I am about to lose my third sibling in less than 18 months...

Mrs. Robinson

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Nampa,Idaho
Hard to believe. Lost my eldest sister Thanksgiving of 2020,my brother Dec. of 2021 and last week found out my 20 months older than me (we were pretty much raised like twins) is dying.She was diagnosed with breast cancer in July of 2020,after being misdiagnosed in March of 2019. She had chemo and then radiation which she completed in May of 2021. They had wanted her to then have oral chemo,but when she saw her oncologist at Stanford Hospital,he said that there was no need,that she was cancer free. She moved to Idaho at the same time as we did,but on the other side of the state,so I hadn`t seen her since last June.

I noticed that she was MIA from Facebook-although she has never been heavily involved on FB,other than with pics of dog shows,which she attended every week. But a couple of months ago she started commenting on all of our posts (mine and my kids). Then she suddenly stopped. I had seen a pic of her at Christmas and she looked thin to me. I was afraid something wasn`t right. I was right.

I finally messaged my niece two weeks ago and asked if my sister was OK.She said that she was just about to call us,that no,she was not OK. She was,in fact,in the hospital. They had found a mass in her colon and planned on starting chemo last week. But first they did a spinal puncture and discovered it is in her brain as well,so she has gone home to spend her last days with her husband and her dogs.

My younger sister flew up from California last week and she,hubby and I drove to her house. We expected her to be in bed and not lucid,as apparently that had been her status earlier. We were ecstatic to find her sitting on the sofa,fully awake and aware and telling us "happy tears only-no sad tears allowed." For two days we reminisced,laughed,ok,cried a little,but it was a wonderful visit. The doctor says she has 2-3 months,but unfortunately she cannot eat or even drink the Ensure they want her to drink.Only (maybe) an ounce a day. She hasn`t eaten in about 6 weeks. She is literally skin hanging off of bones.So I know she won`t last much longer with no nourishment.

Cancer sucks.
 

Hard to believe. Lost my eldest sister Thanksgiving of 2020,my brother Dec. of 2021 and last week found out my 20 months older than me (we were pretty much raised like twins) is dying.She was diagnosed with breast cancer in July of 2020,after being misdiagnosed in March of 2019. She had chemo and then radiation which she completed in May of 2021. They had wanted her to then have oral chemo,but when she saw her oncologist at Stanford Hospital,he said that there was no need,that she was cancer free. She moved to Idaho at the same time as we did,but on the other side of the state,so I hadn`t seen her since last June.

I noticed that she was MIA from Facebook-although she has never been heavily involved on FB,other than with pics of dog shows,which she attended every week. But a couple of months ago she started commenting on all of our posts (mine and my kids). Then she suddenly stopped. I had seen a pic of her at Christmas and she looked thin to me. I was afraid something wasn`t right. I was right.

I finally messaged my niece two weeks ago and asked if my sister was OK.She said that she was just about to call us,that no,she was not OK. She was,in fact,in the hospital. They had found a mass in her colon and planned on starting chemo last week. But first they did a spinal puncture and discovered it is in her brain as well,so she has gone home to spend her last days with her husband and her dogs.

My younger sister flew up from California last week and she,hubby and I drove to her house. We expected her to be in bed and not lucid,as apparently that had been her status earlier. We were ecstatic to find her sitting on the sofa,fully awake and aware and telling us "happy tears only-no sad tears allowed." For two days we reminisced,laughed,ok,cried a little,but it was a wonderful visit. The doctor says she has 2-3 months,but unfortunately she cannot eat or even drink the Ensure they want her to drink.Only (maybe) an ounce a day. She hasn`t eaten in about 6 weeks. She is literally skin hanging off of bones.So I know she won`t last much longer with no nourishment.

Cancer sucks.
I am a loss for words other than I am so very sorry for what you are going through. I will have you in my thoughts and prayers as well as your sister and the rest of your family.
 
Hard to believe. Lost my eldest sister Thanksgiving of 2020,my brother Dec. of 2021 and last week found out my 20 months older than me (we were pretty much raised like twins) is dying.She was diagnosed with breast cancer in July of 2020,after being misdiagnosed in March of 2019. She had chemo and then radiation which she completed in May of 2021. They had wanted her to then have oral chemo,but when she saw her oncologist at Stanford Hospital,he said that there was no need,that she was cancer free. She moved to Idaho at the same time as we did,but on the other side of the state,so I hadn`t seen her since last June.

I noticed that she was MIA from Facebook-although she has never been heavily involved on FB,other than with pics of dog shows,which she attended every week. But a couple of months ago she started commenting on all of our posts (mine and my kids). Then she suddenly stopped. I had seen a pic of her at Christmas and she looked thin to me. I was afraid something wasn`t right. I was right.

