Honesty brings its own reward.....discuss!

I had a situation a number of years ago.....

I drove up to an ATM machine with $100 dangling out of the machine along with the ATM card. I did notice the car in front of me was from out of state, they were gone before I could attempt to catch them. I went into the bank and spoke to a lady in the customer service office. I handed her the cash and the ATM card told her what had happened. She said they would get the money redeposited to the account and they would get in touch with them. What baffled me was that she didn't even offer to give me a receipt until I insisted on it. This was a Wachovia IIRC before they changed to Wells Fargo.
 

I'm honest. I learned as a teenager that it is too complicated to tell lies; and I was too lazy to remember them. It was simpler to tell the truth, so that is what I did and do. I should have learned to shut up more. I'm learning that now, when it makes no difference.
 
grahamg said:
Right, its more homework for you all..............

Who said "Honesty is the best policy?"

Benjamin Franklin, The expression honesty is the best policy is often attributed to Benjamin Franklin, an American statesman who lived in the 1700s.

Why is honesty so difficult?
"We lie to protect ourselves from the pain and repercussions we'll experience from their feelings or even our own self-judgment. ... Being honest with ourselves and others requires an ability to think and feel at the same time in order to fully integrate a difficult experience and neutralize any lasting negative energy."

This is an odd one, it says there are three things to show you're honest then lists six,(are they having a joke on us?):
three things that shows our honesty
  • Think before you speak.
  • Say what you mean and mean what you say.
  • Bend over backward to communicate in an open and honest fashion.
  • Simplify your statements so that everyone clearly understands your message.
  • Tell it like it is rather than sugarcoating it.
  • Present both sides of each issue to engender objectivity.
What are the qualities of honesty?
Honesty is a facet of moral character that connotes positive and virtuous attributes such as integrity, truthfulness, straightforwardness, including straightforwardness of conduct, along with the absence of lying, cheating, theft, etc. Honesty also involves being trustworthy, loyal, fair, and sincere.

Here is a contrary view on honesty in relationships:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/...01310/why-honesty-isnt-always-the-best-policy

"Whether you’re getting it off your chest, venting, expressing yourself, airing your feelings or “just being honest," the truth about honesty is that honesty is not always the best policy.

What’s more, continuing on the path of full disclosure can actually bring permanent closure to your relationships!

The reality is we don’t need knives or guns to mortally wound those closest to us. Words cut like knives and it’s easy to bury your relationship with the verbal cuts of a “truthful” tongue.

The truth is honesty is often a veiled form of self-indulgence."
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Has everyone read this, cos there will be questions at the end, unless some acknowledges cute kid video to get you all off the hook? :) ! :)
 

Gary O' said:
Honesty has It's own rewards
There are, however, times when honesty can be brutal
That's when one should stay shut the hell up
Honesty, most often, needs to be coupled with all the other good attributes...like integrity, discretion...stuff like that
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A boss of mine who I much admired was prepared to use a bit of false propaganda concerning rival companies, who he said were up to the same game thus justifying his actions.

In the end though, he gave his clients a very good service, employed very good staff, particularly in the office, (look he even employed me, but you can't get it right every time), and I suspect some of his clients took coments about competitors with a pinch of salt.

I'm not sure I've ever mastered getting the right balance in a relationship with the opposite sex so far as how open, honest/brutally honest you should be, but I do admire those who can. :)
 
Honesty is situational.

Do I look fat in these pants requires an answer, but the answer is open to what one wants to live with.
 
Knight said:
Honesty is situational.

Do I look fat in these pants requires an answer, but the answer is open to what one wants to live with.
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I had to make a choice one night on whether or not to tell a friend the truth. I chose not to because it would've hurt her unnecessarily on her birthday and I didn't have the heart to cause her pain. I would do the same again if forced into the same situation.
 
In business, government and social life, so often honesty has no reward, in fact. Or very little, and by this I mean the whole truth, unvarnished, not partial truths that pass for honesty. It is a fine virtue that everyone purports to praise, universally, but is usually not practiced when the answers are hurtful, negative or when it is not to the advantage of the speaker or writer. Such as in business and government, maybe military. When I taught college, hun dreds of students of all ages would say honesty is important, but this is situational. In class, it isn't because they lie. As with most virtues, people feel that others should always be honest with them, yes, but they are not obliged to be honest with others. No reciprocity here. I have seen this in my life over and over. Theres a huge academic literature on this.
 
Victor said:
In business, government and social life, so often honesty has no reward, in fact. Or very little, and by this I mean the whole truth, unvarnished, not partial truths that pass for honesty. It is a fine virtue that everyone purports to praise, universally, but is usually not practiced when the answers are hurtful, negative or when it is not to the advantage of the speaker or writer. Such as in business and government, maybe military. When I taught college, hundreds of students of all ages would say honesty is important, but this is situational. In class, it isn't because they lie. As with most virtues, people feel that others should always be honest with them, yes, but they are not obliged to be honest with others. No reciprocity here. I have seen this in my life over and over. There's a huge academic literature on this.
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I fear you are right. :oops::unsure:
This card game comes to mind, because I once attempted to play against a businessman who ran rings around me, telling fibs with a vey straight face: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scruples_(game)
 
"What you put out into the world comes back to you" has always been my experience. Sounds simple but I don't want to have to keep up with the lies and who I have told them to. I guess I am just a simple person but I can live with myself.
 
Pepper said:
I'm honest. I learned as a teenager that it is too complicated to tell lies; and I was too lazy to remember them. It was simpler to tell the truth, so that is what I did and do. I should have learned to shut up more. I'm learning that now, when it makes no difference.
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My father told me to be a good lair you needed a good memory..

Warning signs popup when someone says "this is no lie....bla...bla." or "would I lie to you"or "to be honest with you"..
 
Victor said:
If someone says something they do not really mean, is that a lie? Or only insincerity? (BS)
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There is a crossover here between two threads as you will see:
Does My Bum Look Big in This? The Diary of an Insecure Woman

"Like all women, Jackie knows life would be perfect if only she had a small bum, sticky-up bosoms and didn't grow a moustache once a month ...Chart her progress as she perfects the art of feeling shitty about every little, and not so little, bit of herself. .."

Plus:
 

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