How do you feel about looking up friends you haven't seen in decades?

I did it with one friend. I found her on Facebook. At first I thought she didn't want to be bothered because she didn't respond to my private message. But turns out it was just that she doesn't go on FB much. We were good friends and neighbors during from our pre-teen years until my early 20's. Shortly after I had my son (at 21), I moved to another neighborhood. She was so excited when she got in touch with me on FB. We exchanged numbers and our first call lasted almost 3 hours with plenty of laughing and sharing. Whew! We had a lot to catch up on and hearing her voice was delightful. We have kept in contact since.
 

Keesha said:
Hooked up with an old friend tonight. My brother, my nephew, my friend and her husband went to see a jazz quintet tonight. It was a really fancy place. Many were dressed up and at intermission drinks were served. It was a real ritzy event.
I hadn’t seen this friend in about 20 years and have known her since I was 5 years old. We both came to Canada just months apart and they used to live down the street from us. It was so very excited so I got my brother to take a picture of us at the coffee shop afterwards. Not knowing the dress code I was dressed casually we HERE is my girlfriend that I’ve known for 54 years. We laughed. We cried. It was fun.

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Oh how nice! Glad you had such a good time. In the Jazz clubs around here, people may show up dressed up, casual or whatever. You know you can't go wrong with black. ;)
 
OneEyedDiva said:
Oh how nice! Glad you had such a good time. In the Jazz clubs around here, people may show up dressed up, casual or whatever. You know you can't go wrong with black. ;)
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Thanks OneEyedDiva
If I had known it was more of a formal affair I would have worn something more formal. It appeared from my friends attire that I was ok since we both wore nice black leggings, high heeled boots, and I colourful short sleeved blouse. I’m hunched over to get my face aligned with my friends for the picture since I was too high otherwise but it is a nice blouse.


There were drinks served and tables to sit and drink while listening but we picked front row seats. My brother was sitting right up front of the trumpet player so he couldn’t have been happier. My friend and her husband both play saxophone, ( I played in their stage band ) so appreciated the concert. It was ritzy and nice.


The only thing that I didn’t really appreciate was that it was live streaming, courtesy of Humber College so we were featured without our consent. I kept ducking & Just before this quintet started playing they made an interview. I’m not sure if it was because we were in the front seat but we kept getting filmed. This is a fairly boring interview but you can see me at the front with the long hair ducking every time.


My brother sent this to me saying we looked like a bunch of jazz groupies. :lofl:


https://m.facebook.com/story.php?st.../100018551833935/videos/336470526981339/&_rdr


It was a nice concert. Dave young plays the stand up bass and has even played with Oscar Peterson.
 

Funny you should ask. I just heard that a boyhood friend and classmate of mine is not doing well. I am strongly thinking about calling him. We got separated after high school. He was drafted and I went to college. Then, he came home and I went into the Marines. We just never hooked up again, except at a couple of h.s. reunions and always promising to call each other, but that never happened.
 
About 3 yrs. ago, I joined Fb to look for a couple of women who were co-workers, then became close friends, back in the 60's/70's and into the 80's. Through all of us changing jobs/moving, etc. we lost touch. I found one through her daughter. We kept in touch for a short time, then drifted apart again. The other one, I've kept in close touch with .. she lives
in another Province, but we email regularly and send one another Birthday gifts.
 
I've been in contact with friends from high school in recent years. For a short time, it's fun, and catching up with happenings in their lives is interesting. But then it seems to lose the appeal that it started out to be. ... so back into the past those friendships go.
Sad, but pretty common for most it seems.
 
Depending how old they are, some may have passed away.
You need to ready to discover and accept this. I don't want to find out.
Or you could find out that they became more successful than you.
I have tried this many times, usually disappointed at lack of results. They
are not likely to be in Facebook or social media. Married women are much harder
to look up because their names changed.
You may need to be very persistent in searching.
As a very last resort, you could hire a P.I.
 
Since wife and I were on a week-long business trip to southeastern Michigan for the company she was working for in 2008, we decided to drive the rental car down to my old farm home area of northeastern Indiana. IOW, the outskirts of Churubusco and Huntertown. Along with seeing the old farm, also stopped an seen a couple of high school classmates (one a full-time farmer) and another friend (also a full-time farmer). All three were pretty amazed at seeing this, what they called "burley guy", because I was so, so skinny when we graduated in 1968 as well as when they seen me at our 20 year class reunion in 1988. It was very, very cool seeing them again.

Some of the rest of my 1968 classmates are on Facebook, but we only communicate thru that website. Got on Facebook when one of the classmates made a FB page for the class in 2010 for the upcoming class reunion that I wasn't able to attend.
 
Bonnie said:
I've been in contact with friends from high school in recent years. For a short time, it's fun, and catching up with happenings in their lives is interesting. But then it seems to lose the appeal that it started out to be. ... so back into the past those friendships go.
Sad, but pretty common for most it seems.
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If this person really wanted to keep in contact or hang with you they would've done it long ago. Distance does affect relationships but there's always been the phone or snail mail let alone the internet. I kept in contact by phone, cards, email or contact for decades but there is at least regular quarterly contact.

Personally besides nostalgia I hate to say it but there is boredom factor since many lose friends to health or distance. Some rekindled acquaintances are a consolation prize of sorts. Eyes were always on first prize when younger.

I also notice that many all of the sudden have an interest of their family history yet have no desire to contact never met relatives down. Heck I have known relatives I lost contact with because of distance. And if you having nothing in common or either party is extremely busy separation and detachment will happen, it's a natural evolution of things.
 
I am still friends with the close friends I had growing up. We never lost touch. The only ones I haven't kept in contact with are because sadly they have passed away. I really can't think of anyone from my past that I miss having contact with anymore.
 
Timely post. Just a few days ago I got a friend request from someone who was a close friend of my son. I guess it had been at least 30 years since I'd seen or heard from him. We're hoping to get together and talk over old times soon.
 
I still haven't called my old friend. My wife is now reminding me (putting it nicely) to pick up the phone and call him. It just seems to be so awkward. We haven's spoken in ages and now to call him and he may be in bad health seems kind of patronizing.
 
I'm surprised at the number of people, who say "let sleeping dogs lie". I happened to mention to my mom about a classmate of mine. We were in school-over 50 years ago. Well, she called him and told him that I wanted to meet him again. I didn't. All I could think of was after a few "do you remember the time?", what we were we going to say. 50 years is a hell of a lot time. We both never called each other. And people aren't the same 13-18 year olds they were way back when. Plus, half my classmates have passed on, and I'm only 73.
 

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