How do you feel about asking for help?

I am truly sorry for you predicament Fuzzbuddy and wish
I could help, but age and distance sort of get in the way.

Over here there are many services available, both for free
and when you have to pay:
Home Help, mainly indoors and free, but the ladies will put
out your trash bin.
Gardening, depending on your health and circumstances, it
is normally paid for by yourself, but sometimes the council
do it for you.
There are several bodies for helping the aged, some belong
to the Local Council and others are run as a Charity, all of
their advice is free and most jobs are done by volunteers.

There is also in our Local Council, a Volunteer Office, where
people go and register to be a volunteer and also others go
and ask for volunteers. All is free.

So as earlier replies have suggested look to your Local Council,
you have a computer so use it and nobody will know that you
have been searching, do it today.

I hope that you will be pleasantly surprised.

Mike.
 
I ask our children for help if it is needed.
 

I was one of those "kind neighbors" for the past 4 or 5 years. I had a neighbor who had a stroke around Christmas 2013, and it was obvious that he needed some help...his nearest relatives were 300 miles away. Over the past 4+ years, he continued to slide slowly downhill. I checked on him every couple of days, took him to the doctor a few times, did some shopping for him, helped him with yard work, etc., etc. At no time did I ever feel that I was being "imposed" upon. He finally passed in January, and I kind of miss him. If you have a neighbor who is offering to help you, thank him, and accept his help graciously, try not to overburden him with every little chore, and build up a trust with him so you have someone to help when you really need it. Nearly everyone will reach a point where they need some help, and I hope that when my time comes, I am lucky enough to have someone close by if I need them.
I agree Don. We have four close neighbours that we can call on for help. Two are our age and it is a reciprocal arrangement for small things and two are our children's age. The latter have offered to help with occasional transport which has been helpful on a few occasions. However, as we age it is up to us to connect with programs such as community transport and home help to avoid becoming a burden on others.

Our church community is very caring, especially in times of sickness or emergency. Requests for help are seldom necessary - help just comes when needed.
 

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