How do you want to go????

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whisteria

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Evening playmates,
What a scorcher of a day, (I must admit i fell asleep at lunch time in the gite) I was on my own and made a coffee and a sandwich and thought i'd read a bit more of the latest Allan Titchmarsh book called "Rosie" Now im not blaming the book "but" it was nice and quiet all the door's we're open and a nice gentle breeze was blowing through the lounge,

The next thing i knew was the book had fallen on the floor and i'd been asleep for an hour, ARhhhhhhhhhhhhh retirement you just can't beat it;)

I was talking to an ex-pat later on in the day and he'd said he didn't expect a big turn out the day he pops is cloggs!!!!!!!!!!!!
As he didnt know a lot of people but he didnt mind, but it was the feeling of just him in the coffin in the church pre the grave yard;)

He went on to ask what my feeling ref this subject?

Well i replied i didnt think we'd be talking about such things on a nice sunny day like today and what i was meaning when i said have you been thinking about a bit of late digging i didn'nt mean your grave (but he is hard at hearing anyway)
I once asked him how his onions were coming along and he went on about he could hardly walk some days!!!!!!
I dare not ask how his plums are growing !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Christ only knows what he'd show me.:eek::eek:

But now you've asked "I replied"
for both myself and the wife it'll be a case of being taken from the place of rest be it a hospital or our home and from this venue to the cemetery

We are not religious and we both feel it to be wrong to be having time spent in a church at this part of our lives when we never went to church during our normal life time.

He was amazed,
But what if you find out the religious thing is all true "what will you do then?????

Whats your thoughts on how you feel you want to go??

Will it be a church send off or as we intend going or do you have anyother idea's??
 

Don't want to go by the devil
Don't want to go by demon
Don't want to go by Satan
Don't want to die uneasy

Just let me go naturally


(Thanks, Blood Sweat & Tears :D)
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But never mind blood sweat & tears, what about "YOU" how do you want to go?

ie maybe a sea burial "and you could invite your enemies to dance on your grave!!!!
But lets have your thoughts "please":)
 

It's all taken care of and paid for. I carry a card with a toll free number to call in the event of my demise any where in the world. Calling that number and they arrange for my immediate cremation where ever I croak and then my ashes flown back to my daughter. If she does not want them then my ashes will be scattered in San Francisco Bay.
 
I want crowds of mourners all weeping and wailing, I want the local shops to close up for the day as a mark of respect, I want everyone to wear a black armband locally, and dogs to wear black collars.I want the church to be overflowing with people all sniffing sadly and saying wonderful things about me.I want the florist to have empty shelves, as all the flowers have been bought for me ! What more can I say?:wink:
 
I would like my survivors to have a great party and get really pished. Sprinkle my ashes somewhere in Argyll. I don't want a religious service but if I go first and my dh wants a catholic service that's okay. I'll be dead and won't know. He is still catholic and wants a catholic burial, so that's what he'll get. And he'll be buried in his kilt with the full outfit.
 
My mother used to say "just put me out with the garbage." We held a small memorial for her in a church hall. She was cremated, and her ashes distributed among the family. Our share are planted under a rose bush in the garden. My wife and I always felt pretty much the same way.
My son died a year ago, May. He was cremated, with no services, and is now riding around in the back seat of my car.
My wife died back in March. We had no services. She was cremated, and now sits on her dresser in our bedroom, awaiting my own demise. The plan is for me to be cremated, our ashes mixed and buried together. The geographic location is unimportant. In some inconceivably distant future, we are all going to become one with the universe anyway.
I always felt that the big obligatory to attend, send offs were a bad idea. Especially with the distances apart that people live from each other these days. The whole family puts themselves at risk in airplanes and on the roads, often in horrible weather conditions, for a couple of hours of "So sorry". If the need for commemoration is felt, just set a time, and everyone can take a few moments to remember. We do it when there's a national tragedy. The people we lose, remain in our memories. The physical body is no different than the finger nail pairings that we throw away every day. As far as the after life goes, as a non-believer,
I don't have to worry about Hell, or worse, spending eternity on my knees telling God how wonderful he is.
I'm looking forward to a long nap.:yawning:

P.S. The best send off I ever heard of was a distant relative who had made a potato cannon that they used at parties when he was alive. They had a send off cook out, packed his ashes into the cannon and fired him out into Delaware Bay!
 
I would like to go very quickly and quietly. So quietly that no one would even know for months. I don't even want neighbors or passersby on the streets to know. So it could maybe be when I go to the hospital for some routine thing, then have a massive stroke, or something like that. Then cremation. Yeah! I like that. ;)
 
Not a fan of cremation. However, I'd like a quick, painless aneurism....in front of people, so someone can look in my wallet, make necessary phone call(s). Everything is in order financially and legally.

(NancyNGA....oohhh, stroke is painful and scarey....had one about 10 yrs ago)
 
applecruncher said:
Not a fan of cremation. However, I'd like a quick, painless aneurism....in front of people, so someone can look in my wallet, make necessary phone call(s). Everything is in order financially and legally.

