cry.

I won the lottery in having a friend like that. Today is his life after life (death) anniversary. He's hovering in my thoughts, I feel his presence. I know we live in the 💕 of people we made a strong connection in our life. I look forward to time and space we hear, see, feel each other's presence again. Until then...
 
I have a friend like that, in fact I called him today because one of my fish tanks started leaking and he came right over and drained it and took the fish home with him . He's one of those unflappable people who always stays calm and finds a solution. He's quite a bit younger, but we seem to communicate really well. He and my husband were very close, and it's a comfort having him in my life.
 
I don't have many close male BFFs, many are acquaintances in the friendzone.

The male friend I pine for is one I can call in the middle of the night to tell them what's bothering me. He would listen and later be snoring 🙃😉. By then, my blues has been resolved. He would just call at random to keep in touch. I knew he wanted hand written letters/cards on his birthday and that's what he got in several pages...haha Such a beautiful soul, he made a positive difference in many lives.
 
Have you experienced platonic friendship with the opposite sex?


No,

my lady has more'n enough for both of us

Wimin tend to get too personal

I keep my personal stuff to myself
Never lay anything on anybody
Not even my male friends
Of which I consider acquaintances

I have maybe two 'friends'
Sometimes that can be too many

Guess I just enjoy me

...and my lady
 
Until recent years, I found my view of a 'platonic male friend' differed a great deal from theirs, which included benefits I wasn't about to provide....:rolleyes:

However, I now have a few platonic male friends, (who are probably at an age where the 'benefits' wouldn't apply)
 
hellomini, I'm glad you had such a warm friendship.. But I'm surprised that you believe it's rare to have that kind of non sexual relationship with members of the opposite sex. Maybe I'm odd, but I've had very close relationships with women, whom I haven't jumped in bed with. Yet, I know some women, who think that men only want one thing. I don't recall a guy saying anything similar.
 
@Wren, I had friendships with men that later evolved out of friendzone on their part. I had to end the friendship since I didn't have amorous feelings for them. Attraction may be overrated but it's all or none for me. It's unfair to string them along if Im not attracted to them. Most men I meet now wants to date and they're not my type. I have yet to meet one around my age that's interested in friendship only.

@fuzzybuddy, it is what it is ~ no men around my age that I meet are looking for friendships only.
 
If they're heterosexual, probably not. They've always seemed to have wanted something more.

I have had good platonic friendships with men...after we'd broken up. I still do, and one even became the brother I never had and I am his "3rd sister."

I never believed men really want to buddy up with women. It's not natural to them. If they want a pal to hang around with, they prefer another male to talk sports with, compare sexual conquests with, spit on the sidewalk with and sit in the bar with; to either to pick up women, watch the game or scratch themselves.

I'm generalizing, when I say I think men are more comfortable with other men.

With women, there's usually some kind of undercurrent going on....jmo.
 
AnnieA said:
Same here with all but two of them. I can't just blame it on heterosexual guys wanting more ...there's usually been that "what if" question in my mind as well!
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I'm not sure I understand your "what if" @AnnieA , I am sorry. Maybe I do, but surely I am wrong. My homosexual guy friends (albeit fewer these days) are in no way even curious about women other than in a platonic sense.
 
I've had two true platonic friendships ~ one's gay and the other (in the OP) was a hetero widower. Both are in the after life 😔. I know what HVM looks like when I meet one.
 
I googled "HVM", and got:

AcronymDefinition
HVMHigh Value Manufacturing
HVMHigh Voltage Maintenance (various locations)
HVMHigh Volume Manufacturing
HVMHardware Virtual Machine
HVMHigh Velocity Missile
HVMHypervelocity Missile
HVMHeavy Vehicle Mechanic
HVMHavre, Montana (border patrol sector)
HVMHome and Vehicle Modifications (Medicaid waiver services)
HVMHigh Velocity Machines (Ingersoll Milling Machine Company)
HVMHigh Velocity Machines, LLC (Lansing, MI)
HVMHuron Valley Men's Facility (Michigan)
HVMHigh Velocity Motorsports (various locations)
HVMHollow Visceral Myopathy
HVMHavenmeester (Dutch)
HVMHamilton Valley Management, Inc
HVMHostile Vehicle Mitigation (UK)
HVMHSSM Virtual Machine
HVMHierarchical Video Management
HVMHigh-Value Management
HVMHypothalamic Ventromedial Nucleus

I don't think any of those apply, so what is HVM?

Thanks,

Tony
 
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