How Many "Close" Friends Have You Made In The Past 10 Years?

fmdog44

fmdog44

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Neighbors only. Since at my age people don't typically mingle like we did in our teens. The need for friends diminishes IMO with age.
 

I'm the only member of my family who chose to live here in Buffalo because of my job
I have a core group of maybe 10 close friends I consider my 'extended family'.They are my neighbors, church friends who I would be lost if they weren't in my life.I would do anything for them,vice versa.They range in age from 60's-80's Sue
 
None. For me a wave and a hello to our neighbors over the fence is enough for me. I noticed my sister in law who is way more social than me has made close friends with most all her neighbors. I was at her home when one neighbor gave a quick knock on the door and not waiting walked right in,poured a cup of coffee and got the milk out of the fridge. I was horrified. After she left I asked my sister in law about it. She said she was happy they felt comfortable enough to do that. Whats next? A soak in her tub and maybe a nap on her bed? No thank you.
 

One ! We met a couple from down the road and I have become quite close to the women.
We do girly things together but she moved yesterday because she needed a place for her parents to stay permanently.
Luckily I will be able to see her when I go into the city as I’ll pass right by her house. Of course I won’t do it unexpectedly.

note: this is of course rural neighbours. She was 1 kilometre away.
Close neighbours we don’t like getting too close to. It can make things awkward.
 
Neighbor ‘friends’?
None
Friendly but not friends
Good with that

Nuthin’ worse than the pop in
Not here
Could get shot
Especially if they bring their darling children

It’s spring break
lotsa camper types have invaded my realm
OK, two, but that’s two too many

Not even deep snow and ice has stopped ‘em

May be trying lead, see if that works

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Zero. I'm friendly with my neighbors on either side of me, and across the street. We'll chat, on occasion, and I've done their trees. However, I would not consider them close friends. I value the relationships I have with them, though. I look out for their safety, and I trust they do likewise, for me. In my whole life, I've experienced less than ten close friendships, not counting ex-wives and girlfriends.
 
We recently moved and I don't even know any of our neighbors and I am not interested in becoming friendly with any of them. I learned from my previous neighbors that no matter how good I was to them and their children when I was convenient to doing things for them they were nice to me but when they didn't need me for something they ignored me. I'm too old to put up with crap like that anymore. My husband talks to the new neighbors and I'm ok with that as long as I am not involved.
 
None. I have a couple of old friends from years back, my wife a girlfriend from her old neighborhood, but now-a-days, our social life revolves around family. Of our 4 kids, 3 are within driving distance and we live in the old family home with the fourth, our youngest daughter and family. We love 'em all and couldn't be treated better by them. Grown kids and grandkids visit, along with their own families which allows us to see the great grands on a regular basis. There's a total of 30 some in the area and much inter-action between the younger families themselves, as well as with us.

So, in our case, no need to look for new friends and having reached our eighties, there's not many of our age left.
 
Gary O' said:
Neighbor ‘friends’?
None
Friendly but not friends
Good with that

Nuthin’ worse than the pop in
Not here
Could get shot
Especially if they bring their darling children

It’s spring break
lotsa camper types have invaded my realm
OK, two, but that’s two too many

Not even deep snow and ice has stopped ‘em

May be trying lead, see if that works

pNaRK0z.jpg
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No borrowing a cuppa sugar then huh? :shrug:
 
Zero. Like others have said, I'm friendly, but no friends. I can count my friends on one hand now as with time passing, so are they. :(:(

Gary O' I would think a little target shooting or sighting in the old rifle might be enough to make them uncomfortable and leave. :) worth a try don't you think? :D
 
I made one close friend who moved in a few months ago. He's in his fifties and really nice. His wife is not as friendly, his mother in law lives with them, and a really cute 4 year old daughter who is very friendly, lol. He will help us with anything. But during the winter, like us, he hibernates.

When we first moved here, I noticed everyone worked. I sat in the front yard and waved at them on their way to work, and when they come home. Some of them will chat occasionally, but I've only made the one friend.

People in in this neighborhood don't bug each other which is so nice.
 
Very few as all I do is work and have been working everyday for over 40+ year in the oilfields. Work friendships are good, and real, but for the majority, they will not last beyond working with each other.

From my childhood I can count on one hand my friends and that is a stretch.

In life - it is Ms. gamboolgal. Matthew 19:5 ‘for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?

I love our children but they will always be the kids even though there full growdup now.

I am the man, like so many others, who would be lost w/o his wife.
 
I've made a few close friends. These are people from work. The trouble is, I make a friend and then that friend retires. I'm finding that when they retire, I pretty much lose touch with them.

I think when I retire, I probably won't have close friends. My husband and I are going to travel, and don't know how friends will fit into the picture. I do have a brother and sister in law that would like to travel with us. That will be good enough for me.
 
Unfortunately, not too many. I try to keep a tight boundary, meaning that I do not speak with others about the most private parts of my life, including my family members. I tend to generalize a lot without giving any absolutes that would reflect on just what makes me tick, so to speak.

When I worked for a living, I took great pride in what I did and shared with anyone that worked with me all the knowledge that I knew or had learned over the many years. I always thought that was part of my job.
 
And come to think of it , my friend ( neighbour ) and I aren’t really close. Not as close as she may have wanted to be. She wanted to have a friend close by so she could pop over for drinks after work and that didn’t work for us.
They don’t like their new house and are regretting selling.

Ive got a lot of friends that I’ve know for over 50 years now but there are very few I’ve actually kept in touch with. Priorities change as we get older. Friends aren’t as important however since caring for my parents I’ve since discovered the importance of friends. Once my husband retires I think it’s important that we both have an individual life as well as a life together. Then when one of us passes we have others around us to help us deal with the loss if possible.

I find getting old a bit scary.
 
I have made some very nice friends here at the residence, so that's nice.
I have one very best friend who I have known for over 60 years, we keep in touch
by phone or email and see each other several times a year. Would like to see each
other more often, but we both have health issues and cannot always arrange to get together.
 
The four close friends I have are from the late sixties and mid-seventies. Three are from school and one is from work. It doesn't matter how long we may not be communicating, but when we do, it's like time never happened. Although the one from the seventies, we get together at least once a week.
 
I've made no new close friends in the past 10 years, but I have had several close friends for many years. We are friendly with our neighbors but not close.
 
What is "close"?

Get together for coffee and a chat? A couple dozen, anyway.

Do things with socially on a regular basis? Maybe a dozen.

Would lend me their car or take me into their home if truly needed and I asked? Maybe eight to ten.

Would lend me their car or take me into their home if truly needed without my having to ask? Three or four.

Talk with every day to gossip and share my deepest feelings, hopes, fears, and aspirations? C'MON, guys don't do that sort of thing!
 

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