"Hubby" ?

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Josiah

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I'm fairly active in several FaceBook groups as well as other internet forums such as Senior Forums. One phenomenon I've observed online which really perplexes me is the all but universal use of the word "hubby" by women when they are referring to their spouse. What's wrong with the word husband? I don't refer to my wife as "wifey". It seems to me that in ordinary face to face conversation hubby is not generally used nor is hubby all that common in contemporary fiction. What's the story ladies. I find the term somewhat demeaning although in the vast number of occurrences I encounter on the internet, the woman is simply referring to her spouse period.
 

There are many husbands but each of us has just one Hubby.

I don't use it in real life but on the internet I don't name any members of my family.
Hubby is a substitute for a proper noun in this case.
I suppose I could be like Phyllis Diller and just call him Fang?
 
LOL @fang , DW.. :D

I don't mind what anyone calls their family members online, as long as it's not offensive..
 

I often refer to my husband as hubby, especially when writing on this forum. It's a loving term that is not meant to be offensive at all, he's aware of it and have never voiced any opposition to it, although he wouldn't use such terms himself...or write on a forum or social media.

Hubby is also shorter to type than the word husband, 5 letters as opposed to 7...whereas wifey is longer to type than the word wife. I have heard men on the forum a couple of times refer to their wives as wifey, and didn't think twice about it. My husband and I know that we love each other very much, and if either of us wish to use a more lovey dovey term, I can't imagine finding fault with that.
 
Better than DH. At least I don't have to stop and think. (Are all husbands "Dear"?)

And what about brekkie (for breakfast)? :p Sounds like something you upchuck.

(Sorry, been watching too many George Carlin videos lately;)).
 
That sounds like a very plausible explanation, Dame Warrigal and one I hadn't thought of. Instead of interpreting it as somewhat demeaning, I should interpret as a term of affection.

One's understand of the opposite sex is a never ending journey.
 
I never cared for the expression boob, and I never heard my husband use it, although it is less offensive than some other terms that men sometimes use. The only time it made me chuckle was when someone referred to Fox News as Fox Boobs, due to the women on that news show and how they dress like they're going out to a night club. I have no problem with the word breast at all.
 
My concern is strictly about women's use of the term in a context usually absent of any sexual connotations. Women use the term all the time when referring to their own breasts and you can't say that boob doesn't have a demeaning connotation.
 
I've always used the term breast, if I was describing a pain or something like that. I agree, in my mind boob is a demeaning term. I hear and see the term a lot with the breast cancer pink rage, and I don't care for it at all.
 
NancyNGA said:
Better than DH. At least I don't have to stop and think. (Are all husbands "Dear"?)

And what about brekkie (for breakfast)? :p Sounds like something you upchuck.

(Sorry, been watching too many George Carlin videos lately;)).
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Now you've hit on an Australian trait which is to shorten words and end them with either 'ie/y' or 'o' as in

lippie - lipstick; brekkie - breakfast, Chrissy - Christmas; Tassie - Tasmania; Brissie - Brisbane
servo - service station; bowlo - bowling club; rego - car registration; arvo - afternoon.

Hubby is just another example of this tradition
 
I find neither offensive but then I don't find baby offensive or chick and apparently we're supposed to. I don't go by supposed to; I go by what makes sense. I've never been offended by a man I was involved with calling me baby. It's an affectionate term. Where I live (NY) hubby is used irl all the time and actually has a connotation of being more affectionate and implies your hubby is someone you're rather fond of as opposed to being a real son of a bitch. In other words, he's the good guy husband who treats you well with love and respect which would be anything but demeaning. It is rather a term of endearment.

I do say boobs when casually referring to my breasts. It's slang for breasts same as nuts or balls is slang for testicles or do you say my testes every time? I see no reason not to use a perfectly good slang.
 
SeaBreeze said:
If my husband had his druthers, he'd rather me not talking about him at all! :p
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That's a coincidence, I belong to another group with a very active woman moderator/administrator and she's often commented that her husband has made it very clear on numerous occasions that he doesn't want any references to be made about him in the group his wife runs. I find this decidedly strange.
 
I think it's cute....and I believe it's definitely a term of endearment and really, a pet name, rather than insulting or demeaning. When I was married, I called my husband my hubby and he just loved it.
 

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