How does your loved one apologize?

I can't stand it when she's mad at me.
I follow her around her kitchen, and into another room, like the ashamed dawg I am.
Usually it's something I considered funny and she takes it personal.
Finally, she'll turn on me and say 'JUS' LET ME GIT OVER IT!'
So, I go to the shop...fiddle with stuff...think of other, even funnier, things.

For awhile there I quit sharing my joys.
She'd see me there....silently chortling
Finally, one day, she blurted......'OK....OK...tell me what's so funny'

Now? she contends with me
...and even laughs
Heh, she can't laugh right...gets to giggling backwords, and chokes from breathing wrong

Hilarious
 
Gary O' said:
Does he have a shop he can go to?
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LOL he does. But he can't stand when we're emotionally distant ... so he hangs around and tries to pretend like nothing has happened and is all cute whereas I’m kinda like your woman...I just want space to come to terms with whatever.

Sometimes I'll apologize. Sometimes he will. But when HE does it's always accompanied by a sweet card, or flowers, or a bottle of wine, or some offering to let me know how sorry he is, because he's not as good with words as I am.
 
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My ex- never did anything to apologize for ...... or at least, that's what he thought. And he said he didn't know why I wanted him to be ex-.
 
mine would have to look the word up to get the meaning lol......he never has done in all the years married '
its not in his gene to say it 🙊… if he bought me flowers -I would be worried hahaha
 
Gary O' said:
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lol..yes he does, and an office, ..and you know what really gets on my last nerve is that I can have a row , blow up , say what has to be said , and it's over and done... no hard feelings..but not him.. he can disapear into his office,/shed/barn/pub/ and not speak for a week!! ..over relatively nothing!! 😬
 
Ruth n Jersey said:
Usually we don't have arguments mainly because he just walks away when things get heated. I'm left steaming and two minutes later he is back like nothing has happened. I don't think I ever remember an apology. Beautiful flowers Ronni, enjoy them.
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Same at my house. I don't apologize either. If I said something I meant it and if I did something I probably did it on purpose.
 
Even though my Husband is usually very caring and thoughtful, he really isn't the type to apologize after an argument, because he never believes he is wrong. He does bring me gifts for no special reasons very often, but not ever after an argument.
 
My man is actually quite good at apologizing.
To be honest, he’s better at apologizing than I am but then again, he’s gotta live with me.😁

I don’t get a dozen yellow roses but he is often surprising me with small adorable gestures of affection like hand picked flowers or chocolates he got from work . I don’t ever get notes. He says everything to my face with such sincerity that at times it makes me want to cry and I usually do.

We both aren’t too proud or stupid not to understand the importance of apologies and forgiveness and for this I’m grateful.
It keeps our relationship real and honest.
 
Keesha said:
My man is actually quite good at apologizing.
To be honest, he’s better at apologizing than I am but then again, he’s gotta live with me.😁

I don’t get a dozen yellow roses but he is often surprising me with small adorable gestures of affection like hand picked flowers or chocolates he got from work . I don’t ever get notes. He says everything to my face with such sincerity that at times it makes me want to cry and I usually do.

We both aren’t too proud or stupid not to understand the importance of apologies and forgiveness and for this I’m grateful.
It keeps our relationship real and honest.
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I love this @Keesha 😍

Ron had a hard time admitting any fault at first.....baggage from his prior marriage. Suffice to say that apologies or admitting he was wrong about something made him vulnerable, and vulnerability around his ex was dangerous. Real, honest communication of any kind was fraught with pitfalls.

We had to hash out a few thing earlier in our relationship. I consider honest communication foundational to a healthy relationship, and though he agreed with that in theory, it was difficult for him. He had to learn over time that it was safe to communicate to me.

Nowadays we talk about everything. He will be the first to admit that while I’m the better communicator (larger vocabulary and greater command of the English language in general) he has surpassed me in his openness. To this day I remain slightly guarded...holdover from the abuse I suffered for so many years at the hands of my ex. He is very understanding of that (one of the many things I love about the man 💕) and I do get there in the end.
 
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