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Didn't read the comments either, she seemed pretty selfish IMO...don't think anyone had to teach her to live in the moment. :rolleyes:
 
They didn't get married until after he revealed his cancer - if she had really wanted that she would have pushed for that marriage long before then.

Shoes? C'mon - could she possibly become any more Imelda Marcos? Any more petty?

If I truly loved my partner and they were dying, I would be buying THEM whatever they wanted. Yes, that might have been his wish as well, but you're saying that she accepted these material things as a sign of her love for him, or as an acceptance of his love?

If you have to express your affection through material things then there's something basically wrong with the relationship - it's shallow, it's one-dimensional and it's probably avoiding the real issues by throwing money at them.

And what was with her going on vacation without him, or before him - she couldn't wait? :numbness:
 
It seems to me like she was pretty self-centered, too. What about trying to do some of the things that he had always wanted, and never again have a chance to do ? Or just trying to make his last days as comfortable as possible ?

When you google Chris' name , it shows several pages for cancer donations, so if it is the same person, maybe that was where the money for all the trips came from ? It said he had cancer before, they operated, but then it came back; so this was not just the 6 months after the last diagnosis.

In any case, it surely seems that it could have been used for other things than just giving her a long holiday fling.
 
I really can't see a problem with this story,the lad was diagnosed with terminal cancer and all he wanted to do was make his wife and stepchildren happy and leave them with very pleasant and happy memories and I would imagine he died feeling happy he had made his little family happy.

I thought I was a cynical old bugger but not as cynical as some of the posts on here and I am fairly certain that if this girl was a gold digger there would have been comments from his family and of all the news reports I have read of this story not one of his family have come forward and made comments.

http://www.southwales-eveningpost.c...fe-diagnosed/story-20659350-detail/story.html

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-south-east-wales-26245866


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The pair had known each other as teenagers and moved in together in January 2012.
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But in the meantime she had evidently found someone to love a couple times at least.

I'm sorry, I don't see the magic, I don't see the fairytale. I see a pity marriage on her part.

Of all the news reports I've seen cited here so far the stories are all pretty much identical - I don't see any in-depth reporting.
 
The whole story kind of reminds me of the movie "Forrest Gump". He was in love with the girl for all of his life, but she just used him now and then, and didn't really care about Forrest. She would show up when she needed something, and he was ALWAYS there for her. When she was dying, he took care of her; but all those years, SHE never really loved him; it was all one-sided. Forrest adored her, so it pleased him to no end to be able to help her each time.

I see this as a very similar thing, and find no fault with the man, and if his greatest wish was to have this woman in his life, and give everything he could give, to her; then that was wonderful for him to do that.

My question is, where was HER integrity, her priority, to only think about what he could do for HER, and not at all about what she could do to make HIS final days better for him. She certainly appreciated the gifts, but didn't care much at all about the giver, in my opinion.
 
SifuPhil said:
But in the meantime she had evidently found someone to love a couple times at least.
I'm sorry, I don't see the magic, I don't see the fairytale. I see a pity marriage on her part.
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I don't see the fairytale either, it may have been a pity marriage, but was it pity for him, or her own self-interests?

Happyflowerlady said:
My question is, where was HER integrity, her priority, to only think about what he could do for HER, and not at all about what she could do to make HIS final days better for him. She certainly appreciated the gifts, but didn't care much at all about the giver, in my opinion.
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Good comparison with the Forrest Gump story, a taker/user, and a kind giver. The man seemed to be a very nice fellow, compassionate and not self-centered at all, it's just too bad she wasn't the same. If I was in that situation, my priority would be on comforting my husband, and doing things for him and with him that HE enjoyed...that didn't revolve around ME. I think that hiding behind 'he enjoyed spoiling me', was selfish and petty. I don't think she cared about the giver at all...she could have made him just as happy with the love and attention surrounding him in his last days on earth. She could take all his money and buy herself expensive designer "decorations" after he was dead.

Gael said:
Me too. He was able to enjoy what time he had left with her in the way he chose. I know I get a lot of enjoyment out of giving to loved ones and it appears that she hardly married a millionare plus they knew each other since high school.
Would he have been happier alone during is last remaining months?
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Like Phil suggested, was it really the way he chose, or was he conditioned by her? Wouldn't he have felt really special and peaceful before his death if she was at his side, and concentrating on HIS needs, and things that would make "HIM" really happy (and spoiling the "princess" wouldn't be one of them)? He wouldn't have been happier alone, but I would never be selfish and self-absorbed enough to let my husband do those things for me if he was dying. He's also a man who finds joy in making me happy, but when his days are numbered, he takes the spotlight, IMO.
 
SifuPhil said:
WAS it? Again, we only know what's been reported. It's just as possible that she had "trained" him to give her whatever she wanted. It's happened before ...

We all react to our imminent deaths in unique ways.
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I can see the cynicism you spoke of in another thread. Well, have you had females in your life that were users?
 
Gael said:
I can see the cynicism you spoke of in another thread. Well, have you had females in your life that were users?[/QUOTE]

That is a very good question Gael.

As Gael quite rightly pointed out the couple had known each other since High School, now if that lass had any kind of reputation of any sort I am sure he would have heard about it, so obviously he was happy with the lass and just wanted to make her happy and at the same time die a happy man knowing what he had done.
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