I finally messaged my niece two weeks ago and asked if my sister was OK.She said that she was just about to call us,that no,she was not OK. She was,in fact,in the hospital. They had found a mass in her colon and planned on starting chemo last week. But first they did a spinal puncture and discovered it is in her brain as well,so she has gone home to spend her last days with her husband and her dogs.

My younger sister flew up from California last week and she,hubby and I drove to her house. We expected her to be in bed and not lucid,as apparently that had been her status earlier. We were ecstatic to find her sitting on the sofa,fully awake and aware and telling us "happy tears only-no sad tears allowed." For two days we reminisced,laughed,ok,cried a little,but it was a wonderful visit. The doctor says she has 2-3 months,but unfortunately she cannot eat or even drink the Ensure they want her to drink.Only (maybe) an ounce a day. She hasn`t eaten in about 6 weeks. She is literally skin hanging off of bones.So I know she won`t last much longer with no nourishment.

Cancer sucks.
It's good that you and your sister were able to see one another. I hope she is keeping as comfortable as possible.

We have/had cancer in our family, and I couldn't agree more with you. Cancer sucks, big-time.


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Oh, Mrs. R, what a heartbreaking situation. Yes, cancer sucks, big time.

I'm glad you and your younger sister were able to have those loving, happy reminiscences with your older sister. Like Pinky, I hope your sister's family and medical team will keep her as comfortable as possible, given the circumstances.

My heart goes out to you at this difficult time.
 
3 siblings in 18 months.. OMG Mrs R...your heart must be broken, , how are you coping with this, what a terrible loss to suffer in such a short time.

Your sister bless her heart has accepted her fate with strength and fortitude, and how awful for her not to even enjoy ( if that's the right word).. her last days without at least the enjoyment of food or drink.. so sad.. but you Mrs R.. are now having to cope with the loss of a 3rd sibling in the family... and one especially close to you.. this has to be very difficult indeed... I feel for you all... :(
 
Hard to believe. Lost my eldest sister Thanksgiving of 2020,my brother Dec. of 2021 and last week found out my 20 months older than me (we were pretty much raised like twins) is dying.She was diagnosed with breast cancer in July of 2020,after being misdiagnosed in March of 2019. She had chemo and then radiation which she completed in May of 2021. They had wanted her to then have oral chemo,but when she saw her oncologist at Stanford Hospital,he said that there was no need,that she was cancer free. She moved to Idaho at the same time as we did,but on the other side of the state,so I hadn`t seen her since last June.

I noticed that she was MIA from Facebook-although she has never been heavily involved on FB,other than with pics of dog shows,which she attended every week. But a couple of months ago she started commenting on all of our posts (mine and my kids). Then she suddenly stopped. I had seen a pic of her at Christmas and she looked thin to me. I was afraid something wasn`t right. I was right.

I finally messaged my niece two weeks ago and asked if my sister was OK.She said that she was just about to call us,that no,she was not OK. She was,in fact,in the hospital. They had found a mass in her colon and planned on starting chemo last week. But first they did a spinal puncture and discovered it is in her brain as well,so she has gone home to spend her last days with her husband and her dogs.

My younger sister flew up from California last week and she,hubby and I drove to her house. We expected her to be in bed and not lucid,as apparently that had been her status earlier. We were ecstatic to find her sitting on the sofa,fully awake and aware and telling us "happy tears only-no sad tears allowed." For two days we reminisced,laughed,ok,cried a little,but it was a wonderful visit. The doctor says she has 2-3 months,but unfortunately she cannot eat or even drink the Ensure they want her to drink.Only (maybe) an ounce a day. She hasn`t eaten in about 6 weeks. She is literally skin hanging off of bones.So I know she won`t last much longer with no nourishment.

Cancer sucks.
Sorry to hear the bad news. My wife died of cancer almost 2 years ago and it's not a pretty way to go. In the province where I live there have been 1,700 Covid deaths in 2 years. In the same 2 years we have over 6,000 cancer deaths of various types of cancer. You never hear this because Covid has become a media "darling." You never hear about cancer on the media much. Guess it is not news worthy!
 
very sorry to hear this.


Our friend Dennis lost either 2 or 3 relatives within the space of a single year. He became so distraught that it began to affect his health. He got shingles and a very serious case of it. At one point he was in some danger of losing his eyesight.

If you find yourself having real problems with stress related to this, you really might want to consider taking a few counseling sessions.

That kind of powerful loss can really cause so much stress that your immune system actually suffers.

take care now.
 
Sorry to hear your sad news, I can't imaging how you're feeling after losing such close family and now your sister's life is nearing the end. Very good you were able to spend a bit of time with her, and at least she's home now with her husband and dogs. You and your family are in my thoughts. Cancer does suck, it took my sister in her early 40s, terrible way to go. :(
 


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