I am not responsible !

[Bellbird]

Why is it that people (some) can't or won't admit to being held accountable for anything they say or do even when it is staring them in the face or have their words repeated to them.
These days I just shake my head and walk away, but.

 

[JonSR77]

Why is it that people (some) can't or won't admit to being held accountable for anything they say or do even when it is staring them in the face or have their words repeated to them.
These days I just shake my head and walk away, but.

I have relatives who do that. Endlessly frustrating and annoying.

Frankly, I would be very very very cautious in interacting with people who do that.

I think it is a sign of a narcissistic personality disorder, or other serious mental health issue.

My two people have done incredibly abusive things.

 

[hollydolly]

It's even worse on forums... people think they can say what they want without consequences...well I have news for them...

 

[grahamg]

Why is it that people (some) can't or won't admit to being held accountable for anything they say or do even when it is staring them in the face or have their words repeated to them.
These days I just shake my head and walk away, but.

A psychologist could probably explain it, but its just as annoying as you suggest I agree, though there may be no cure, (if the behaviour is so ingrained!).

 

[GoneFishin]

 

[grahamg]

Just one more thought, I'd guess we all have "blind spots" in our make up, (where something we don't wish to admit to ourselves maybe lurks!).
Through work I met a guy who denied stealing right up until irrefutable proof was shown to him, then he became crestfallen, so you had to feel a little sorry for the tea leaf, (what he stole was so insignificant it was pathetis though as it was at the accommodation paid for by the company it had to be taken seriously).
Another guy denied failing to come into work one weekend, even though there was CCTV footage proving this, and yet his lame excuse was a classic:"In my mind I did attend work on Sunday"!

 

[Pinky]

I have a close relative that has this characteristic. It stems, I believe, from childhood recollections that have somehow been twisted to meet their agenda. Can't argue with people like that.

 

[Murrmurr]

Narcissism? That's my guess. That's Paxton's mom. She's abusive, foul, vindictive, and a drug-addict, but it's everyone else's fault that her relationship with her kids is broken.

 

[Lawrence]

I believe that the " I am not responsible " response is just human nature and everyone does it at one time or others. I also think that one persons viewpoint about what happend is different than another persons viewpoint.

 

[Paco Dennis]

Being caught red handed is one thing, denying what you said/wrote something, can be complicated. We all process information differently and so the context is different also. That is where most denials and arguments come from.

 

[hollydolly]

My estranged husband is very like the above ...doesn't matter what he does wrong...it was and is always caused by someone else...

if he hired a car and ran over an American sitting at a street cafe in Texas, it wouldn't be his fault.. it would be the person who suggested he might visit the USA ..or the person who suggested he hire a car.. or the person he killed, for being at the cafe at the wrong time of day

 

[Tish]

I have no idea, perhaps if they believe enough in their own lies, they may think it will absolve them.

 

[Paco Dennis]

The Depp vs Heard trial was all about this stuff. Have you ever disagreed with Judge Judy's decisions?

Interesting stat....approx. 5% of incarcerated people are innocent.! That is a trial by jury.

 

[Blessed]

I have a couple of people in my life. (family) I have just learned to let crazy be crazy. Never argue with them, not worth the stress it creates.

 

[Jules]

A friend never did anything wrong. It was always someone or something else’s fault. She pulled in our drive, a hit a rock when she backed out. It was the rock’s fault.

 

[carouselsilver]

I remember when I strained my back and the pain was unbearable. I went to a walk in clinic, accompanied by my husband and when the tech came in, I explained that I had injured my back and wanted an injection of Toradol. She got huffy and proudly announced, "We don't do that here." I could tell that she didn't know what she was talking about, but decided not to argue with her. She also said she would ask the doctor, but was pretty sure he wouldn't do it either.

It was pretty funny when she came back with a red face and proceeded to get the injection ready. Why was this a big deal? Toradol is an NSAID and there is no reason why a walk in clinic couldn't do this. Perhaps because she assumed it was an opioid. Really, a tech should know her drugs.

 

[Alligatorob]

Why is it that people (some) can't or won't admit to being held accountable for anything

I think that is a fairly common human trait. Lots of our leaders are that way, how many times have you ever heard a politician admit being in the wrong?

I, of course, do not have the problem. If ever I were in the wrong I would be the first to admit it.

So far its only been once, I was too quick to admit to being wrong when it turned out I was actually right!

 

[Paco Dennis]

Well, it is conclusive. People are not accountable for lying, stealing, cheating, killing, and all the bad things people do. It is sin that dwells in us. This is what the Bible says...

Romans 7:17

…16And if I do what I do not want to do, I admit that the law is good. 17 In that case, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it. 18I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my flesh; for I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out.…

 

[Remy]

Personality disorders. Their minds are literally mind boggling. Believe me, I know.

 

[chic]

It's a cat trait too. Cats never do anything wrong. Stuff just happens.

 

[dobielvr]

Personality disorders. Their minds are literally mind boggling. Believe me, I know.

Don't even try with them...

 

[Nathan]

Interesting stat....approx. 5% of incarcerated people are innocent.! That is a trial by jury.

Sounds about right. Some personal observations:
Inmates in jail: "I'm innocent!"
Inmates in prison: "yea, I had to cop a plea."

 

[Shalimar]

Re the never wrong types. Gaslighting is often their go to. Unless they are a cat. Cats just don’t care. Being Divine, (in their minds, at least,) human rules don’t apply. Lol.

 

[Packerjohn]

In the city where I live they keep bragging about the multi-million dollar museum of "Human Rights" they built. I am waiting for them to build the "Museum of Human Responsibility" but I got a feeling that I will long dead and gone for anyone even thinks there should be one.

In my country, if a lazy and shiftless student doesn't want to work in school, it is not his/her fault. No Never! IT'S ALWAYS THE FAULT OF THE TEACHER! If you ask me, our society is badly regressing where the stupid rule over everyone.

 

[Judycat]

I usually hear that from people who really are supposed to be responsible. People who sell me their crap or offer a service, professionals and their staff. It's like accepted behavior anymore. They have lawyers to defend their lack of responsibility too. Great.