Heard from an old "friend"

debodun said:
Because it won't change her attitude.
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So all the suggestions that have been provided in this thread are for naught.

debodun said:
Now I don't know how to handle the situation.
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^^^ This is what you originally posted. ^^^

You know, deb, I don't think you ever had any intention of taking anyone's suggestions. It's like every other post you make that complains about something. People offer you lots of good suggestions, but you have every excuse in the book not to act on them. I don't get it. I think you just like complaining. I don't believe you'll do anything about this situation except keep complaining about it and dismissing what anyone else suggests to help you. I won't take the bait again. 🎣
 
Remy said:
She will leave you alone. Who she is will remain but you will not have what she wants and that will close the case. Unless you do have something else she wants.
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Maybe it's more about "look what I have" that has some value. Deb did mention donating it to a museum. But considering all the "stuff" she took weeks to carry from her previous home to hoard in the one she bought & actually parting with something isn't easy for Deb.

Kind of feel sorry for her because I think this site is a large part of her social life.
 
I know how hard it is to part with some possessions that you really enjoy having. When our last home burned down, I lost a lot of my journals and pictures that I had been saving. My wife lost some things that her mother left to her that had a lot of sentimental value and that can’t be replaced. Furniture, clothing and our electronics was no big deal. That’s stuff than can be replaced.

Luckily, we had an inside storage unit that held some very important items and I told my wife that since we had some room left over, I was going to have my glass collection preserved and stored, along with two Thomas Kinkade artist’s proofs. They hang in our TV room now.
 
An interesting piece of artwork. I have seen them before, never knew the name. That being said....such a sense of entitlement. It would be one thing if your mom promised it to her. But as you said..it is a piece of YOUR family history, Deb. You do not owe it ti her.
Reminds me of when my elderly uncle died many years ago. He was widowed, had no children. But many cousins ,nieces and nephews to him) were chomping at the bit to raid his stuff..aunts costume jewelry, other things of little value. My dad and uncle, as only surviving family got his stuff....all of which was sold at auction. If the cousins had not been so greedy, I am sure a compromise could have been had. My dad and uncle brought a few things to our house for a few non greedy cousins to look through. I picked a little necklace in shape of a turtle...only because I found it interestng.
 
debodun said:
I believe it's illegal to mail or ship scrimshaw - most antique appraisal sites won't even allow ivory and similar items it to be posted. It's about a 4 hour drive, but in my old car, I wouldn't want to travel there.
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That restriction is mainly for elephant ivory. Your scrimshaw is from a whale's tooth.
 
debodun said:
Guess who I received an email from today asking if we could get together? Needless to say I ignored it.
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Did you ever get the piece to the museum? Did you call and find out if you can mail it due to it's antque status and age? Call the museum, inquire at the post office?

Donate it and tell her so and you will never hear from this b!$(& again.
 
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