I am so wonderful, (a thread about egoes)

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Why having a big ego isn't always a bad thing: Executive coach Liz Bentley

https://www.nbcnews.com/know-your-v...-isn-t-always-bad-thing-executive-ncna1104591

Ego is defined as a person’s sense of self-importance. Sometimes, an ego can be useful. Bentley told Brzezinski that ego can be responsible for giving people confidence in challenging situations.

“It gives us the ability to push and do things we’re scared of,” Bentley said.

One study found that healthy doses of ego directly feed into your will power. (Break)

An ego can also help you stay resilient when things go wrong, according to Bentley. When deployed properly, an ego can also help us grow.

“The other thing the ego does for us is give us vulnerability and allows us to say ‘I’m sorry, it’s my fault,’” said Bentley. “It allows us to get into something and say ‘I’m scared. I’m fearful. I don’t know if I have all the right information. I think I need to learn more’ and all those things that allow us to be vulnerable in order to grow.”

An unhealthy ego, however, can turn into arrogance, Bentley said.

“We like when people are confident, we don’t like when people are arrogant, male or female,” said Bentley. “Arrogance can be a problem for men and women, but men get away with it a lot more than when do.”

While the ego can yield positive results, an unhealthy ego can thrust all of that positivity into reverse. One study found that over-exerting your ego can lead to exhaustion, and can deplete your willpower to stick to healthy habits. Instead of vulnerability, people with unhealthy egos experience fear and defensiveness.

“The ego works against us is when it pushes us into fear and scarcity,” said Bentley. “When it pushes us into fear and scarcity, we do things that are bad for ourselves and for everyone else. That’s where we lack resilience. It shuts down vulnerability.”
 

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I was sorry to hear that the Queen won't be attending. I can't see anything coming out of Cop26 unfortunately. I heard that it is 26 years since climate talks began. Ho Hum.
 
I was sorry to hear that the Queen won't be attending. I can't see anything coming out of Cop26 unfortunately. I heard that it is 26 years since climate talks began. Ho Hum.
Thank you for you comments, (as some may have noticed, I thought I'd posted the comment you responded to on another thread,...., Alzheimers and Dementia my only excuses!). (y):giggle:
 
I don't go around thinking how wonderful I am but week before last I got a call from a fellow senior center member asking what's going on...why haven't I been at the center. I'd stopped going because their "new" transport agency (county) is terrible...unreliable and at times I actually felt unsafe. Anyway, I was the one who mostly led the exercising. I made it fun and interesting...somewhat like Zumba. I played all kinds of music and the ladies (and one older gentleman) loved it.

So she told me that everyone's been asking about me and they miss me so much. She said they love my energy and the fun I brought to the sessions, they need me to come back and would be so honored if I would come back!! Then to top it off, she told me they've been exercising to my CD since I've been gone (I had given everyone who has a CD player my CD before [as it turned out] was to be my last week). I was pleasantly surprised but also quite humbled. I told her about the transportation issue; she was shocked and understood. I said I'll see if my grandson can take me sometimes. Boy, it sure is nice to be loved and appreciated (by other than family and friends)!
@Pecos
 


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