I feel worn and it is difficult to compartmentalise

Prepare yourself Shali, I'm sending a great big hug, a wink and my warmest smile, we're all rooting for you, lass. 🤗 ;) ☺
 

Shali--I really have no words of comfort but I know you must be devastated by your recent loss. Please put yourself first and allow the grief to flow. My best wishes to you, and I wish I had words to make it better. Take for yourself a bit of that kindness you always have for others.
 
@Shalimar I can understand the though times you are having. Grief sucks, and it can be so tough to get back to "normal", whatever that is. NOW is our new normal, and there is no denying that.
If you feel you need to step away from the new contract, and take some "me" time, then that is what you need to do. For your well being, as well as for those you serve. You will do yourself a favor to take some time off if you are able to.
When you are ready to return to the work, then you will know.
If there is a support group available to help you through your emotions, then use it. But, as others have said, we are here for you. But, understand that real life support may be what you need as well.
It is a great start you are understanding and identifying your feelings. Stay strong.
 
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I'm inclined to agree with Warrigal. Like in the song, you have to know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em. If you burn out, who's there for you? You need you!
 
Shalimar said:
I think I erred in trying to take on a demanding profile case while still maintaining much of my client load. Hopefully I will now be able to concentrate on my profiling
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Sounds very sensible! Glad you've been able to identify and take action. We all need our walls to some extent, but I know from personal experience that if I try to sooth away or push back emotional pain that's persistent, it does no good. It's kind of like running an elevated temperature for a physical issue. Sometimes that's mild and you can take a an OTC antifebrile med or drink some willow bark tea; when that doesn't help after awhile you need help to identify the cause and time to rest and heal.

Love this Langston Hughes poem especially since several posters have mentioned that you're dealing with a loss.

Island - Langston Hughes

Wave of sorrow,
Do not drown me now:

I see the island
Still ahead somehow.

I see the island
And its sands are fair:

Wave of sorrow,
Take me there.
 
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Do your best and please pace yourself. Be sure to take plenty of ME time as needed and best luck to you. 🙂
 

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