How not to have an affair

I don’t understand why the woman involved , who is apparently the head of the Human Resources Department, has not also lost her job. The other young woman in the video is also a member of the HR department. She would have had an obligation to report the relationship.
How could any employee who works at this company be able to trust the HR department to investigate any complaint, whether of sexual misconduct or other issues. (I realize in reality, the HR department exists to protect the company not the employees ). Especially if the complaints involved the cheating CEO .

I understand the concerns about violating the privacy of individuals. But these individuals drug their entire company into a messy and potentially illegal situation.
 

Ronni said:
I get where you’re coming from as a general statement about privacy @Medusa.

But to assume privacy in a huge stadium filled with thousands of people that also has a Jumbotron is naive of the two people involved, in my opinion.

Also, privacy, and anonymity, are often confused. While we can assume we’re protected by anonymity in a huge crowd, just one of thousands, to also assume the venue will protect our privacy is short sighted at best, and foolish at worst.
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Very good point. Agreed.
 
CallMeKate said:
The other woman has been identified as "the cheating woman's" co-worker (possibly assistant) who has also recently been promoted.
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MountainRa said:
The other young woman in the video is also a member of the HR department.
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This widely believed assertion has been refuted. Even Astronomer issued a statement saying that woman in the video is not Cabot's assistant, Alyssa Stoddard, although the two certainly do resemble each other. Cabot's assistant, Alyssa Stoddard wasn't even at the concert that night.

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spookycat2 said:
I saw that meme on FB today, but had not heard the story til now. The way the office people carried on at my last job, This story is no surprise at all. I don't like the publicity of it all either, it shows our media is just as corrupt as company management.
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I missed this little sordid tidbit, which is strange since it seems all the tidbits of juicy garbage seem to wash through my FB stream.
 
Medusa said:
Really, what concerned me most about this was what it indicates about privacy in general. Basically, it's gone and we live in a different world now. There's no getting it back.

There are good things about the loss of privacy in that people get caught for their crimes because of it, and maybe, commit them less for fear of it. But the other side of that is that we've all had to give up our privacy and learn to live in this new world of cameras everywhere all the time. Paging George Orwell.
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Privacy and anonymity is a thing of the past. People can be easily tracked via air tags slipped into our cars or gym bags, tracking software on our phones, etc.

I have friends whose underage children know their parents' cell phone passwords, and thus have access to their texts - including the texts they send to me when they're frustrated or concerned about some of their children's behavior.

As for the cheating couple, I feel for their families, but my sympathies for the cheaters are nil. This wasn't someone being caught in a single moment of bad behavior in an otherwise mostly aboveboard life. Cheaters know EXACTLY what they're doing when they have affairs. People don't "fall into affairs" — they claw their way in, repeatedly choosing to lie, cheat and steal (stealing time and affection from the spouse and family) every step of the way.

If one of my friends was cheating on a spouse or was single but romantically involved with someone who was cheating, my friendship would be over. I have zero tolerance for cheaters.
 
StarSong said:
Privacy and anonymity is a thing of the past. People can be easily tracked via air tags slipped into our cars or gym bags, tracking software on our phones, etc.

I have friends whose underage children know their parents' cell phone passwords, and thus have access to their texts - including the texts they send to me when they're frustrated or concerned about some of their children's behavior.

As for the cheating couple, I feel for their families, but my sympathies for the cheaters are nil. This wasn't someone being caught in a single moment of bad behavior in an otherwise mostly aboveboard life. Cheaters know EXACTLY what they're doing when they have affairs. People don't "fall into affairs" — they claw their way in, repeatedly choosing to lie, cheat and steal (stealing time and affection from the spouse and family) every step of the way.

If one of my friends was cheating on a spouse or was single but romantically involved with someone who was cheating, my friendship would be over. I have zero tolerance for cheaters.
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I was saying this in my post above, as well in that I feel more for the spouse(s) involved here and that privacy as we know it is a thing of the past. It is a different world now.
 
I hate this whole thing. No matter how terrible these people may be, the social media stone throwing is affecting families and others who are no part of this.
I can only hope some good things come out if it somewhere.
I still like Coldplay. 😉
 
I'm thinking it's gone on long enough now... whether or not it was deserved, he's lost his family, job, and is probably blacklisted.
She's been called out for... uh... knowing how to get to the top, we'll say. Not sure if the interview was true or fake AI generated news, but if true, her CEO husband is devastated because he had full trust in her.

Bottom line, they've both basically lost everything, so now is a dangerous time for them when it could lead to total despair and making stupid choices. It's still trending heavily on FB feed and most of it now is the mocking memes. Time to stop before those children and spouses are hurt even more.
 
CallMeKate said:
I'm thinking it's gone on long enough now... whether or not it was deserved, he's lost his family, job, and is probably blacklisted.
She's been called out for... uh... knowing how to get to the top, we'll say. Not sure if the interview was true or fake AI generated news, but if true, her CEO husband is devastated because he had full trust in her.

Bottom line, they've both basically lost everything, so now is a dangerous time for them when it could lead to total despair and making stupid choices. It's still trending heavily on FB feed and most of it now is the mocking memes. Time to stop before those children and spouses are hurt even more.
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I agree.
I do think lost is not the right term they threw away their family/ job and respect.

I am not a fan of memes or prolonging something like this in the name of trying to one up each other on social media on the last joke/ meme game. I am glad I was out of loop on vacation not on internet and such. my spouse looked up things and wanted to show me all the things but i told him i was not interested.
 
CallMeKate said:
I'm thinking it's gone on long enough now... whether or not it was deserved, he's lost his family, job, and is probably blacklisted.
She's been called out for... uh... knowing how to get to the top, we'll say. Not sure if the interview was true or fake AI generated news, but if true, her CEO husband is devastated because he had full trust in her.

Bottom line, they've both basically lost everything, so now is a dangerous time for them when it could lead to total despair and making stupid choices. It's still trending heavily on FB feed and most of it now is the mocking memes. Time to stop before those children and spouses are hurt even more.
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Other than SF I mostly avoid social media. I check in on FB roughly once a fortnight, but it's set up so that others can't post on my page, so I don't see these kinds of things.

Pretty soon other scandals or big stories will crowd this one from the headlines and the story will fade. The parties involved and their families will remember it clearly, but the public at large? Not so much.

As the child of a serial philanderer who took few pains to hide his extra-curricular relationships, I can say with some authority that affairs inflict mountains of family pain, with or without widely broadcasted PDAs going on.
 
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I'm going to take it all into account and become even more reclusive than I am. I am not doing anything wrong, but even if I was, I consider it absolutely no business of anyone else. Certainly not strangers.

Another lesson here is the power of a loose tongue to ruin people's lives. First the commentator, then the thousands of opinions expressed on social media by total strangers, happy to pass judgement.
This whole thing is ghastly.
 
People say had they not reacted, they wouldn't have been exposed. I still think they would have but it wouldn't have been this crazy with the media. Their reaction just added more to it.
 
Jules said:
Rose, when you buy tickets to an event that uses videos, there’s usually fine print that says you agree to be photographed. I’m sure they would have that there. Or it’ll be written somewhere else.

His wife has changed her last name on LinkedIn (rumour)
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Very wise wife.
 
Rose65 said:
They were only cuddling.
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Did you happen to see what his hand was grasping? :unsure: And did you happen to see the second video of the passionate kiss BEFORE the kiss cam? Sorry, I just don't understand this reasoning... if that had been your husband, would it still be "they were only cuddling?" His wife and her husband had to see him pawing her chest... you're seriously okay with that?
 
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