(NancyNGA....oohhh, stroke is painful and scarey....had one about 10 yrs ago)
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I've done the research. Stroke and heart attack are no good, especially if they find you before your gone. Doctors never want to be resuscitated themselves. I read where some of them even have tattoos to that effect. Going in your sleep is certainly the best, but that might be too good to hope for. The big winner is cardiac arrest. Your heart just stops, and you drop like a stone. Fortunately, it also seems to be the most common. Don't kill me if I'm wrong here. Just what I picked up from various Web sites.
 
oakapple said:
I want crowds of mourners all weeping and wailing, I want the local shops to close up for the day as a mark of respect, I want everyone to wear a black armband locally, and dogs to wear black collars.I want the church to be overflowing with people all sniffing sadly and saying wonderful things about me.I want the florist to have empty shelves, as all the flowers have been bought for me ! What more can I say?:wink:
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Just love it-so colorful!
I'm looking forward to my beautiful grave under a gum tree in the Dandenongs!
Hope I won't even know when it's happened! :peace:
 
Underock1 said:
I've done the research. Stroke and heart attack are no good, especially if they find you before your gone. Doctors never want to be resuscitated themselves. I read where some of them even have tattoos to that effect. Going in your sleep is certainly the best, but that might be too good to hope for. The big winner is cardiac arrest. Your heart just stops, and you drop like a stone. Fortunately, it also seems to be the most common. Don't kill me if I'm wrong here. Just what I picked up from various Web sites.
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I'd like to go when I'm in my 90's after dh and I have made mad passionate love, then we go to sleep and don't wake up. :love_heart:
 
OA! I'll see to the crowd control, hydration stations, make sure there's plenty of tissues, have your lengthy obituary on the front of every newspaper, Lead story on TV....everything..Leave it to me (or not).
 
whisteria said:
But never mind blood sweat & tears, what about "YOU" how do you want to go?

ie maybe a sea burial "and you could invite your enemies to dance on your grave!!!!
But lets have your thoughts "please":)
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They said it for me - I want to go naturally.

Which in my case will be smearing me with peanut butter, impaling me on a stick and leaving me in the woods for the bears. :p
 
Underock1 said:
I've done the research. Stroke and heart attack are no good, especially if they find you before your gone. .... Going in your sleep is certainly the best, but that might be too good to hope for. The big winner is cardiac arrest. Your heart just stops, and you drop like a stone. Fortunately, it also seems to be the most common. Don't kill me if I'm wrong here. Just what I picked up from various Web sites.
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OK you are right. Hospital is no good. Too many tubes and safe guards. Maybe the dentist's office would work or self serve gas station out of town. And cardiac arrest is good. Gee I'm glad I got to talk to you folks. I'd have messed it all up. Ha!
 
NancyNGA said:
OK you are right. Hospital is no good. Too many tubes and safe guards. Maybe the dentist's office would work or self serve gas station out of town. And cardiac arrest is good. Gee I'm glad I got to talk to you folks. I'd have messed it all up. Ha!
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Well, not to disagree with Underock, but cardiac arrest has got to be painful. When ou have a stroke, you are still conscious but very confused and unable to control movements. I still go with the aneurism. Bam! gone
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imo the absolute worst way would be in a fire. (ouch....aren't we terrible?)
 
I'll have that cardiac arrest, over easy. If not available, I want to go suddenly, swiftly with a big ole heart attack, one they can say of, "He was dead before he hit the ground." I want to ride on that low swinging sweet Chariot. I want it to sit down outside the place of my demise and wait respectively while they load my carcass into that Chariot and then I want to ride... all the way to the Crematory and there he turned into ash. If the Chariot is busy, any ole transportation will do.
 
My nostalgic side says I want to be cremated and have my ashes scattered in a field of California poppies on a bright spring day . . . my practical side says please dispose of my body in the least expensive manner possible. I won't care. My spirit will have merrily skipped away to my next adventure! :eek:nthego: (or not :confused: )
 
applecruncher said:
..... I still go with the aneurism. Bam! gone
:(
imo the absolute worst way would be in a fire. (ouch....aren't we terrible?)
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The only trouble with an aneurism is it tends to form slowly and some doctor will find out about it, and then start nagging you to get it fixed. That ruins everything.

Yes we are terrible. Maybe only seniors are allowed to talk about this kind of stuff.
 
I am a senior. I have lived longer than my Mom or Dad did. I have had a meh life. My daughter is gone, I have a son who I don't speak to (my idea), My Grandkids (grown and kids of their own) forget about me, so when I go what the hell....I don't care what comes after.
 
Aneurism, while in bed with my current lover is my death of choice. As for my corpse, I have left instructions for the cheapest cremation possible. After that, my family may do as they wish with my ashes. There will be no memorial, but I am in the process of planning a big ass hippie wake the like of which this town has never seen. It will take place while I am still alive enough to enjoy it. Food, booze, entertainment, the whole nine yards, even a mermaid ice sculpture. Celebrate my life in style, drums, belly dancing, love and laughter. Yes!
 
I want to go to sleep, in my bed, as I do every night, go to sleep, and wake up in heaven.

My funeral is all paid for, clothes picked out, music selected, fun happy music and my kids know what to do. I want a happy going away party for my service either in my church or at the funeral home chapel. :eek:nthego:
 
Like everyone, I hope I go in a painless way. At some point I will probably prepay for everything just to simplify for nephews and niece(I'm single). I'm really not concerned with a ceremony, but graveside services have been the norm in my family so can't break with tradition. ;)
 

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