Thank you so much for making me aware that, within a group, people can still have different opinions. You give a little hope that things will work out without recruiting our young into a war that should not be happening.
You didn't say how old your sons are. If they are in school, you need to talk with the principal and see if the school is sending military recruiters' children's names and addresses. The "No Child Left Behind Act" required schools to do that, and I don't know if it is still being done. If they still do that, a written letter from a parent is supposed to prevent that from happening.