Heard from an old "friend"

debodun said:
See #16 in this thread.
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Okay. Just allow her to be your boss, yes ma'am, no ma'am, don't hit me ma'am. I can't persuade you to take charge of your health or your lack of confidence in yourself so I guess my work is done here.
 

Nathan said:
@debodun, seriously, if I were you I would not exchange phone calls, emails, texts or any other means of communication with this person.
She IS after something!!! Don't placate her, you are just enabling her and allowing yourself to be under her control.
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@debodun - Do what Nathan said. Cut off ALL contact with this whack job immediately! She has something up her sleeve, and you're not safe in her company.
 
She sounds very much like an ex-inlaw. I never had any problem with her personally, although she could be somewhat pushy. Anyway, various people warned me not to be fooled by her apparent niceness.

One of the things she was known for, was "helping" people go through their belongings -- for example, older people who were downsizing. She would ask for (or maybe not ask for) valuable items in return. She had plenty of money (I know this because of the family connection) but was always pleading poverty.

These people are sick. If she won't accept a simple, "Sorry, I can't," just cut off all contact. Good luck.
 
If she’s corresponding with you by email, don’t answer them. Make good use of your call display. If she knows your phone number, don’t answer. Don’t answer any unknown phone calls.

And heaven forbid she shows up at your doctor, just lie that and say that you’re not dealing with anybody but specific people because of Covid. Don’t let her in your house.
 
Email has a spam button that should block any future emails.
Then there are web sites like this to get an idea about the value of the scrimshaw.
https://www.drloriv.com/antique-tips/scrimshaw/

Probably the value of your scrimshaw is the reason for wanting it. As for her not knowing where you live.

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I would tell your friend that your dearest relative truly desired to keep this family heirloom in the family. So, you had no choice but to will it to her. You have to forcefully let her know that. And don't have any more contact with this person. Anybody, who is continually fixated on a piece of scrimshaw for decades isn't dealing with a full deck. Continued contact, and her hope of getting the scrimshaw, will only lead to more problems.
Because she helped you years ago, does not mean she has an open check book on your possessions.
 
Deb, don't speak to her again. Don't see her, or her representative. Quite honestly, I would ask a judge for a restraining order. She's a haunt, a nag and probably dangerous as she ages.

Or, (hahaha) tell her you will send her the scrimshaw in the mail. Box up a large piece of coal, wrap it over and over, cover it with many layers of plastic tape and just imagine the fun she'll have getting it open!
 
My goodness she sounds utterly disgusting. I'm surprised you have put up with her for so long. "Diminishing returns" indeed, I agree with everyone else in saying that this person needs to be avoided at all costs. Do not engage with her, and get some legal thing going. The fact she is disrespecting you and basically demanding you owe her a treasured family heirloom of yours, what the heck? No, no, no...

Interesting information about the Scrimshaw....I wasn't aware of this being a "thing" - it's gorgeous.
 
Knight said:
Most advise stop communicating with that woman because she is potentially dangerous . Then you get advice to mail her something to really piss her off. Toss in your thought of dog doodle & it almost seems like you enjoy your interaction with the woman.
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Laughter is the best medicine. :)
 
I think the lady might be a mental "nut case." Anyway, I wouldn't want what she wants. Don't see what her problem is other than being a bit "touched in the head." Best of luck with the "nutter" lady.
 
I have seen scrimshaws in different museums. Yes, some of them are very valuable, depending on the decorative designs or writings on them.
 
But seriously, trolls and people like this feed on the interaction. Ignoring is the best to do.

If you've ever read a rabbit hole of two internet strangers going at each other for a difference of opinion, such as on YouTube, you realize the only thing to do is not engage. I read one about the queen's death yesterday. Or the start of it. I read a few of the back and forth comments and new where that was heading.

This woman has some weird entitlement and shouldn't be engaged with. I hope she doesn't contact you again. She seems very weirdly entitled.
 
debodun said:
I heard from her again today asking to see me. I messaged back that I was having problems with my vision and wasn't up to having visitors. She replied that I didn't have to see her. I just have a feeling she's after something to be this pressing. I've never known her to do anything where there wasn't something in it for her. I've tried to placate her gently, but if I get nasty, she may retaliate in some way.
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No need to get nasty or to lie (“problem with…vision”). Simply do NOT reply to ANY of her attempts at communication. Block her number. Period. And move forward with another interest in your life.
(By answering her texts/phone calls, YOU are CHOOSING to have her in your life. Be honest with yourself about YOUR motives.)
 
Premie said:
No need to get nasty or to lie (“problem with…vision”). Simply do NOT reply to ANY of her attempts at communication. Block her number. Period. And move forward with another interest in your life.
(By answering her texts/phone calls, YOU are CHOOSING to have her in your life. Be honest with yourself about YOUR motives.)
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