How does a person live alone and not get lonely?

If some people have the mentality that their children should look after them in their old age - then- they will always be disappointed.
They brought chldren into the world, set them free to explore, to grow, to live.
I know if we need anything our children will provide because they love us.
However, we do not, because we have provided for ourselves, in order not to burden our children.
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mellowyellow said:
Sadly, feelings of loneliness are sometimes traits of the introvert and like someone said, We are only as "alone" as we want to be. But people who have never been lonely don’t understand when their answer to loneliness is easy - just get off your butt and join this or join that. It’s not that easy though, it’s okay for the extravert who loves people, they can fit in anywhere, but not all of us are that lucky.
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I am an extrovert..I lived in Sudbury where the bus stop was on the corner..my friends were close by…here in Barrie all is far..I do not drive and taxis are expensive….I do not want to use my daughter as a chauffeur..soo I will make this forum my go to friend place;)
 

Snow74 said:
I am an extrovert..I lived in Sudbury where the bus stop was on the corner..my friends were close by…here in Barrie all is far..I do not drive and taxis are expensive….I do not want to use my daughter as a chauffeur..soo I will make this forum my go to friend place;)
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I'm kind of in a similar boat. I'm 4 miles away from anything other than a gas station convenience store and don't drive myself except once in a great while.
 
Gary O' said:
Heh, I can't seem to let this go.
Guess, some of us seniors tote some baggage.
Guess I'm one of 'em
Guess my baggage is Samsonite

Hope you can forgive me @Pecos

and I apologize to anyone else here I offended

I'm gonna go butcher some wood for awhile
...short on kindling
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No, therapy does not help everyone. There are all the variables to consider before deciding whether therapy is for you or not.
You are in pain about your son, come on give me a hug 🤗
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officerripley said:
All the ones I've tried didn't taste like anything remotely resembling ice cream unfortunately but that's life, I guess.
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Have you tried Favorite Day: Favorite Day Non-Dairy Frozen Dessert Reviews (formerly Archer Farms) (godairyfree.org)

It's made by Target store and comes very close to tasting like the real thing. If you cannot find heavy cream that is lactose free, try milk that is so, put it into a blender with some rennet for thickening, and add sugar substitute. It should work.
 
I am so glad to have started this thread which has allowed so many members to talk of their experiences.
Yes, we are all individuals with our own lived experiences which have made us the person we have become.
My early childhood experiences led me to be independent of other people.
Though I temper this with the fact that if I had not had those early negative experiences then I may well have been more outgoing, more giving, more empathetic
Regressing very early I found ways to amuse myself and this has carried on throughout my life.
I have changed a little from those times.
At one time in my life, if I could not do something by myself I would forego that thing.
Because I would not ask for help, I did not want to interact with people. Find another way to do it or give it up.
These days if I need help with something, I have mellowed enough to ask for help.
Even so, those occasions are extremely rare as I mostly always find a way around my predicament.
My post has elicited 300 responses so it shows that loneliness is an issue in the world today and I thank all of you for sharing your own very personal experiences.
Bretrick
 
oldiebutgoody said:
might I suggest teleconferencing ? :)
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Teleconferencing was promoted as the "cure to loneliness" at the beginning when Covid hit. Everybody and his dog seemed to get on this bandwagon. If you watch the news it's almost all teleconferencing. However, recently I have read some comments where some people are getting tired of this. They say it's not as good as a real one on one in person. I suppose that teleconferencing is here to stay but hey, anyone for Virtual Sex? Not the same thing!
 
oldiebutgoody said:
Which is probably the best part of all - the thread shows there are (more often than not) easy solutions to this "problem" of loneliness.
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Well, that's not exactly what it showed me; I think rather that there are maybe easy solutions once in a while. So is the way you feel that there are a lot of easy solutions and it's just that some people aren't smart enough or motivated to "snap out of it"? (Trying to understand your viewpoint and that of some others; having a hard time with that viewpoint.)
 
officerripley said:
Well, that's not exactly what it showed me; I think rather that there are maybe easy solutions once in a while. So is the way you feel that there are a lot of easy solutions and it's just that some people aren't smart enough or motivated to "snap out of it"? (Trying to understand your viewpoint and that of some others; having a hard time with that viewpoint.)
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I use the term "solution" but, in fact, I emphasize that this just isn't a problem as it is largely imaginary. Again, I refer to links from psychological sources previously posted on the subject.
 
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Gary O' said:
Heh, I can't seem to let this go.
Guess, some of us seniors tote some baggage.
Guess I'm one of 'em
Guess my baggage is Samsonite

Hope you can forgive me @Pecos

and I apologize to anyone else here I offended

I'm gonna go butcher some wood for awhile
...short on kindling
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Now I sicken myself

I'm not sorry

I need no forgiveness

I can't roll over to misguided bleeding hearts
It's...... just.....not.....in me

Therapists damn near killed my kid back when he was in the nut bin
When I saw him, all shriveled to an emaciated 90 lbs, I wanted to choke the shit outa those therapists

Still do

I don't need any replies
 
No such thing as "loneliness" as there are many multiple ways of keeping good company. One such avenue is Townsends on youtube. We meet every Friday at 3:00 PM Central. This Friday (or is it next Friday?) we plan on having a discussion on that illuminating masterpiece by Ben Franklin entitled "Fart Proudly". The subject is one of great importance, especially to us the aged, as science has concluded that,


"A small study found that the smell of farts, or hydrogen sulfide, can have some incredible health benefits, like helping the person who farted live longer, while the smell can quell dementia. Smelling farts can also help with heart disease, diabetes, and arthritis"


Unless proven otherwise, I believe this to be incontrovertible truth.

source: Google
 
I did re-marry, but I did it right, did the courtship thing for 3 years so that we would get a chance to really know each other.
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oldiebutgoody said:
No such thing as "loneliness" as there are many multiple ways of keeping good company. One such avenue is Townsends on youtube. We meet every Friday at 3:00 PM Central. This Friday (or is it next Friday?) we plan on having a discussion on that illuminating masterpiece by Ben Franklin entitled "Fart Proudly". The subject is one of great importance, especially to us the aged, as science has concluded that,


"A small study found that the smell of farts, or hydrogen sulfide, can have some incredible health benefits, like helping the person who farted live longer, while the smell can quell dementia. Smelling farts can also help with heart disease, diabetes, and arthritis"


Unless proven otherwise, I believe this to be incontrovertible truth.

source: Google
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Google knows everything like you
 
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